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Karen G wrote: As a parent, how do you handle being late and how do you choose what you can be late for? Well, for the most part I figure out before signing up for an activity whether anything else will impact our ability to get there (and pick up) on time, and if so whether this will be a problem or not. That determination depends on the rules and structure of the activity -- you can always ask if necessary. As my children get older, I find there are more things that I can drop them off a little early for or pick them up a little late from without it being an issue the way it is for most preschool programs (where the children require more active supervision). Depending on what your school's drop-off routine is like, you may find that children arrive throughout the first 15 or 20 minutes, and that this is expected and worked into their routine. Or you may find that they want to start circle time precisely at 8:30 (though if this were really the case, I'd expect they would open their doors earlier than that to allow time for the children to arrive, remove outerwear if necessary, say their goodbyes, etc.). We have a "near" conflict this year, as my older children's school and my toddler's preschool both begin at 8:30. However, the older children start their morning meeting at 8:30 and are expected to actually arrive by 8:20 so that they can be ready on time. Also the doors open at 8. So in fact I will be able to drop them off early, then go handle preschool drop-off in a more leisurely manner since my 2.5yo will need help with outerwear and may need more protracted goodbye routines since this will be his first experience away from us. (And then, one day a week, I will go *back* to the older children's school to volunteer for the rest of the morning. The older kids will do their meeting while I am dropping off Micro, and I'll be back by the time they really need me.) --Robyn (mommy to Ryan 9/93 and Matthew 6/96 and Evan 3/01) |
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Karen G wrote in :
I have some overlapping schedules for the first time this fall as my oldest child starts preschool and my middle child is involved in activities. Wednesday morning they have to be at different places at the same time. I looked at this problem in two ways--can one of the child arrive early, and what are the consequences of being late. (snip) preschool class where drop off is already going to be complicated, I think the consequences of being late will be significant. (Although I wonder how many people will be consistently late.) Obviously, if the middle child misses 10 minutes of dance class it won't be the end of the world, but I don't want to make it a habit. (snip) As a parent, how do you handle being late and how do you choose what you can be late for? Lateness is a hot button for me, especially with a spouse who is habitually tardy (ask me some time about his "window of on time" concept). For one thing, I think it can be perceived as arrogant (not to imply that you're being arrogant, Karen!) because it basically says, "my time is more important than yours." You might take that concept and look at your situation -- in which case will you be most likely to use the time of others the least wisely? If dance class will start on time without your child, then you aren't having much of an impact on that. OTOH, if the preschool was starting at a more leisurely pace thant it seems to be doing, it would be easy to pick that one to be late to. In other words, the impact it has on the child's activity is one consideration, of course -- but another one is the impact it has on the class/other children/teacher involved in the activity. Now, with an ADD kid who has a hard time organizing himself in the morning and can easily become sidetracked by, oh, say, one of the dogs sleeping in an especially-cute position, it's a wonder my son and husband get out the door at all. But. I go to work early so that I can get home soon after school ends. So I'm not here when they leave, I don't usually witness the nail-biting suspense of trying to get out the door, and I don't drive them both nuts with my nagging along the way. (Honestly, these last few weeks when I've been between jobs, I'm a nervous wreck by the time they leave the house!) They do usually make it. Barely. Henry would probably be better off if he got to school a little early, in time to get himself organized, but he seems to have learned how to make it work, and who knows -- if he were there early enough to get distracted it might be worse. Another factor is impact on your kids beyond the loss of instructional time: Henry gets embarrassed if he is late -- would that be true for either of your kids? If so, that might tip the scales or you might address it by being sure the school and the kid know that it's unavoidable, having some sort of agreement that the child will always be a few minutes late so that the child is not queried about it. -Dawn (Who, the handful of times I've been late for picking Henry up from something, has been met with an incredulous, "*You're* late? I was sure it was going to be Dad.") |
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"Karen G" wrote in message ... I have some overlapping schedules for the first time this fall as my oldest child starts preschool and my middle child is involved in activities. Wednesday morning they have to be at different places at the same time. I looked at this problem in two ways--can one of the child arrive early, and what are the consequences of being late. In both cases, a dance class and preschool, the doors are not open until the exact time. The dance class has a limited number of children (usually about 4 to 6), so it is really easy to get started on time. I was surprised that the preschool operated with the same paradigm--particularly for a class of 20 children. As a parent, how do you handle being late and how do you choose what you can be late for? I was thinking hard about this, as my kids are now in 4th grade and high school and have been in activities and pre schools since they were small, and I came to a startling conclusion. I just never signed up for two things that started at the same time! Or maybe I did, but when I signed up I knew the carpool beforehand. We now have a whatever gets in the family calendar first rule. If there is already an activity at say 4pm, and a second child is invited to an activity at the same time, they can make their own arrangements to get there. But when they were small, we just didn't do that. |
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In article , H Schinske wrote:
wrote: For the preschool class where drop off is already going to be complicated, I think the consequences of being late will be significant. At my son's preschool it wasn't a problem at all. The only time it was crucial to get the child there right on time was when there were field trips, or the parent was in the classroom (it was a co-op and all parents were there a couple-three times a term). People often showed up late for whatever reason. A dance class would be quite different. I would put that first in terms of getting the child there right on time. The preschool my son went to had very strict earliest arrival and latest departure times, but you could drop off and pick up at any time within the day (except for scheduled outings, of course). It was completely standard for some kids to come at 7:30 and others at 9:30. In such a setting, there is no notion of "on-time" for drop off, though there definitely was for pickup with substantial late fees if you made the staff stay past their normal quitting time. At one point we paid for a full-day slot, even though we only needed or used a half day, because there were no half-day slots left. It may have helped that the preschool was associated with the university, and most of the parents were students or faculty with irregular schedules. A preschool associated with 9-5 employer may have more rigid rules. A dance class is a different matter, with a short period and substantial disruption if a student who comes late and needs to have an explanation repeated. I'd say this was an easy call---one needs to be on-time for the dance class, but the preschool can be flexible. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Computer Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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"Cathy Kearns" wrote in message om...
I was thinking hard about this, as my kids are now in 4th grade and high school and have been in activities and pre schools since they were small, and I came to a startling conclusion. I just never signed up for two things that started at the same time! Or maybe I did, but when I signed up I knew the carpool beforehand. We now have a whatever gets in the family calendar first rule. If there is already an activity at say 4pm, and a second child is invited to an activity at the same time, they can make their own arrangements to get there. But when they were small, we just didn't do that. I have to agree with Kathy. In my many years of parenting, we've never had a scheduling conflict. Last year, when my kids went to two different schools and got out at two different times, I switched the times in my head once or twice, and was home expecting to see one kid and the other was there, but we just never had had a conflict. One thing I do is, never schedule any activity on the same day as the other kid's activity. Since we're not big on activities anyhow, that's always been very easy to follow. This year, DS is doing basketball and lacrosse, DD is doing track. They both will take the late bus home 2X week (leaves school at 5:20) on the same days, so they'll have each other to walk the 1/2 block from the bus stop. Both kids have Hebrew tutoring 2 afternoons a week, but that's together, so no conflict there. That's about it! When my kids were in preschool, and all through their schooling there has been before and after school programming which should alleviate any time conflicts. Their preschool opened at 8, but you could bring them at 7 if you paid for the time. It closed at 3 or 6, depending on what program you signed up for. Being early or late wasn't really an issue. Marjorie |
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Kevin Karplus wrote: *The preschool my son went to had very strict earliest arrival and *latest departure times, but you could drop off and pick up at any time *within the day (except for scheduled outings, of course). It was *completely standard for some kids to come at 7:30 and others at 9:30. *In such a setting, there is no notion of "on-time" for drop off, Wow. Is that typical of preschools?? Our preschool program (9-12) starts at 9 am, and that's when you are supposed to have the kid there. I mean, they don't give you demerits for being late or anything , but the kid misses out and the teachers don't really like it if you're late. I know they "spoke with" a neighbor of mine who was consistently late (because she had to drop off her other kid elsewhere first) because they felt her son was missing out and that it was disruptive for him to come in, as he often did, in the middle of story time. I kind of thought most preschools would be like that but of course I only have direct experience with two preschools one of which I no longer remember very well 30 years later Of course, IMO preschool lateness isn't the end of the world and in the OPs situation, I'd drop the kid off late. *It may have helped that the preschool was associated with the *university, and most of the parents were students or faculty with *irregular schedules. A preschool associated with 9-5 employer may have *more rigid rules. I'm so far out of the loop, it's not even funny. Employers or universities have preschools associated with them? I have heard of employer-based daycare, but not preschools. I had no idea... sigh h. -- hillary israeli vmd http://www.hillary.net "uber vaccae in quattuor partes divisum est." not-so-newly minted veterinarian-at-large |
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chiam margalit wrote: One thing I do is, never schedule any activity on the same day as the other kid's activity. Actually, I usually try to do just the opposite so I'm not running for activities every day. If I can work out the drop-off and pick-up times so both kids are at an activity at the same time, I'm one happy mommy. But I wouldn't knowingly schedule activities that caused a conflict. (I say knowingly because they never tell us the exact soccer practice schedules or locations when we sign up. I think Ryan and Matt will be practicing at the same time this year, but in almost the same place so that the scheduling conflict will be minimized.) --Robyn |
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Karen G wrote in message . ..
I have some overlapping schedules for the first time this fall as my oldest child starts preschool and my middle child is involved in activities. Wednesday morning they have to be at different places at the same time. I looked at this problem in two ways--can one of the child arrive early, and what are the consequences of being late. In both cases, a dance class and preschool, the doors are not open until the exact time. The dance class has a limited number of children (usually about 4 to 6), so it is really easy to get started on time. I was surprised that the preschool operated with the same paradigm--particularly for a class of 20 children. As a parent, how do you handle being late and how do you choose what you can be late for? I serve on the board of our church nursery school and one of the biggest complaints of the teachers is dealing with early drop-offs and late pick-ups. However, they do schedule in 15-20 minutes of free play time at the beginning and end of class so that LATE drop-offs and EARLY pick-ups are less of a problem. This is 2.5 hour 2X a day program, 9-11:30 and 12:00-2:30, so that 1/2 hour break is all the teachers have for their own lunches. It is very hard if morning kids don't leave until 11:45 and afternoon kids arrive at 11:50! In your case I would think the dance class would be more important to get to on time. But as others have pointed out, we have been able to avoid conflicts so far with our two boys. We either don't sign up for something we can't do, or juggle our own work schedules to accomodate their classes. Chris |
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"Karen G" wrote in message
... On an odd note, I wonder how many case studies were done on me. :-) Counting the current follow up study, 42. Best, Ann |
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