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"lm" wrote in message "confused" wrote: I don't mistreat my husband and I do compliment him, if I didn't why would he say he was 90% happy with our relationship? Maybe because he doesn't know you're ****ing someone else? LOL Dennis |
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"Cele" wrote in message Lacking a dishwasher, I accomplished much the same thing by buying one of those scrubbers that you fill with dish soap, and a plant spray bottle that I filled with dishsoap and water. The deal here is, you have to wash your own dishes as you use them. She who cooks, does not have to wash cooking dishes, and she who eats but does not cook, washes. Same applied to my marraige. Cooking was about 50/50 hence only half the washing up. I have always had a dishwasher in the house. I do it all now, as it only takes a minute to load or empty. I don't see what everyone is grumbling about. I like your improvisations though. Dennis |
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"confused" Am I crazy? What should I do? Leave the kids with their father, he is obviously far more responsible than you. Dennis |
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Big Snip
Maybe I am going through a mid-life crisis but I feel like an old woman. Our sex life has been bad almost since the start of our relationship but that didn't seem to matter as we always enjoyed each other's company. 1) Sex doesn't define the relationship, the people do. Some people believe that sex determines the compatibility between a couple. Some don't. If you're one of those who thinks it does, then it was a warning sign from the beginning. I slept with someone else a couple of weeks ago and it was fantastic. He was 24 and we were at it for hours, he made me excited and I've not been able to stop thinking about him. I told this guy I was married and that it was a one night stand, I don't have any intention of seeing him again but it's made me feel like a sexual being again. It should have stopped IMMEDIATELY once you told him you were married. You should have been the more mature person. While I"m not an advocate for extramarital affairs (I suspected that my ex used to have them all the time when he was constantly accusing me of them!) I do understand that sometimes they happen. it's a choice. You chose to have an affair, no matter how short or long it was or is, it's still an affair and it's still dishonest. Dishonesty is a key to destroying a relationship. He seemed really keen on me and said really nice things, not only that but we were talking about things and he was nice to spend time with. He's a player! He's also a kid! I don't know how old you are. I don't want to go down the road of cheating on my husband Too Late. as I've never done this before but I set out to have sex that night to prove to myself that I could have good sex - and I did! Maybe I'm reading too much into this but doesn't this seem really superficial??? I don't feel sexually attracted to him anymore although I love him. Makes no sense but ok. Also he works a lot and is always in a bad mood. According to him he is 90% happy with our relationship and this makes me feel guilty. I married him for all the right reasons and we have 2 lovely kids (who are hard work). RED FLAG!!! I couldn't think of a better father, we wanted the kids and they are loved by both of us. As they should be. They're the innocent victims here of your unfaithfulness and your husband's obvious unhappiness with the relationship. I feel as though I cannot guarantee my faithfulness now that I have done it once and he doesn't deserve that. I am also scared of being a single parent because I don't know anyone else in this situation, what would I do? How would I cope? I seem to have more time for the kids when he is not around so maybe they would be better off. you can't *guarantee* faithfulness??? I won't say anything further.... Is it better to stay in this marriage and have flings on the side hoping that it's just a phase? or should we split up and go our seperate ways? Why do you insist on victimizing your kids? And if they were to stay with you, are you going to continue to victimize them? When I say "victimize" I mean, when you cheat, it hurts them because they see that you don't love their daddy. and they think that they're the cause. This shouldn't be about you, this should be about them and how NOT to hurt them! This has taken a couple of days to reply to as I can only type in very short bursts. When I began my reply, I thought that I might get flamed for replying to a troll. So I figured that if I just say my piece and then ignore this as a troll, I'd be ok because it'd give me a chance to vent a little. I understand that many single parents are single parents not through any choice of their own, this person is obviously asking for it. I feel sorry for the kids. |
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message ... "confused" wrote in message ... Joelle, with your attitude it's no wonder your a single parent. What man could put up with you? and no I won't go away because not everyone has your dismissive attitude. I came her with a real problem hoping to get some advice from people who are in the situation of being a single parent. I don't mistreat my husband and I do compliment him, if I didn't why would he say he was 90% happy with our relationship? Selfish clueless bitch................cheaating on you spouse IS mistreating him. Sheesh. LMAO trust Paul to point out the obvious. I hope he finds out and takes the children away from HER. Christine |
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On Fri, 27 Aug 2004 18:40:58 +0100, "denanson" Dennis@Large .ie
wrote: "Cele" wrote in message Lacking a dishwasher, I accomplished much the same thing by buying one of those scrubbers that you fill with dish soap, and a plant spray bottle that I filled with dishsoap and water. The deal here is, you have to wash your own dishes as you use them. She who cooks, does not have to wash cooking dishes, and she who eats but does not cook, washes. Same applied to my marraige. Cooking was about 50/50 hence only half the washing up. I have always had a dishwasher in the house. I do it all now, as it only takes a minute to load or empty. I don't see what everyone is grumbling about. I like your improvisations though. Dennis I've had a dishwasher maybe 40% of the time. Don't have one now, and haven't had since....um....whew. I guess it's less than 40%. Now that I think about it the last dishwasher we had was in '94, and I divorced in '92. So there you go. I rarely have one. But we're apartment hunting now, and it's on the list. Won't die if we don't get one though. THose scrubber things are great. But now that D's moved out and T's the only one left and she has an actual life, the dishes are fewer and fewer. I guess if I want to do some dishes I'll have to invite someone over or something. Cele |
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"confused" wrote in message ... I'm 30 with 2 kids aged 5 and 2. I've been with my partner for 11 years, married for 7. Maybe I am going through a mid-life crisis but I feel like an old woman. Our sex life has been bad almost since the start of our relationship but that didn't seem to matter as we always enjoyed each other's company. Now we have the kids it seems more important somehow. snip Save the drama for yo mamma...this is a SINGLE parent group. V |
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there is no bigger shame for a man, than to
know that his some other man had sex with his wife. Well that's just stupid. That shame belongs to his wife, not him. There should be no greater shame for a man than that he abandon his children. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle |
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"Joelle" wrote in message ... there is no bigger shame for a man, than to know that his some other man had sex with his wife. Well that's just stupid. That shame belongs to his wife, not him. There should be no greater shame for a man than that he abandon his children. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle I happen to agree with him. It's a horrible feeling to find out you've been cheated on and you tend to internalize that experience... therefore it becomes your shame, does it not? Regardless, I happened to like his post. Christine |
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