Dr. Phil

"Lisa aka Surfer" wrote in message
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What would you personally
consider makes a 'good man' all political considerations aside?

A good man is a loving, kind, and considerate father. He stands by his
children and spouse regardless of the ups and downs. He communicates
openly with his wife about the children and works with her as a united
team for the benefit of the family unit. He makes himself available and
takes an interest in the children's interests. He wants to spend time
with them because he genuinely likes them.

As a husband, someone who asks, "How are you doing?" and means it.
Someone who is honest, open, trustworthy and will not betray my
confidences. Someone who sees me as a woman and not just a mother,
housekeeper, or any of the other roles that I take on in life... and one
who cherishes the marriage by doing things that are special to us as a
couple. He would be intelligent and make me laugh but know when it's
time to be serious too. He would not be prone to angry outbursts but be
passionate about life and have a wide range of interests. He must be
able to express himself without being demanding or putting others down.



Why Kate, how interesting, that's the exact man that PROPOSED TO ME on
Saturday.

Can you believe it? We're getting married ))))))

Lisa


Congrats... at least one of us has got their happy ending. (Ya ya you
too Bri. lol)

Christine

"Dennis Here" youreply
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CME wrote in message ...

"Dennis Here" wrote in message

I'll collect you from Dublin airport ;-)


LOL don't tease me Dennis... I'm a sucker for Irish men.


Phew!
Lucky I'm English :-p

Dennis


Ah well, then... but it's not like English men are exempt from the dashing
romantic stereotype.

Christine

Dennis Here youreply
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'Kate 'Kate wrote in message ...

"Andrew

"Dennis Here" wrote in message

And plenty of women know how to stand beside a flat tyred car looking
helpless and letting a gallant male do the job when they are quite
capable
of changing the wheel themselves.



You never think about the obvious until its pointed out. That very
example
is one I have done many times. I can also recall getting calls on the
mobile
to dash over and rescue people by changing tyres. I'm going to have to
lie
down and review it all now. Hmm.



When you do that, include that many women haven't been exposed to car
repair.

So how do you explain the fact that a woman can work out what has gone
wrong
with a complex piece of engineering, like a sewing machine, in a few
seconds, whilst a man cannot?

Dennis



I will add that in my previous job, I ran a huge machine and did mechanical
work on it. When trouble shooting with my official mechanic, I would often
help and even have the answers. I would say I am more mechanical then some
guys I know. I just don't prefer to do that sort of thing.

T

"Dennis Here" youreply
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CME wrote in message ...


Damn, that's what I need right about now.. a man to hold me to his chest
for
strength and comfort...

K, I'm buying that ticket to Ireland. lol


In that case I'll pop into the shower before I drive to the airport. Just
home from a hard day on a building site.
You don't mind a muscular chest and powerful biceps do you?

Dennis


*cough* uhhh no, not at all... Got that pic Kate and I were reminiscing
about? lol Damn, perhaps it's time for a new one though. lol

Christine

Dennis Here youreply
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Tiffany wrote in message ...

I have dated men who didn't know **** about a car either BTW.


But could they do the washing without shrinking your woolly jumper?

Dennis



lol.... I have always done my own laundry. But if a guy even does my
laundry, I will marry him.

Dennis Here youreply
wrote in message ...

CME wrote in message ...


Damn, that's what I need right about now.. a man to hold me to his chest
for
strength and comfort...

K, I'm buying that ticket to Ireland. lol


In that case I'll pop into the shower before I drive to the airport. Just
home from a hard day on a building site.
You don't mind a muscular chest and powerful biceps do you?

Dennis



omg Dennis... I didn't think you were one to toot your own horn. lol

T

Lisa aka Surfer wrote in message ...

Why Kate, how interesting, that's the exact man that PROPOSED TO ME on
Saturday.

Can you believe it? We're getting married ))))))

I think news like this deserves it's own thread!

Joelle
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St
Augustine
Joelle

"Paul Fritz" wrote in message
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"Dennis Here" youreply
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CME wrote in message ...


Damn, that's what I need right about now.. a man to hold me to his
chest
for
strength and comfort...

K, I'm buying that ticket to Ireland. lol


In that case I'll pop into the shower before I drive to the airport.
Just
home from a hard day on a building site.
You don't mind a muscular chest and powerful biceps do you?

Not mentioning the beer gut and missing teeth? LOL........sorry, I was
thinking american constuction workers ;-)


LOL, oh yeah baby...

Christine

"Dennis Here" youreply
wrote in message ...

CME wrote in message ...


Damn, that's what I need right about now.. a man to hold me to his chest
for
strength and comfort...

K, I'm buying that ticket to Ireland. lol


In that case I'll pop into the shower before I drive to the airport. Just
home from a hard day on a building site.
You don't mind a muscular chest and powerful biceps do you?

Not mentioning the beer gut and missing teeth? LOL........sorry, I was
thinking american constuction workers ;-)


Dennis

"Andrew" wrote in message ...


I have to say though that the roles still play a 'role' in my life. I have a
tendency to define myself as a man by my ability to look after my family,
and in this context look after generally means financial and
confrontational. I need to be able to provide enough money to keep my family
well, if anyone hassles any of my immediate circle then it is my role to
confront the 'hassler' and take some remedial action. This may only mean
taking the little brat to its mother and telling the mother that an apology
to my child might be in order in addition to some proper discipline at home
(or it could mean the Charles Bronson I'll come after you guys route, don't
know, in the four and a half year old circles not many gangsters or murders
as yet!) and I do tend to think of more household responsibilities when I
think of the female role. In practice, though, what each party does in any
relationship I have been involved in tends to be sort of mutually agreed
even if some of it just sort of happens like the potato peeling turning into
my responsibility (as I said I like it cos I find it easy, I'm really quick
and if I'm doing that I can't be given any other jobs I consider to be
lousy). In some ways single parent hood has been good in that its certainly
taught me a lot and I can do all the jobs required, know what is involved in
each so I know when and where sacrifices are being made. HanK is right in
that in some ways it is easier when there is no negotiation, you just get on
with all the jobs and make all the decisions, however it is also hard in
that there is lots to be done to bring a child up and I do think 2 would be
better. Sorry, rambling, good old Budweiser time outs! Anyhoo, with what I
know now and have been through I think I am a better person and a better
parent

Andrew

PS (still not tempted to buy an animated T shirt to go with my inspirational
emails though!)

You can do anything you put your mind too.
Don't feel like you are rambling. You should have seen me at the
Mexican restaurant with the Coronas...dah dah dah dah hahhhh (mexican
hat dance and a full stomach of beer and tamals do not mix!)
V