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14 months and still gets up atleast 4-5 times at night
hi,I have a wonderful ,happy go lucky kid who has recently started
going to a day care centre (with my maid).Since birth,she would get up atleast 4-5 times at night and begin to cry.Invariably,I strating feeding her and now it has become a never to leave habit.The more I avoid feeding her,the crying prolongs endlessly.no..i do not switch on the lights at all.I usually take her in my arms and try to pat her on my shoulders...she would houl....Please help!! |
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14 months and still gets up atleast 4-5 times at night
"krittika" wrote in message ups.com... hi,I have a wonderful ,happy go lucky kid who has recently started going to a day care centre (with my maid).Since birth,she would get up atleast 4-5 times at night and begin to cry.Invariably,I strating feeding her and now it has become a never to leave habit.The more I avoid feeding her,the crying prolongs endlessly.no..i do not switch on the lights at all.I usually take her in my arms and try to pat her on my shoulders...she would houl....Please help!! I had some success by teaching first teaching my son (he was 19mos) to unlatch when I asked. I'd say 'finish up' and give him a few seconds to unlatch or I would do it for him. I did that during the day when he was about ready to be done anyway. Then I started shortening each night nursing session by asking him to 'finish up'. If he didn't unlatch I did it for him. I was fairly anxious for a complete night weaning so I just kept shortening them until they were nearly gone and then I started eliminating them one by one. I was co-sleeping with him so he continued to wake up and ask to nurse for a really long time. He went back to sleep without much fuss though when I said no. If you have a dh to help I think it would be easier. Mine didn't :-P. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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14 months and still gets up atleast 4-5 times at night
"krittika" ) writes:
hi,I have a wonderful ,happy go lucky kid who has recently started going to a day care centre (with my maid).Since birth,she would get up atleast 4-5 times at night and begin to cry.Invariably,I strating feeding her and now it has become a never to leave habit.The more I avoid feeding her,the crying prolongs endlessly.no..i do not switch on the lights at all.I usually take her in my arms and try to pat her on my shoulders...she would houl....Please help!! One solution is to sleep in the same bed with the child and nurse lying down. Nursing lying down can be almost as restful for the mother as sleeping. Some mothers can sleep and nurse at the same time. Another idea is to get the child accustomed to being alone while falling asleep. I think this has to be done gradually and with love, so that the child can feel calm while alone. Maybe some children are not going to feel calm while alone no matter what you do. children are instinctively afraid of the dark, afraid of being alone and afraid of falling asleep alone. These instincts saved our ancestors from being eaten by predators. Anyway, my theory is that if a child falls asleep with a parent in the room and later wakes to find se's alone, se will feel that something is wrong and cry. But if the child is taught that it's normal routine to fall asleep alone, then if the child later wakes up in a room alone, se might stay quietly lying there and fall asleep again, just like at bedtime. (Or, se might still cry.) Eventually the child only half-wakes up and later doesn't bother waking. Maybe some children have terrible nightmares or a very strong instinct of being afraid of being alone, and maybe with some of these children it's not worthwhile trying to teach them to sleep alone until they're a bit older. Keeping their daytime life less stressful may also help -- e.g. not yelling at them, not letting other kids or anyone hit them or grab toys from them, etc. so they don't have as many things to have nightmares about. I think it takes many days or months to get over stressful incidents. Another idea is to hold and comfort the child but not nurse or feed the child. Some children may really need nourishment in the middle of the night. Others may be accustomed to nursing around bedtime and just feel that it's the normal reassuring thing to do in order to be able to fall asleep. They may be able to learn a different habit but it may be very difficult. I think it's good to make changes gradually, as another poster described. Once a child learns to fall asleep again after being held or hugged by a parent but not fed, I think they tend to naturally progress to not crying or calling for the parent in the middle of the night as often -- maybe only when they have a really bad dream. You can also try to teach the child not to cry or call for the parent but to quietly walk into the parent's room. Again, once this is the routine the child may do it less often -- if it wasn't a very bad dream, the child may sometimes just fall asleep again rather than going to the effort of getting up, whereas if they could cry or call and have the parent come they would easily do that. This may apply more to older children e.g. around age 3 or 4 and up. |
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