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Hello everyone hope someone can help
I have 5 week old twins born 4 1/2 weks early and I'm breastfeeding. The problem is that from midnight to 7 or 8 am they want to be feeding constantly and then sleep all morning. I am wondering if it is possible to change their behaviour to sleeping a little more at night and feeding more during the day, however everything I've tried so far has been a complete failure. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not wanting 5 wk old babes to sleep through the night, but even if they went just 1 - 2 hours between feeds it would be easier than what's happening at the moment. For a while I worried that I wasn't producing enough milk and they weren't satisfied but they are putting on weight brilliantly so I am assured by the midwife/health visitor that this is not the problem. The health professionals only advice has been to give formula but I really want to breastfeed. They just say "oh, you've done well to breast feed premature babies for 5 weeks ...." etc but surely I can't be the only person b/feeding twins, they are making me feel like some king of freak for wanting to b/f twins in the first place. I really feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall with them at the moment. Nobody in the family can give me any advice as these are the first grandchildren for both my family and my DH, and both my mother and MIL formula fed. Nor am I saying formula feeding is wrong, I just don't want to give up breastfeeding for the sake of my sleep when the babies are obviously doing well on it. They seem to feed, fall asleep and then the minute you try and put them in a cot or moses basket or crib they wake, start screaming and want feeding again. Is this something that I just have to ride out or does anybody know how I can try and change it. Sorry this is so long but I really don't know where else to turn (having said that I feel better just getting it off my chest!). Ellie |
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Subject: rant plus need help (long - sorry) From: "Ellie" Date: Thu, Nov 13, 2003 10:38 PM Message-id: Hello everyone hope someone can help I have 5 week old twins born 4 1/2 weks early and I'm breastfeeding. The problem is that from midnight to 7 or 8 am they want to be feeding constantly and then sleep all morning. I am wondering if it is possible to change their behaviour to sleeping a little more at night and feeding more during the day, however everything I've tried so far has been a complete failure. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not wanting 5 wk old babes to sleep through the night, but even if they went just 1 - 2 hours between feeds it would be easier than what's happening at the moment. For a while I worried that I wasn't producing enough milk and they weren't satisfied but they are putting on weight brilliantly so I am assured by the midwife/health visitor that this is not the problem. The health professionals only advice has been to give formula but I really want to breastfeed. They just say "oh, you've done well to breast feed premature babies for 5 weeks ...." etc but surely I can't be the only person b/feeding twins, they are making me feel like some king of freak for wanting to b/f twins in the first place. I really feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall with them at the moment. Nobody in the family can give me any advice as these are the first grandchildren for both my family and my DH, and both my mother and MIL formula fed. Nor am I saying formula feeding is wrong, I just don't want to give up breastfeeding for the sake of my sleep when the babies are obviously doing well on it. They seem to feed, fall asleep and then the minute you try and put them in a cot or moses basket or crib they wake, start screaming and want feeding again. Is this something that I just have to ride out or does anybody know how I can try and change it. Sorry this is so long but I really don't know where else to turn (having said that I feel better just getting it off my chest!). Ellie My only suggestion would be to try pacifiers if you have not already. They might just need the comfort of sucking and not always the food. But I know some people are very opposed to their use. Just an idea though. Lori |
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One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and
maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. Lori |
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One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and
maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. Lori |
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One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and
maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. I don't see this as a feeding problem at all, really, it's just day and night confusion like lots of babies have, only a little more severe, and worse to handle because there are two babies. I'd use extra hands to take the babies out so mom can nap. Plus maybe get up for the morning at five or something, so that there is a pattern of getting *up* and then having a nap *later*, even if it's been preceded by wee-hours hell. Then put the babies down for a nap a little later, as late as you can persuade them. Then try to move the getting-up time later. This is REALLY HARD to do when you are really tired yourself, which is why finding *some* way to get naps for the adults in is a good idea. I don't know if going-to-bed rituals really work with tiny babies (though swaddling can help), but routines, as in doing the same thing every day in the same order, worked well with mine. You can sometimes manage to get the *order* the way you want it and then move the *time*. --Helen |
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One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and
maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. I don't see this as a feeding problem at all, really, it's just day and night confusion like lots of babies have, only a little more severe, and worse to handle because there are two babies. I'd use extra hands to take the babies out so mom can nap. Plus maybe get up for the morning at five or something, so that there is a pattern of getting *up* and then having a nap *later*, even if it's been preceded by wee-hours hell. Then put the babies down for a nap a little later, as late as you can persuade them. Then try to move the getting-up time later. This is REALLY HARD to do when you are really tired yourself, which is why finding *some* way to get naps for the adults in is a good idea. I don't know if going-to-bed rituals really work with tiny babies (though swaddling can help), but routines, as in doing the same thing every day in the same order, worked well with mine. You can sometimes manage to get the *order* the way you want it and then move the *time*. --Helen |
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This sounds like a good idea, going to give it a go, I certainly don't mind
them feeding constantly but it would be easier during the day! I can handle being tired for a few more days to see if we can get into a pattern. Thanks for the advice Ellie "H Schinske" wrote in message ... One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. I don't see this as a feeding problem at all, really, it's just day and night confusion like lots of babies have, only a little more severe, and worse to handle because there are two babies. I'd use extra hands to take the babies out so mom can nap. Plus maybe get up for the morning at five or something, so that there is a pattern of getting *up* and then having a nap *later*, even if it's been preceded by wee-hours hell. Then put the babies down for a nap a little later, as late as you can persuade them. Then try to move the getting-up time later. This is REALLY HARD to do when you are really tired yourself, which is why finding *some* way to get naps for the adults in is a good idea. I don't know if going-to-bed rituals really work with tiny babies (though swaddling can help), but routines, as in doing the same thing every day in the same order, worked well with mine. You can sometimes manage to get the *order* the way you want it and then move the *time*. --Helen |
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This sounds like a good idea, going to give it a go, I certainly don't mind
them feeding constantly but it would be easier during the day! I can handle being tired for a few more days to see if we can get into a pattern. Thanks for the advice Ellie "H Schinske" wrote in message ... One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. I don't see this as a feeding problem at all, really, it's just day and night confusion like lots of babies have, only a little more severe, and worse to handle because there are two babies. I'd use extra hands to take the babies out so mom can nap. Plus maybe get up for the morning at five or something, so that there is a pattern of getting *up* and then having a nap *later*, even if it's been preceded by wee-hours hell. Then put the babies down for a nap a little later, as late as you can persuade them. Then try to move the getting-up time later. This is REALLY HARD to do when you are really tired yourself, which is why finding *some* way to get naps for the adults in is a good idea. I don't know if going-to-bed rituals really work with tiny babies (though swaddling can help), but routines, as in doing the same thing every day in the same order, worked well with mine. You can sometimes manage to get the *order* the way you want it and then move the *time*. --Helen |
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I agree with Helen that you just need to reaffirm the distinction of night
v. day. Try, at night: -- darkness, silence and a very matter of fact feeding approach -- a tiny nightlight, no tv or radio, no talk, no cuddles, no singing .... just feed and done. Then in the a.m. make a BIG fuss and lots of noise (we actually used to throw the lights on and sing when we came in the room -- feels dumb but if it works ...) and make daylight feedings noisy, cuddly and fun. -- don't change diapers at night unless poopy. -- swaddle -- they may not like going down flat, so try putting down to sleep in car seat, swing (set low or not moving at all), vibrating bouncy seat, ... one of ours was fine for naps but didn't like to sleep flat at night for a couple of months and all of these alternatives worked at various times. -- dh and you each sleep semi-sitting up in bed (not near an edge), holding a nodding-off baby. I had to do this with Holly before we realized that her "night-day confusion" was actually starvation caused by lack of milk supply (oops). Get lots of pillows to support your back and arms and you kind of half-recline. Then at least you may doze even though it is not the best sleep on the market. This differs from co-sleeping in that you are not lying down and so cannot roll and squash anyone. Obviously, you need plenty of pillows under your elbow etc. so that you can't drop the baby when your arms go a bit limp. "Ellie" wrote in message ... This sounds like a good idea, going to give it a go, I certainly don't mind them feeding constantly but it would be easier during the day! I can handle being tired for a few more days to see if we can get into a pattern. Thanks for the advice Ellie "H Schinske" wrote in message ... One other thing I thought of after I hit send. Can you express some milk and maybe have your husband or a grandma take over for some of the night time feedings? That way you get the sleep and they still get the milk. But I am not sure if you are totally opposed to using bottles at all. I don't see this as a feeding problem at all, really, it's just day and night confusion like lots of babies have, only a little more severe, and worse to handle because there are two babies. I'd use extra hands to take the babies out so mom can nap. Plus maybe get up for the morning at five or something, so that there is a pattern of getting *up* and then having a nap *later*, even if it's been preceded by wee-hours hell. Then put the babies down for a nap a little later, as late as you can persuade them. Then try to move the getting-up time later. This is REALLY HARD to do when you are really tired yourself, which is why finding *some* way to get naps for the adults in is a good idea. I don't know if going-to-bed rituals really work with tiny babies (though swaddling can help), but routines, as in doing the same thing every day in the same order, worked well with mine. You can sometimes manage to get the *order* the way you want it and then move the *time*. --Helen |
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