13 month old wont sleep

My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over and
over all night. What are we doing wrong?

At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or larger
bed?

stryped wrote:
My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over and
over all night. What are we doing wrong?

Hard to say. Has he always done this? All kids (and adults)
go through sleep cycles where they periodically wake up or come close
to waking up in the night. It is possible that you have trained him
to be able to get back to sleep only with rocking. So, when he cycles
toward wakefulness at night (as is perfectly normal) he has to cry for
you to come in and rock him in order to be able to get to sleep. You
may be able to help teach him some other ways to get to sleep so that
he can do it on his own.

At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or larger
bed?

Usually around 2 years old for us.

Best wishes,
Ericka

Is he really waking up? My 14 1/2 month old will sometimes cry out in her
sleep, but not really be awake. If I don't pick her up (but do go in to make
sure she is OK.), she settles pretty quickly. If I pick her up and try to
rock her, it takes longer because she does wake up completely and then wants
to be rocked and cuddled back to sleep. Usually with Alli if I just make
sure she's not in an uncomfortable position, maybe make sure she's got her
blanket and her stuffed dragon, and pat her back a bit, she's fine.

--
Donna DeVore Metler
Orff Music Specialist/Kindermusik
Mother to Angel Brian Anthony 1/1/2002, 22 weeks, severe PE/HELLP
And Allison Joy, 11/25/04 (35 weeks, PIH, Pre-term labor)

"stryped" wrote in message
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My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over and
over all night. What are we doing wrong?

Is this something that just started? If so, I'd definitly suspect an ear
infection. If it's been going on for a while I don't really have all that
much advice other than maybe bring him into bed with you, sorry.

At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or larger
bed?

Age 3. IMO, a 13 month old is too young to be in a bed. I've heard of kids
as young as 16 months in beds, but I don't really know how that happens. My
15 month old would be all over the place and couldn't understand that she
had to stay there.

JennP.

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"stryped" wrote in message
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My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over and
over all night. What are we doing wrong?

Is this something that just started? If so, I'd definitly suspect an ear
infection. If it's been going on for a while I don't really have all that
much advice other than maybe bring him into bed with you, sorry.

At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or larger
bed?

Age 3. IMO, a 13 month old is too young to be in a bed. I've heard of kids
as young as 16 months in beds, but I don't really know how that happens.
My
15 month old would be all over the place and couldn't understand that she
had to stay there.
I've known a few very young children in beds. I know of one 9 month who
ended up in a bed due to cot falling apart :-) The mother said it was easy
because they weren't moving and so climbing out wasn't an issue. The other
under 1yos in a bed have all been due to climbing out of the cot, so the bed
was the best of two bad situations!
Mine have both been in a cot until over 2. #1 moved at 2.5 (because the
bttom of the cot fell out when she was sleeping-she didn't wake up, just we
found her underneath) and #2 will move shortly.
Debbie

stryped wrote:
[snip]
At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or larger
bed?

With my three, one of them was 15mo, the other two were 18mo. We didn't
have problems with them getting up in thenight.

--
Penny Gaines
UK mum to three

Stephanie wrote:

What is the perceived relationship between crying and switching beds? All
the folks I know, which is a sample size of like 5, who transitioned before
3 spent all their time bringing their kids back to their beds.

FWIW, all of mine transitioned to beds between 18 and 24ish
months, and I didn't spend any time bringing them back to their
beds. Just wasn't an issue.

Best wishes,
Ericka

On Tue, 14 Feb 2006 13:59:35 -0500, "JennP"
wrote:

Age 3. IMO, a 13 month old is too young to be in a bed. I've heard of kids
as young as 16 months in beds, but I don't really know how that happens. My
15 month old would be all over the place and couldn't understand that she
had to stay there.

I didn't put my kids into beds until they were 3, but having worked in
daycare, I know that kids nap on cots pretty well for naps and my
dgd and dgs are younger, but sleep well in beds, dgs (2) for naps,
dgd (3.5) for both nighttime and naps. Dgd was in a bed at around
18 months, I think.


--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits

stryped wrote:
My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over and
over all night. What are we doing wrong?

Some babies/toddlers cry when they wake, for no other reason than that is
how they are as far as I can tell. At least one of my children did that
until he was two but he didn't night-wake very often from about 12 months
onwards. Another woke in the night at least once every night until he was
well over two and would call out to us when he was still in his cot or come
through and climb into our bed when he was in a bed.


At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or
larger bed?

At about 22 months for the eldest because we wanted about a month of time
between moving him to a big bed and moving his little sister from the
bassinette to the cot and at around 2.5 for the two younger children. It
made no difference to whether they woke or not and all three came through to
us regularly until they were over 5 years old. We would let them stay for a
few minutes until they felt comforted and them put them back in their own
beds.(It's been a very long time since DS15 made the trip so it does end
eventually!)

If you've made sure your son isn't cold (mine would wake more often as
summer turned into autumn) and he isn't ill then you either have to grin and
bear the waking or attempt to train him out of it. We were always too soft
(and not desperate enough) to try the crying-it-out technique but it seems
to work very well for some families.

Tai

Stephanie wrote:
"stryped" wrote in message
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My 13 year old son crys at night. One of us gets up and rocks him to
sleep. We put him back in his crib. A few hours later sometimes
immediately he gets up crying again. This process is repeated over
and over all night. What are we doing wrong?

At what age did you transfer you baby from a crib to a todler or
larger bed?


What is the perceived relationship between crying and switching beds?
All the folks I know, which is a sample size of like 5, who
transitioned before 3 spent all their time bringing their kids back
to their beds. I would suspect that if you are looking to comfort him
prone, maybe you could bring him into your bed?

Mine all fit that pattern but DS5, who regularly comes through when he wakes
now, didn't for over a year from 2.5. We don't know if he just didn't wake
up or that it eventually occurred to him he *could* come and climb into our
bed. And it's not something we can get irritated about because it's clearly
a need he has to be close to us and seek reassurance. He'll often mention he
had a bad dream but it might just be an excuse that he picked up from us
asking him if had.

Oh well, it'll pass eventually and then I'll suddenly realise it's been 6
months of no-show and I'll feel a little sad over the end of that chapter!

Tai