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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Mary S. wrote in message ... Sue wrote: There are a ton of books, Mary. You just need to go and find which ones you like and/or what kind of information you are looking for. The best advice that I read in mkb that was like a *doh* for me was to not assume that the first child will have a problem being a sister. Sproutkin is still a little young to truly understand what is going on, but if you don't get any books about jealousy or that the new sibling coming could potentially be a bad thing, then I think you won't have any problems at all. This is great advice -- avoiding the "now that you have a new sibling, you will feel jealous and angry" prep. I have some neat books I've kept tucked away for Sproutkin -- the Sears sibling book, Hello Baby, My New Baby, We Have A Baby, and Waiting For Baby -- can't remember the various authors, but I like them all; they show lots of snuggling and nursing and positive sibling relationships. I guess we'll wait before we pull them out and start reading them to her... although, part of me thinks we should just talk about the baby as an assumed fact of the future, so it will seem like she's always known that there will eventually be a sibling. But really low-key for a while yet. There are also so many books for parents about adding a second child to the mix. Did anyone have a particular favorite? One baby was so easy; my lifestyle didn't change hardly at all, she just fit into our lives like a puzzle piece. I've never heard anyone say that about #2! LOL. Actually I've found #2 just fits in with #1, I'm doing basically the same as before barring swimming, which I don't fancy doing with 2 until dd#2 can use one of those swimming seats. It may change once #2 is moving and expressing her own opinion though! I started talking babies to dd at about 22 months. I love holding babies, and when I hold one dd#1 always was interested and wanted to hold (with assistance-assuming she didn't have a cold/mother was happy etc.) So I used one of these oportunities to explain that the baby grew in the mummy's tummy. When I was pregnant she was told fairly early on because I was being sick, and then I used my pregnancy book which has drawn pictures in of babies in tummys to talk to her about it. Then I just let her ask questions. She'd ask what the baby looked like and I'd find her a picture of the closest age. Or another time she asked whether I had to undo my tummy button to get baby out. Later she got more interested in the photos of a baby being born, and the pictures of hospital rooms. It was only in the last couple of months I got the "new baby" books out, as she was very happy with baby inside and I didn't want her waiting too long for the baby to appear. So far we have had very little jealousy-just occasionally asking me to put dd#2 down and do something with her. She's already asked if I'll grow another one-however her experience of pregnancy has led her to say she doesn't want a baby in her tummy! I think your idea of just talking for now is the best, but remember 8 months is a long time so don't talk too much about what you'll be doing with the baby. Also I didn't prepare dd#1 enough for not being able to play with the baby immediately. She wanted to play catch will dd#2 and was disappointed to find that dd#2 wasn't very good at it. Debbie |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Mary S. wrote:
One baby was so easy; my lifestyle didn't change hardly at all, she just fit into our lives like a puzzle piece. I've never heard anyone say that about #2! LOL. FWIW I thought adding #2 was lots easier then the adjustment to adding #1. My lifestyle did change dramatically when adding a baby. By the time #2 came I had routines and everything was old hat. I'd developed a family friendly lifestyle. I wasn't nervousness about breastfeeding, already had child care (which isn't a concern for everyone), already had the *stuff*. Very easy. Luke was an easy baby though. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Mary S. wrote in message ... Is Sproutkin still breastfeeding? Do you think you will wean her or tandem? Just curious. I'm hoping to give tandemming a try, and see what happens. I can't see weaning her (outside of a pelvic rest situation), so by default, we'll try it! If I knew I had to wean in order to conceive, we would probably have waited until she was more like 2.5 and given her a nudge, if she hadn't self-weaned by then. Any tips? No sore breasts yet (I sort of wish they were -- those faint lines are keeping me a little nervous). Is that the biggest hurdle when nursing through a pregnancy? dd#1 anounced that there was no milk some point in the middle trimester. She however wanted to try again and found there was some about 3 days later (trying once a day) When dd#2 was about 2 weeks dd#1 wanted to feed every time I was feeding, but mostly I could put her off with reading a book or something. Now she rarely feeds, but it's taken 3 months to get there. Debbie |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Mary S. wrote:
... about adding that second child? I read 'Siblings Without Rivalry' and a couple more along that line that I can't remember. Way to early to put any of that into practice of course but reading with two small children is a pipe dream in my house so I'm glad I read them then, lol. I couldn't find books for Hunter that didn't include somekind of trouble/problems with the transition so I didn't read him any. We prepared him in other ways. Fun journey :-) -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Nikki wrote: Mary S. wrote: One baby was so easy; my lifestyle didn't change hardly at all, she just fit into our lives like a puzzle piece. I've never heard anyone say that about #2! LOL. FWIW I thought adding #2 was lots easier then the adjustment to adding #1. My lifestyle did change dramatically when adding a baby. By the time #2 came I had routines and everything was old hat. I'd developed a family friendly lifestyle. I wasn't nervousness about breastfeeding, already had child care (which isn't a concern for everyone), already had the *stuff*. Very easy. Luke was an easy baby though. -- Nikki Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2) I agree - adding #1 was a huge shock to my system, and a complete upheaval in my life. Relatively speaking, #2 was a lot easier, but that's partly because my older child was in school all day by the time he was born. Clisby |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Nikki wrote:
Mary S. wrote: One baby was so easy; my lifestyle didn't change hardly at all, she just fit into our lives like a puzzle piece. I've never heard anyone say that about #2! LOL. FWIW I thought adding #2 was lots easier then the adjustment to adding #1. My lifestyle did change dramatically when adding a baby. By the time #2 came I had routines and everything was old hat. I'd developed a family friendly lifestyle. I wasn't nervousness about breastfeeding, already had child care (which isn't a concern for everyone), already had the *stuff*. Very easy. Luke was an easy baby though. I found adding #2 eminently doable, but I did find it harder than adding #1, perhaps because my lifestyle pre- kids wasn't all that baby unfriendly and I didn't have any of the worries. With #1, I still got a lot of me time because if DH (or anyone else) had him, I was "free." So, as an example, if we were out at a restaurant with friends or family, one of us could have an eye on the kid and the other didn't have to worry at all and we just tossed baby duty back and forth very fluidly. After adding the second, a situation like that would have *both* parents on duty full time. All that extra attention made a big difference in terms of feeling like I had some downtime. That, and having to get two kids wrangled to get out the door, were the significant challenges for us adding two. Best wishes, Ericka |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
"Mary S." wrote in message ... ... about adding that second child? Mary S. mom to the Sproutkin, 22 months and a new wee babysprout, due October 1 Ooooh!!!!! I'm doing the happy dance right now! I have goosebumps and tears in my eyes! I'm so happy for you!!!!!!!!! (((((HUGS))))) - Jen |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Is Sproutkin still breastfeeding? Do you think you will wean her or tandem?
Just curious. I'm hoping to give tandemming a try, and see what happens. I can't see weaning her (outside of a pelvic rest situation), so by default, we'll try it! If I knew I had to wean in order to conceive, we would probably have waited until she was more like 2.5 and given her a nudge, if she hadn't self-weaned by then. Any tips? No sore breasts yet (I sort of wish they were -- those faint lines are keeping me a little nervous). Is that the biggest hurdle when nursing through a pregnancy? Mary S. mom to the Sproutkin, 22 months and a new wee babysprout, due October 1 Get the newish book _Adventures in Tandem Nursing_. Author is Hillary Flowers or something like that. I just read it and liked it; there is nutritional and medical information and "how to" tips on stuff like positioning, but most of the book is really just mom-stories and support, whether you do end up tandemning, weaning, partially weaning, or weaning and then un-weaning. :-) Holly Mom to Camden, almost 3 EDD #2 6/8/04 |
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Oh yippee, yippee!!!!!!!!!!! I totally missed this post, and just scolded you
in a post of my own for not posting yet! I *knew* you were pg this cycle. I knew it, I knew it! So how long did it take? Are you excited? Numb? Shocked? What does DH think? laurie mommy to Jessica, almost 3 years and Christopher, 9 months |
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So does anyone have book recommendations...
Mary S. wrote in message
This is great advice -- avoiding the "now that you have a new sibling, you will feel jealous and angry" prep. I have some neat books I've kept tucked away for Sproutkin -- the Sears sibling book, Hello Baby, My New Baby, We Have A Baby, and Waiting For Baby -- can't remember the various authors, but I like them all; they show lots of snuggling and nursing and positive sibling relationships. Yeah, it never really occured to me to avoid that, but I don't think I brought it up to dd1 though. She did have some issues, but it wasn't too bad. I do notice now that most of the books you read have the jealous sibling thing going. I guess we'll wait before we pull them out and start reading them to her... although, part of me thinks we should just talk about the baby as an assumed fact of the future, so it will seem like she's always known that there will eventually be a sibling. But really low-key for a while yet. That's probably the best way to go. Just remember that if you start talking about it too early, she doesn't have a concept of time and it may make you nuts. ;o) There are also so many books for parents about adding a second child to the mix. Did anyone have a particular favorite? One baby was so easy; my lifestyle didn't change hardly at all, she just fit into our lives like a puzzle piece. I've never heard anyone say that about #2! LOL. Well dd2 was and still is my extremely easy child. She slid right into our routine, but I did have a hard time with the adjustment for a while before I got into a routine of sorts. I just went by the seat of my pants and it eventually worked out. The hardest part was the bed time stuff and luckily my husband took over the bed time rituals with dd1 so I could concentrate on dd2. You're such a wonderful mother Mary, that you won't have any problems. Is your husband working now or will he still be home when baby 2 comes? -- Sue (mom to three girls) I'm Just a Raggedy Ann in a Barbie Doll World... |
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