Advice

I have been divorced for about 6 years. Oldest daughter is 15. She went
from an A- student, to a C-/D+ student in one year. Her attitude is awful,
she talks back all the time. She is skipping school, and recently, I found
pictures of her & alcohol on her myspace web page. These pictures were
taken in her mothers home.

Her mother is very defensive, and is more concerned with being my daughters
buddy, and with her own social life. Both my ex's sister and mother agree
with me that my ex is living vicariously through my daughter - and they have
tried their best.

I have legal custoday, and she has physical.

My goal is to get more time, and more influence with my daughter, but I
can't do so when I'm excluded from 99% of everything going on.

My question is, what should I do? Would the above sway a judge to giving me
more time with my daughter, so at least I can provide some adult
supervision, or do I have to wait until she's pregnant, and addicted to
heroin before the courts will act?

"Simpledog" wrote in message news:qtg4g.28715$HC3.17334@trnddc07...
I have been divorced for about 6 years. Oldest daughter is 15. She went
from an A- student, to a C-/D+ student in one year. Her attitude is awful,
she talks back all the time. She is skipping school, and recently, I found
pictures of her & alcohol on her myspace web page. These pictures were
taken in her mothers home.

Her mother is very defensive, and is more concerned with being my daughters
buddy, and with her own social life. Both my ex's sister and mother agree
with me that my ex is living vicariously through my daughter - and they have
tried their best.

I have legal custoday, and she has physical.

My goal is to get more time, and more influence with my daughter, but I
can't do so when I'm excluded from 99% of everything going on.

My question is, what should I do? Would the above sway a judge to giving me
more time with my daughter, so at least I can provide some adult
supervision, or do I have to wait until she's pregnant, and addicted to
heroin before the courts will act?

If you have legal custody, you already have the legal right to make decisions for the child about education, religion,
and medical care. If your child is abusing a substance, why aren't you taking steps to obtain appropriate medical care
for her?

"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"Simpledog" wrote in message
news:qtg4g.28715$HC3.17334@trnddc07...
I have been divorced for about 6 years. Oldest daughter is 15. She went
from an A- student, to a C-/D+ student in one year. Her attitude is
awful,
she talks back all the time. She is skipping school, and recently, I
found
pictures of her & alcohol on her myspace web page. These pictures were
taken in her mothers home.

Her mother is very defensive, and is more concerned with being my
daughters
buddy, and with her own social life. Both my ex's sister and mother
agree
with me that my ex is living vicariously through my daughter - and they
have
tried their best.

I have legal custoday, and she has physical.

My goal is to get more time, and more influence with my daughter, but I
can't do so when I'm excluded from 99% of everything going on.

My question is, what should I do? Would the above sway a judge to giving
me
more time with my daughter, so at least I can provide some adult
supervision, or do I have to wait until she's pregnant, and addicted to
heroin before the courts will act?

If you have legal custody, you already have the legal right to make
decisions for the child about education, religion, and medical care. If
your child is abusing a substance, why aren't you taking steps to obtain
appropriate medical care for her?



This man posted April 1 with the same issues. Looks like he isn't jumping on
any action for his daughter.

T

"Tiffany" wrote in message news:GLn4g.32991$HC3.25476@trnddc07...

"Moon Shyne" wrote in message ...

"Simpledog" wrote in message news:qtg4g.28715$HC3.17334@trnddc07...
I have been divorced for about 6 years. Oldest daughter is 15. She went
from an A- student, to a C-/D+ student in one year. Her attitude is awful,
she talks back all the time. She is skipping school, and recently, I found
pictures of her & alcohol on her myspace web page. These pictures were
taken in her mothers home.

Her mother is very defensive, and is more concerned with being my daughters
buddy, and with her own social life. Both my ex's sister and mother agree
with me that my ex is living vicariously through my daughter - and they have
tried their best.

I have legal custoday, and she has physical.

My goal is to get more time, and more influence with my daughter, but I
can't do so when I'm excluded from 99% of everything going on.

My question is, what should I do? Would the above sway a judge to giving me
more time with my daughter, so at least I can provide some adult
supervision, or do I have to wait until she's pregnant, and addicted to
heroin before the courts will act?

If you have legal custody, you already have the legal right to make decisions for the child about education,
religion, and medical care. If your child is abusing a substance, why aren't you taking steps to obtain appropriate
medical care for her?



This man posted April 1 with the same issues. Looks like he isn't jumping on any action for his daughter.

LOL!! Got it, thanks.


T