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CME wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... CME wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Maureen Seufert wrote in message ... hi guys..im new here..found this siite while searching the web......wow i can sympathize with you guys.....im working.....but its considered part time...i get 7 an hr but also get comision(spelling)....i have been there 8 yrs...my rent etc has gone up.....i have asked for a raise 4 x.....and told that because i get commison.....i have to "earn what im worth" its in the telemarketing field and with the new pa do not call list well sales are down im getting 200 $ less then what i was making....i could only pay half my rent.....and the landlord says if i dont come up with the rest my the end of the month they are taking me to court....so i have been looking for another job.....i hate the one i do now but with my situation i have to keep that one and do something during the day....which means my 12 yr old and 6 yr old will be with there dad and sitter most of the week im so down.......my x is no help....keeps telling me this is my punishment for getting div......im also having problems witih my 12 yr old son....before i was div i had discipline problems with him but since sep and div had been worse the child has no respect for me when i tell his dad he just shrugs his shoulders......my son called me a name right in front of his dad...his dad just said "patrick u shouldnt call your mother that" if i said to my mom what he said and MY father was there id have no tongue left in my head!!!!!!!!!! i have a b/f and my b/f knows how he is and cnat stand him and my son feels the same towards him.......i just feel like running away sometimes.....all the stress i am under......i came here to offer advice but i need to vent today......to see if anyone else is going through same things with kids? and i feel sooo much guilt......with the div having to have to work 2 jobs now......i feel like a horrible mom...... I am having a very hard time reading this. Sentences are just running together.... Whatever. Wow Tiff, anything you'd like to talk about? I've never seen you so snippy. Christine Not a thing. Just calling it like I see it. Thanks for your concern though. How are the boys? T They're great, today was the last day of school, so we're excited about spending the summer together (yeah, I'm taking it off for the first time in 7 years). Besides, I needed the break from school, 3 years round the clock has taken its toll. lol Christine Good for you. I usually have any easy summer, due to a decline in business but so far that hasn't happen yet. There is always next week. lol You take it easy for sure, you deserve it! T |
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"Rolly The Pervert" wrote in message ... "CME" wrote in message ... "Kristen313" wrote in message ... I hope you're feeling well at this point. Very well, thank you much. Surgery and a 2 month stay in the hospital took care of a great deal of it.If you give yourself time to get to know people, sit back a bit, and then post calmly on single parenting topics, I am quite certain you'll be as welcome here as anyone. Cele Again, thank you, but I doubt I will ever be welcome. Pah, if *I* can be welcome, then hell ya the door is open. lol Man, I recall a time I had it in for Dennis, Joelle, Paul F and Steve... but not all at the same time mind you. lmao You forgot me and L Christine If you're meaning Lorian, I've never had a problem with her. Christine |
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eweber1wrote in message ... Dennis, no offense, but I wanted to help where spell check couldn't No offence but you spelt offense wrong for where I live ;-) Thanks for the correction. Dennis |
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Dennis Here youreply typed: eweber1wrote in message ... Dennis, no offense, but I wanted to help where spell check couldn't No offence but you spelt offense wrong for where I live ;-) Thanks for the correction. Dennis Of course I did, Dennis. After all I am American...heehee. :-) Betsy -- Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and good with ketchup. |
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"Maureen Seufert" wrote in message ... hi guys..im new here..found this siite while searching the web...... Same way I did.....purely by accident. which means my 12 yr old and 6 yr old will be with there dad and sitter most of the week im so down....... Maureen are you feeling bad cos your children are not with you all day, or cos of the financial difficulties or what? I can only empathise with you and say that most of us have been there too. I worked 7 days a week most weeks, before that I was at college and hardly spoke to the kids let alone cooked for them for that time.......but it payed off in the end.....but if you keep at it, you'll find things will get easier. If you think you should be earning more why dont you change jobs. Unfortuanately handing our children over to someone else whilst we work is unavoidable for the most of us single parents. But you can take heart from the fact that you're not alone, and if you have a good relationship with your kids when you *are* with them, then you're already on the winning road and miles ahead of many other parents......both single *and* married I might add. my x is no help....keeps telling me this is my punishment for getting div...... I dont know the circumstances behind the divorce and dont want to berate your ex, when the divorce could have been down to you......Need more detail. im also having problems witih my 12 yr old son....before i was div i had discipline problems with him but since sep and div had been worse the child has no respect for me when i tell his dad he just shrugs his shoulders......my son called me a name right in front of his dad... Do you have any parenting advice groups in your area? It might be worth a visit. I dont know what your son called you or why he was rude to you, but I'd reckon he's having a hard time with your divorce. Also, some of the others here would be better at responding to this, I rule with a rod of iron in my house and wont even consider rudeness towards me as a problem......cos it just aint going to happen.......PERIOD.......( ;~(((.....famous last words of a mother of pre-teen boys). Now that I think of it, maybe it's related to his age. How'd ya like to join Betsy and I in comparing notes, and helping each other through the next 10 years............My hair just went gray....lolol... :~))) i just feel like running away sometimes..... If you think being a single parent is hard.......I would say that running away would be a lot harder to cope with, and you would spend the rest of your life steeped in guilt, it would tear you to bits......A break might be an idea though, could your family take the kids for a couple of days maybe, give you a little time out? all the stress i am under......i came here to offer advice Like I said....you are welcome to join Betsy and I (assuming Betsy doesnt mind.....do you Betsy?) but i need to vent today......to see if anyone else is going through same things with kids? LOL......Oh yes!!!......I can understand excatly where you are coming from and how you feel. I'm assuming here (and no insult intended) that you are kind, loving and warm towards your children. That you dont hurl abuse at them, ignore them or make them feel unwanted or unloved.....I only say this cos you dont say much about your relationship with your children or your parenting style, and unfortuanately there are too many parents that *do* behave this way with their children) I;m in no way implying that you are......at all However, yes!! Most s/p go through the whole spectrum of emotions, some are better able/equipped to deal with them and being a s/p others are not. But what you have got to really realise is that *you* are the only that can change your life....no one else......and once you really believe this then it will happen as a matter of course, cos you wont let things stop you...... and i feel sooo much guilt...... Normal, Normal, normal......I used to feel guilt for all sorts of reasons......but I think every single parent feels too much guilt.......for whatever reason. I blame married people for that......LOLOL with the div having to have to work 2 jobs now......i feel like a horrible mom...... Only you can answer that .......and your kids when they are older.....But if you feel there are areas that lack in your parenting, then post it and get feedback. If you think you are a horrible mom cos you work 2 jobs and a divorce then you are a very lucky woman compared to some parents.....Do you hit them, hurl abuse at them, leave them unnattened (the 6 y/o) etc etc.....Some parents do.....and *they* are the ones that really should feel guilt. Not a single parent that is working her ass off just to pay the bills and doesnt get a heck of a lot of time with them. Maureen, maybe you could post more information and get some support. That is what this group is here for. I'm not great at words of wisdom, but some here are far better and far more experienced than I. Also, (now where's Maureen our regular) some have gone through hell and back for their kids and come out the other end smiling. One mother that used to post here actually bailed her husband out of jail just so her kids could see him.......I was amazed at her. You wouldn't believe what some parents have gone through.....You sound luckier than most.....but like me you may not realise it for years....... One thing though......you have a 12 y/o son.....seems as though you've got a fair few years parenting under your belt......but yet you sound like a new s/p or not used to fending for your self......Maybe I missed something. Dolores |
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"Kristen313" wrote in message ... I might be way off base here, but I've just got this suspicion that you're new to Usenet? If so, really think about what I'm suggesting. I will definitely think about what you are saying. I am not new to Usenet. I've been very involved in 2 other groups for years due to a chronic medical illness. No, I definitely don't think you can't find support here. If the truth were to be known, I'm sure everyone would be happy for me to go away, which is most likely what will happen. Maureen probably felt the same too....I scrolled down and cant see any other post from her.....I really thought she was genuine..... Dont leave the group on the *assholes* account.......cos that's what most of them are......assholes.....Not that I;m any angel either, but if some is genuinely in need of advice then they shouldn't ran out of the group cos they dont type well....We all have our weakness........lol......not me though!!..wink Paul will be very happy, I'm sure. Paul Fritz you mean.......who gives a **** what he thinks....I recall telling him to **** off last year.......reckon he cant read too well......Block his message if he bothers you......I'm sure I'm on plenty k/files.......and do I care.......no!......boohoo Dolores |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On 27 Jun 2003 04:46:18 GMT, (Kristen313) wrote: I might be way off base here, but I've just got this suspicion that you're new to Usenet? If so, really think about what I'm suggesting. I will definitely think about what you are saying. I am not new to Usenet. I've been very involved in 2 other groups for years due to a chronic medical illness. I hope you're feeling well at this point. No, I definitely don't think you can't find support here. If the truth were to be known, I'm sure everyone would be happy for me to go away, which is most likely what will happen. Paul will be very happy, I'm sure. Truth be told, people come and go, and I don't think the regulars think about it too much, until you are a regular yourself. If you give yourself time to get to know people, sit back a bit, and then post calmly on single parenting topics, I am quite certain you'll be as welcome here as anyone. Cele Given what I've read so far I wouldn't blame Kirsten if she unsubscribed, cos she's been blown outa the water.....all the way and made to feel totally unwelcome.........and I'm damned if I can find at post to support that response...... Dolores |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On 27 Jun 2003 04:30:24 GMT, (Kristen313) wrote: I am having a very hard time reading this. Sentences are just running together.... Whatever. What would the purpose of this comment be? Trying to be helpful in her sentence structure? Didn't think so. Kristen, there are people here with vision problems, with learning disabilities, with all kinds of characteristics that might have made that particular post hard for them to read. Maybe she's just saying that it's hard to read. Maybe that's the whole point of that comment. Cele What a load o' ****e Cele.....and we both know it!... If someone found it hard to read for a particular reason they would say.......I found Maureens post hard to follow cos it was just that.....but I read it all the same.....cos some of it got to me......Shame ........she's gone now and I hope ye are all happy and reaaaaallll proud of yerselves. Dolores |
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"Kristen313" wrote in message ... Kristen, there are people here with vision problems, with learning disabilities, with all kinds of characteristics that might have made that particular post hard for them to read. Maybe she's just saying that it's hard to read. Maybe that's the whole point of that comment. Come on, do you really believe that? Could have saved myself a post.....and just typed Agreed on this one......ah welll.....I reply as I read, other wise I get lost....and that aint hard....lol Dolores |
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