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14 yo strange behavior. Help!
My 14 year old step-daughter has started some very puzzling behavior over the
last few months. Her mother lets her stay up as late as she wants to and then lets her sleep as late as she needs to. Sometimes she doesn't get out of bed until afternoon. So then related to that, she sometimes goes and lies down in her bed, no music or tv or books or anything, and just stays there for hours. tonight, she went up to her room after dinner and stayed there in the dark with her glasses on, apparently doing nothing, fully clothed, until 10 pm (when I finally went in to check on her). She just popped up and told me that she wasn't doing anything....just lying in bed. she says that everything is okay, and she doesn't seem depressed or anything. Is this abnormal, or do all 14 year olds do this? Should we be worried? Amy mom to Patricia 5-12-99 Christina 3-21-03 |
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14 yo strange behavior. Help!
"AmyAmy4734" wrote in message ... My 14 year old step-daughter has started some very puzzling behavior over the last few months. Her mother lets her stay up as late as she wants to and then lets her sleep as late as she needs to. Sometimes she doesn't get out of bed until afternoon. This is normal. The biological clocks of teens switch so they stay up late and stay in bed late. So then related to that, she sometimes goes and lies down in her bed, no music or tv or books or anything, and just stays there for hours. tonight, she went up to her room after dinner and stayed there in the dark with her glasses on, apparently doing nothing, fully clothed, until 10 pm (when I finally went in to check on her). She just popped up and told me that she wasn't doing anything....just lying in bed. she says that everything is okay, and she doesn't seem depressed or anything. Is this abnormal, or do all 14 year olds do this? Not necessarily and no. Should we be worried? What does she do when she is not doing this? Take drugs? Visit her friends and go to movies and stuff? Does she have lots of friends? I think I would always be concerned about her, but I would watch for other signs, like changes in friends, decreases in grades, changes in appatite, and talk to her doctor if you have continued concerns. Jeff Amy mom to Patricia 5-12-99 Christina 3-21-03 |
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14 yo strange behavior. Help!
She really doesn't have friends, but she enjoys keeping busy at home with
family. She really likes animals, and she has a lot of pets at her mom's house. She doesn't seem depressed at all, though I know that her mom is mercurial at best and demands that the kids keep secrets from us. Sometimes, it seems like lying in bed or sleeping a lot is how she copes with her problems. Her brother copes by eating too much. This would worry me. When there are *family secrets* there is often something going on that children cannot cope with. Depression is a real possibility with that as are other problems. Is the divorce recent? That could be what is bothering her and she may need someone to talk to who won't judge what *side* she is taking between mom and dad. The divorce was finalized about 8 years ago. At least she isn't partying with friends or doing drugs. There is nothing wrong with partying with friends (given that they don't do drugs) Sorry, I should have been more specific. When I was younger, "partying" implied alcohol. I am wondering if she feels lonely and friendless since you say she has no friends. Did she move recently so that she doesn't know people near her current home? She has her classmates from school, but she really isn't close to any of them. She doesn't seem to bond well to others, possibly a side-effect of Asperger's Syndrome. Yes, you may be on to something about the "secrets." Mostly, it involves the kids being ordered by their mother not to ever tell us what happens over at the mother's house. (That is a whole other can of worms) I really appreciate everyone who is helping me think through this. I think it is time that we talked to the kids' counselor again. Amy mom to Patricia 5-12-99 Christina 3-21-03 |
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