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Frustrated Father
Hello Everyone,
Here is my problem. My mother and my wife don't get along. Big Surprise !! Huh!! Anyways, my mother is getting up there in age and she recently asked me to drive her 700 miles to see her mom which of course is also my grandmother. You may be thinking so where is the real problem. My wife is 35 weeks pregnant. She is experiencing some complications like high blood pressure and anemia. She is worried that I am not going to be there for the birth of my second child with her. I have tried to assure her that nothing is going to happen in the 3 days that I will be gone but of course I am not absolutely positive about that. So my big question to all of you, is should I go on this trip (which is only 3 days) or should I not go? Please I would love your honest opinions. |
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Frustrated Father
Hi there, I am pleased to hear that you care enough to ask others' opinions
before going ahead with either plan, it is always good to hear about a caring husband trying to do what's best. My opinion, (as a very pregnant woman who has also had some difficulties), is that you would be much more appreciated at home comforting and supporting your wife during the final weeks of her pregnancy and if she goes into labour, her birth. Your mother shouldn't have asked you to go away with her so late in your wife's pregnancy anyway. It sounds like she is in a bit of a power struggle with your wife for your attention. However, your wife really needs you right now, and your emotional support to a woman with hormones racing through her body would be most helpful. Like the previous poster said, perhaps you can suggest to your mum that you rebook the trip when your new baby has arrived and a routine has been established. Good luck! -Alicia "Ebook Profits Center" wrote in message thlink.net... Hello Everyone, Here is my problem. My mother and my wife don't get along. Big Surprise !! Huh!! Anyways, my mother is getting up there in age and she recently asked me to drive her 700 miles to see her mom which of course is also my grandmother. You may be thinking so where is the real problem. My wife is 35 weeks pregnant. She is experiencing some complications like high blood pressure and anemia. She is worried that I am not going to be there for the birth of my second child with her. I have tried to assure her that nothing is going to happen in the 3 days that I will be gone but of course I am not absolutely positive about that. So my big question to all of you, is should I go on this trip (which is only 3 days) or should I not go? Please I would love your honest opinions. |
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Frustrated Father
On Wed, 09 Jul 2003 03:15:41 GMT, "Ebook Profits Center"
wrote: So my big question to all of you, is should I go on this trip (which is only 3 days) or should I not go? Please I would love your honest opinions. As someone who went through what ended up as a complicated pregnancy, I wanted and needed my husband as support all the time. Given you don't know that nothing will happen in the three days you are gone (if you had asked us the night before I went into preterm labour we would have said everything was fine), I wouldn't go. With the problems your wife is having the stress of you going away most likely will not help her condition. Also ask yourself - if something did happen while you where away how would you feel able it? As another posters have suggested - see if you can move the visit a few weeks later (say 2/3 weeks after your wifes due date). If you can not get out of going (your grandmother is doing very poorly would be the only reason I would accept if I was your wife), take your firstborn with you, make sure your wife has a very strong support network (someone to come in and see her each and every day, someone she can call 24 hours a day is there is a problem who is also willing and able to drive her to hospital at the drop of a hat, etc). Di |
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Frustrated Father
I know if I was in your wife shoes I would be very stressed if my husband
left a month before my due date. I know of many women who went into labor a month before the due date. And I am sure the stress of you going away and wondering if your going to miss anything may isnt going to help her high blood pressure. I'd prioritze what is more important to you, making your mother happy (if she is not ill as the others have said) or missing your child's birth, or if she goes into the hospital while you are gone...... My two cents Sara 19 weeks "Ebook Profits Center" wrote in message thlink.net... Hello Everyone, Here is my problem. My mother and my wife don't get along. Big Surprise !! Huh!! Anyways, my mother is getting up there in age and she recently asked me to drive her 700 miles to see her mom which of course is also my grandmother. You may be thinking so where is the real problem. My wife is 35 weeks pregnant. She is experiencing some complications like high blood pressure and anemia. She is worried that I am not going to be there for the birth of my second child with her. I have tried to assure her that nothing is going to happen in the 3 days that I will be gone but of course I am not absolutely positive about that. So my big question to all of you, is should I go on this trip (which is only 3 days) or should I not go? Please I would love your honest opinions. |
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Frustrated Father
My wife is 35 weeks pregnant. She is experiencing some complications like
high blood pressure and anemia. She is worried that I am not going to be there for the birth of my second child with her. I have tried to assure her that nothing is going to happen in the 3 days that I will be gone but of course I am not absolutely positive about that. Hire a limo or private ambulance for your mom's long trip. Tell them you will be glad to go in 10 weeks, but not before 5 weeks. If your wife's blood pressure has any signs of turning pre-eclamptic, it can be a life-or-death emergency in a moment. Just a wife and mother of four (complications in 3 of the pregnancies) chiming in. Esther |
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Frustrated Father
"Ebook Profits Center" wrote in message thlink.net... Hello Everyone, Here is my problem. My mother and my wife don't get along. Big Surprise !! Huh!! Anyways, my mother is getting up there in age and she recently asked me to drive her 700 miles to see her mom which of course is also my grandmother. How long does it take in an aircraft... like maybe a couple of hours each way as opposed to about a day each way for you to drive it? Buy momma a plane ticket, sling her $100 to cover taxi fares etc and wish her luck. She'll have more time actually *with* her mother that way too. I'm not surprised your wife doesn't like her MIL, if MIL is all the time ordering you to do stuff she could perfectly organise for herself. |
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Frustrated Father
Don't go. As a husband and father your primary obligation is to your wife
and child. Nina "Ebook Profits Center" wrote in message thlink.net... Hello Everyone, Here is my problem. My mother and my wife don't get along. Big Surprise !! Huh!! Anyways, my mother is getting up there in age and she recently asked me to drive her 700 miles to see her mom which of course is also my grandmother. You may be thinking so where is the real problem. My wife is 35 weeks pregnant. She is experiencing some complications like high blood pressure and anemia. She is worried that I am not going to be there for the birth of my second child with her. I have tried to assure her that nothing is going to happen in the 3 days that I will be gone but of course I am not absolutely positive about that. So my big question to all of you, is should I go on this trip (which is only 3 days) or should I not go? Please I would love your honest opinions. |
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Frustrated Father
"Nina" wrote in message t... Don't go. As a husband and father your primary obligation is to your wife and child. Nina I like your style.. short and sweet and to the point. Wish *I* could be like that. It takes me 2 paragraphs to tell someone what time it is lol. -- LES! Daddie to Alegra Lee. May 25th 2003! "Daddie's Little Diva" before you reply to me via email, please remove your hat ourHat |
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Frustrated Father
"Ali's Daddie" wrote: "Nina" wrote: Don't go. As a husband and father your primary obligation is to your wife and child. Nina I like your style.. short and sweet and to the point. Wish *I* could be like that. It takes me 2 paragraphs to tell someone what time it is lol. I agree. My initial response was, if my husband left me even for 3 days at the end of my pregnancy, I would be very upset, hurt and scared. -- -Crystal Dreamer http://www.livin-it-up.net remove my shoes to reply edd December 31, 2003 |
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Frustrated Father
"Ali's Daddie" wrote in message ... "Nina" wrote in message t... Don't go. As a husband and father your primary obligation is to your wife and child. Nina I like your style.. short and sweet and to the point. Wish *I* could be like that. It takes me 2 paragraphs to tell someone what time it is lol. Thanks. I was tired, given adequate time and energy I can make anything into War and Peace! Nina |
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