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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I
really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
I think you might need to take some anger management classes...soon. You
need to realize that your child comes first and it might be time to let the animals go to a better suited home. A child needs to be taught how to act towards others and animals, as a mom that is your job, i'm afraid you're about to be fired. I hope someone near you has the good sense in calling Child and Family Services. "ŠkatŠ" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Megan" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote:
I think you might need to take some anger management classes...soon. You need to realize that your child comes first and it might be time to let the animals go to a better suited home. A child needs to be taught how to act towards others and animals, as a mom that is your job, i'm afraid you're about to be fired. I hope someone near you has the good sense in calling Child and Family Services. I do hope this was meant to be ironic! |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"ŠkatŠ" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... Kat, You are a human being. Accidents happen. What happened with the door was an accident. You did not intentionally go into that room in order to hurt your son. I do think you need some sort of help, to figure out what's going on in your head. Having said that, I need to tell you, I do not think you are a bad mother. Nor are you a failure. You are a human being who gets tired, and angry, and frustrated. I have felt the same way. I have yelled or screamed at my son in the past instead of calming down first. Find someone, a support group, or individual counselor, or good friend; someone to talk to, to vent your frustrations. It does help. When bad things start piling up in life, the rest of the world seems bleak and meaningless. This is the time to say, "I can't do it all alone." You know what happened was an accident. Your son is not seriously injured, nor will he be scarred for life. You will get through this, and come out stronger in the end. You are a very strong young woman, and I hold you in high regards for all you have been through. We are always hardest on ourselves. Try not to do that to yourself. You don't need any more beating up. You are cared about here, and I will send good thoughts, and loving prayers your direction. Let us know how things are going. Don't keep it bottled up. Best wishes, Betsy |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Megan" wrote in message news:GLjnb.199843$9l5.175691@pd7tw2no... I think you might need to take some anger management classes...soon. You need to realize that your child comes first and it might be time to let the animals go to a better suited home. A child needs to be taught how to act towards others and animals, as a mom that is your job, i'm afraid you're about to be fired. I hope someone near you has the good sense in calling Child and Family Services. Do you think this is helpful? Sounds like you are bitter and angry yourself. What you have posted is not support. "ŠkatŠ" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Megan" wrote in message news:GLjnb.199843$9l5.175691@pd7tw2no... I think you might need to take some anger management classes...soon. You need to realize that your child comes first and it might be time to let the animals go to a better suited home. A child needs to be taught how to act towards others and animals, as a mom that is your job, i'm afraid you're about to be fired. I hope someone near you has the good sense in calling Child and Family Services. Shut the **** up you ****. You don't know anything about her... people like you **** me off... the nerve of some people! Christine "ŠkatŠ" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"Betsy" wrote in message om... "ŠkatŠ" wrote in message news%hnb.46405$zx2.24505@edtnps84... Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... Kat, You are a human being. Accidents happen. What happened with the door was an accident. You did not intentionally go into that room in order to hurt your son. I do think you need some sort of help, to figure out what's going on in your head. Having said that, I need to tell you, I do not think you are a bad mother. Nor are you a failure. You are a human being who gets tired, and angry, and frustrated. I have felt the same way. I have yelled or screamed at my son in the past instead of calming down first. Find someone, a support group, or individual counselor, or good friend; someone to talk to, to vent your frustrations. It does help. When bad things start piling up in life, the rest of the world seems bleak and meaningless. This is the time to say, "I can't do it all alone." You know what happened was an accident. Your son is not seriously injured, nor will he be scarred for life. You will get through this, and come out stronger in the end. You are a very strong young woman, and I hold you in high regards for all you have been through. We are always hardest on ourselves. Try not to do that to yourself. You don't need any more beating up. You are cared about here, and I will send good thoughts, and loving prayers your direction. Let us know how things are going. Don't keep it bottled up. Best wishes, Betsy Kat, I agree with everything Betsy says and then some. I have been where you are, and it's not your fault. The fact that you even posted this, and your concern about your son, and about what happened shows me that you are not a bad mother. Is your son happy? Healthy? Well fed? In bed at a decent hour? Gets hugs and kisses? Yesssss... So ffs, give yourself a break girl. Christine |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Mon, 27 Oct 2003 23:37:56 GMT, "ŠkatŠ" Earlier today, I smashed my son's head... He has a huge bruise. By huge, I really do mean HUGE... Last night, he was up til 3am ****ing around in his room and in the hallway and downstairs. Finally I got really ****ed off, yelled at him and eventually, around 330am, he went to sleep... The other night, he snuck up in the middle of the night, came in my room and climbed on to the top of my closet shelf and let out the gerbils... I didn't think I'd find them alive, given the cat... He's killed one bird and about 4 fish in the past couple days... I get blamed when he is mean to the cat and she scratches him. Everyone is telling me that he's not mean to the cat and to get rid of her... Really, she is just defending herself and does put up with a lot of crap, and I don't really see a reason to get rid of a friendly, clean, good cat... I guess I just think that he needs to learn to be nice to others and animals... This cat has yet to leave a scratch on me, and it will take one warning sign - not an actual act - of her attacking or scratching for no reason before she's gone. This afternoon, when he was supposed to be having a nap, I again found him on the top shelf of my closet, and both gerbils gone. I lost it then because not only is it a dangerous, fairly long fall with many hard objects in the way (the wall, computer desk, my hope chest, etc.) but I've been telling him and explaining to him why he cannot go up there in the first place. I grabbed him down and pretty much dragged him back to his room - kicking and screaming. I then closed the bedroom door and he instantly ran to it and started kicking and hitting the door while screaming. I stood there holding the door as he was screaming and kicking it and trying to open it, and then when he gave up trying to open the door, he just kicked it. He knows there's no screaming like that in the house. I booked it up the stairs, and opened the door harder than I figured I would because it often sticks sometimes, and I ended up smashing the door right into him, literally sending him flying half way across the room... Almost instantly, he had a HUGE purple bruise in the middle of his forehead, and I knew it was my fault, unintentional or not, it was my doing... I went downstairs to calm myself after I put him on his bed and grabbed ice then came back upstairs. I felt like such a horrible piece of crap and horrible excuse for a human being... I grabbed his covers off, and he was cowering under them, obviously away from me. He was sobbing and still crying and I picked him up and started crying myself... I took him downstairs and wrapped him in a blanket and tried to put the ice on his forehead, and then, eventually, we both fell asleep on the couch cause I wasn't sure about putting him in his room to sleep alone... Right now, I feel so ****ing horrible, and there's no way I could take it back... I don't know what happened, but when I was putting ice on his forehead, it hit me hard that maybe I just am a bad mother... I'm scared to go outside anywhere for fear that someone might see his huge bruise and not care to hear what happened, and just call social services... How on earth do you explain that your child kills/is mean to animals and you smashed a door into him?? I feel worse right now than I have in as long as I can remember... I called my mom to see what I could do to keep the swelling down and make the bruise go away, but I wonder what she'll say or think when she gets here, which should be right away... I have a meeting downtown, and the baby is going to my parents' place for a couple hours while I'm out... This really sucks, and I really don't need to feel even worse about what I did... It was an accident. You were angry, that's true. However, you were not trying to hurt him. You were working to keep him from harming a living thing. You were also overtired because of his behavior. That's probably something to work on in the future - his sleep habits. If anyone says anything, just tell them that you didn't expect him to be behind the door when you opened it. That's the truth. Kids, by the way, make lousy doorstops. 'Kate LOL I remember a time that I did the same thing, my son got the door knob right in the forehead... ohhh the tears. He had a purple circle for a good week... ahhh the memories. I think I even have a photo kicking around. lol Kat, you beat yourself up far too much... I think you're doing a great job. If you need a coffee, you know where to find me. Christine |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
"steveb" wrote in message
... "Megan" lifted the trapdoor, peered around and wrote: I think you might need to take some anger management classes...soon. You need to realize that your child comes first and it might be time to let the animals go to a better suited home. A child needs to be taught how to act towards others and animals, as a mom that is your job, i'm afraid you're about to be fired. I hope someone near you has the good sense in calling Child and Family Services. I do hope this was meant to be ironic! Somehow I think not but then maybe I'm just a cynic. -- Paul Griffiths |
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I'm a horrible, horrible person and mother...
Firstly, no you're not IMHO naturally.
The door thing was an accident, period. They happen, not a problem, end of discussion. Your child's behaviour and your reaction to it are another matter. How old is he? I ask because between the ages of about 8 to 12 I went through a phase where it was "fun" to kill things, or arrange for them to be killed, too. Spiders, flies, ants, slugs, snails even a frog once. Not something I'm happy about but it has made me even more caring of all life now so not all bad I suppose. Dunno how natural this is but I suspect it's pretty common. Seemed to be a cross between finding out how things worked and pushing the envelope in respect of what I could and couldn't do. Then there's the top shelf of the closet thing. The way I see it is that you were concerned for his safety. Sounds fair to me but don't expect him to share your concern or even understand it. I know I wouldn't have at one point. I used to climb all over and seemed to spend an awful lot of time on one roof or another or jumping between them. I'm a little more sensible these days, well I hope I am anyway. As for losing it and shouting at him I don't see any problem with that either as long as it doesn't happen all the time. I don't think it harms them to realise there are some things that we feel very strongly about. If nothing else he knows where you draw that particular line in no uncertain terms. More important is how you behaved afterwards and I think you did fine. Have you talked to him since about how he feels about it all? Hang in there, you're doing okay. -- Paul Griffiths |
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