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Awful Halloween costumes
In article , Kevin Karplus says...
In article , Banty wrote: Uuurgh. I wish the schools, if they can't go in for the whole Halloween ghosty-ghouly-gory thing (OK, fine, maybe they can't, they have a whole range of parents and philosophies to consider), they'd just wish the kids Happy Halloween on October 31 and send them home to the festivities. Because this idea of having a school Halloween party, which of course all the kids will have to dress up for, but it can't be what a lot of them *really* want to dress up like, necessitates having two costumes and more preparation, or the kid compromising, and it gets the heck in the way of Halloween. There doesn't have to be a school Halloween party, especially if the school is queasy about it. The school costume parade is very popular with the kids, so the school does it as a treat for them. I think many of the parents appreciate that the school doesn't allow very gory costumes, since they can then tell their kids "OK, but if you really want that costume then you can't wear it in the school parade." I doubt that many of the kids get 2 costumes (over 40% of the school is in the free or reduced price lunch program). Students don't have to participate in the Halloween costume parade, so if a kid really wants a gory costume, he can choose not to take it to school and just wear it in the evening. For such a student, this is almost the same as Banty's proposal, and the vast majority of students can have a school parade to show off their non-gory costumes. ?? My proposal?? That *was* my post :-) My proposal is that schools stay out of a celebration, if they feel compelled to place scruples on it. For parents who believe that there should be no 'violence' or 'blood', having a school hoo-haa with costumes and all that, but with certain standards applie, this is all hunky -dory. They can prepare one costume, and use the school standards to reinforce their own to boot. No suprise that you and David don't see a problem with it. For the kid that wants to be Freddy and his parents don't object, he'll either have to give that up, or have his parents buy or prepare two costumes for all the events. Or not participate in the school event, and lose out and stand out. Which puts the whole thing into a bind. Is that the effect desired - to foster non-violent non-bloody scruples regarding Halloween celebrations in *other* families than your own? Banty |
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"Kevin Karplus" wrote in message ... In article , Banty wrote: Uuurgh. I wish the schools, if they can't go in for the whole Halloween ghosty-ghouly-gory thing (OK, fine, maybe they can't, they have a whole range of parents and philosophies to consider), they'd just wish the kids Happy Halloween on October 31 and send them home to the festivities. Because this idea of having a school Halloween party, which of course all the kids will have to dress up for, but it can't be what a lot of them *really* want to dress up like, necessitates having two costumes and more preparation, or the kid compromising, and it gets the heck in the way of Halloween. There doesn't have to be a school Halloween party, especially if the school is queasy about it. The school costume parade is very popular with the kids, so the school does it as a treat for them. I think many of the parents appreciate that the school doesn't allow very gory costumes, since they can then tell their kids "OK, but if you really want that costume then you can't wear it in the school parade." I doubt that many of the kids get 2 costumes (over 40% of the school is in the free or reduced price lunch program). Students don't have to participate in the Halloween costume parade, so if a kid really wants a gory costume, he can choose not to take it to school and just wear it in the evening. For such a student, this is almost the same as Banty's proposal, and the vast majority of students can have a school parade to show off their non-gory costumes. In general, our rule is "Nothing which will give the little ones (we have 4 yr old Title I preschool, as well as all-day kinder) nightmares". This rules out the really gory, scary stuff-and the older kids seem to understand the limit. Relatively few of my kids have the really expensive, scary masks anyway-maybe because we're a low income school. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Computer Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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Awful Halloween costumes
Banty writes:
Is that the effect desired - to foster non-violent non-bloody scruples regarding Halloween celebrations in *other* families than your own? I think the effect desired is to avoid using the coercive power of the state (i.e., children are required to attend school) to expose them to stuff that many parents dislike. But personally, it would be ok with me if you kept your child home that day, rather than subject him to the insufficiently violent Halloween celebration. David desJardins |
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Awful Halloween costumes
In article , David desJardins says...
Banty writes: Is that the effect desired - to foster non-violent non-bloody scruples regarding Halloween celebrations in *other* families than your own? I think the effect desired is to avoid using the coercive power of the state (i.e., children are required to attend school) to expose them to stuff that many parents dislike. And how about Banty's Proposal: have a nice school day, send the kids home with Happy Halloween wishes. And partake of no PC Halloween parties. You can dress your kid up as the Pillsbury Doughboy, I can let my boy be Rambo with a flame thrower if he wants. They might cross paths during trick-or-treating, though ;-) Banty (mmmmm - biscuits) |
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Banty writes:
And how about Banty's Proposal: have a nice school day, send the kids home with Happy Halloween wishes. And partake of no PC Halloween parties. That would be fine with me too. I don't really like Halloween parties at all, not having them at school would be just great as far as I'm concerned. But I don't see your desire to have either an ultra-violent Halloween party or none at all, as having any more or less weight than some other parent's desire to have a nice "PC" Halloween party that their kids will enjoy. If there were more people like you, who dislike the parties, than people who like the parties, then it would certainly make sense to skip them. But I doubt that's the case. David desJardins |
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Awful Halloween costumes
In article , David desJardins says...
Banty writes: And how about Banty's Proposal: have a nice school day, send the kids home with Happy Halloween wishes. And partake of no PC Halloween parties. That would be fine with me too. I don't really like Halloween parties at all, not having them at school would be just great as far as I'm concerned. There we have agreement. But I don't see your desire to have either an ultra-violent Halloween party or none at all, as having any more or less weight than some other parent's desire to have a nice "PC" Halloween party that their kids will enjoy. If there were more people like you, who dislike the parties, than people who like the parties, then it would certainly make sense to skip them. But I doubt that's the case. It's not that I have a 'desire to have an ultra-violent Halloween' - it's that, since costume preparation is a time-consuming and sometimes costly thing, to pretty much require that kids have one for the school venue, with stated thematic limitations, impacts what the home celebration would be, which may or may not beholden to those limitations. I'm rather for unencumbered choices, rather than any specific one. So, if the school has to accomodate parents like you and limit the kinds of getups the kids can wear, I'd much rather the school just stay out of it and not get in the way of whatever folks want to do outside school. If they want to do something such that I won't possibly end up having to multiply efforts at home, like a Halloween essay - fine. They can require it to be a very non-violent diversity-embracing socially-aware environmentally sensitive essay if they want. ;-) Another option would be a non-costume party. In my day :utting on my bifocals:: costumes were out because of the school dress codes anyway. Cheers, Banty |
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Awful Halloween costumes
I hear similar reasons for parents liking dress codes --
so they don't have to argue with their kids over what to wear to school. Well, who is buying their kids clothes that are inappropriate to wear to school in the 1st place? In my experience, it's not a matter of inappropriateness, it's a matter of decision making.... my DD is 9yrs old, and I still lay out clothes for her. Otherwise she takes forever getting dressed in the morning because she feels the need to try on twelve different things. She also doesn't check the weather like I do, and she has a habit of pulling out short-sleeved shirts on days where the high temp is 45F. |
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Awful Halloween costumes
I think many of the parents appreciate
that the school doesn't allow very gory costumes, since they can then tell their kids "OK, but if you really want that costume then you can't wear it in the school parade." We have the extra added benefit of "If you get that icky one, you won't be able to wear it for Purim!" Isn't it amazing how much Guinevere looks like Queen Esther? ;-) |
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Awful Halloween costumes
Scott Lindstrom wrote in :
[snip] hear similar reasons for parents liking dress codes -- so they don't have to argue with their kids over what to wear to school. Well, who is buying their kids clothes that are inappropriate to wear to school in the 1st place? I don't think the two situations are quite equivalent. If the school allows the kids to wear a custume, then you probably have just two or three occasions to wear them: once at school, and once (or maybe twice) out of school. So if you get two custumes, the average number of times you wear each of them is 1.5 wears. With clothes, you have plenty of chances to wear non-school clothes: if your kid has a crop top they are not allowed to wear at school, they can wear it every afternoon after school until they grow out of it, getting an average number of wears to be about 365. -- Penny Gaines UK mum to three |
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