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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
HI,
I didn't know so many responded to my problems with my little brother (through Big Brothers Big Sisters) because I didn't check the newsgroup. I don't agree with some of you by the way you are blaming me and seem to be giving me wrong for what happened with him. I don't think I explained the situation correctly, so here is another attempt. The fact is that this kid has problems, and his mother did nothing to even try to talk about it. His mother wasn't even there when the problems happened, but she writes two 3 page emails degrading me and my wife. Based on what she heard from my little and his grandmother, she came to her own conclusion, taking the word of her 13 year old son, then slandering us without even hearing what I had to say. This kid wants to take over, orders you around, is rude to everyone he has come in contact with, including my wife, my family, my friends, and even a kid his age who has told me he was obnoxious. I have become friends with this kid who is his age (who I introduced him to in the first place) and later learned that he and his mother couldn't stand my little's family. This after I tried countless times to get this kid and my little together so they could be friends because my little really has no friends. I tried to show him a good experience by taking him places, exposing him to other people, so he could be sociable, but he and his mother didn't appreciate it. One of you even faulted me for showing up late to his house. For what I did for this kid, he should be kissing my feet. My wife and I recently built a house, and we lived in a hotel for 6 months while I had to scramble to complete a house because my builder abandoned my project. During this time, I drove 40 miles each week from the hotel to my little's house to see him. So I was 1 hour late for the 9 hours I would spend with him every week. Big deal. I put up with his crap and never complained, so he could wait 1 hour. If this situation turned out differently, I would have had him over my house when it was done. I was always consistent with this kid, did a lot for him, and spent more than the required time with him. My wife was there only about 50% of the time. This kid had enough time with me alone, so nobody can say she was in the way. My little had no right to insult my wife by saying "Why did you come?" And there were times he would tell us to "get out of the car" when we arrived at our destination. This kid is plain rude, arrogant, and he has no manners, but he gets this from his mother who is just like him. "You see the parent, you see the child." This kid lost out. 3 boys, my little being the oldest (now 14), the others are 13 and 10. The match with the 10 year old went bad soon after it started, and I am waiting for the 13 year old to have problems. A situation made worse because of the type of mother they have. And the strange thing is that the step-father seems to side with me, but his wife can't know this. Funny thing is that I recently participated in a Big Brothers Big Sisters bowling event, and I met a woman who heard the mother's side of the story. Without hearing my side of the story, this lady (who I never met before) immediately sided with me, and she said that the things that her son said were rude, and that this kid has problems. I almost fell down because one would think by telling your side of the story would make you look good. This shows that there isn't really isn't any meat to her side of the story since I was so good to this kid and had some good ideas for him after we were settled in our house. His mother ended our 2 year relationship just 1 week before we moved into our house. My wife was glad it ended because we were having fights over him. My brothers 11 year old step-daughter (who is autistic) was called "brain dead" by my little, that her mother was mad at me. Those of you who didn't agree with me the last time, do I now get a little more support from you? The bottom line is that the kid was never corrected by his mother, thus she is approving of his behavior. This is why this kid has 2 friends (according to his mother), one friend who's sister doesn't like him. Yes, he needed a big brother, and that was me, but he was beyond with what I or any other big brother could provide because he needs professional help, and so does his mother. Rob |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
"Rob" wrote in message om... to "get out of the car" when we arrived at our destination. This kid is plain rude, arrogant, and he has no manners, but he gets this from his mother who is just like him. "You see the parent, you see the child." Those of you who didn't agree with me the last time, do I now get a little more support from you? The bottom line is that the kid was never corrected by his mother, thus she is approving of his behavior. This is why this kid has 2 friends (according to his mother), one friend who's sister doesn't like him. Yes, he needed a big brother, and that was me, but he was beyond with what I or any other big brother could provide because he needs professional help, and so does his mother. You get no support from me. If that's what you think of the kid, why are you with him? He doesn't deserve a big brother like that. Sure, he has problems, but you're not helping. |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
"Rob" wrote in message om... HI, One of you even faulted me for showing up late to his house. For what I did for this kid, he should be kissing my feet. He should kiss your feet? You have a crappy attitude about the whole thing. You shouldn't be in the BB/BS program with this type of attitude. I was always consistent with this kid, did a lot for him, and spent more than the required time with him. My wife was there only about 50% of the time. The idea of the program was for him to have a male role model/friend, not for you to hang out with your wife and bring him along for the ride. This kid is plain rude, arrogant, and he has no manners, but he gets this from his mother who is just like him. "You see the parent, you see the child." From everything I read here (and in your prior posts) you are the rude and arrogant one. Those of you who didn't agree with me the last time, do I now get a little more support from you? Nope. Maybe if your attitude were different. But not from what I've read. Sorry, but I think that maybe you just aren't suited personality wise for the BB/BS program. You seem to think it is about YOU, which it isn't supposed to be. |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
"Rob" wrote in message om... HI, For what I did for this kid, he should be kissing my feet. Holy smokes, I can't believe you said that!!! Being a big brother is about children in need, not your ego! Do this kid a favour, stop being his big brother. He obviously needs someone who is more understanding and compassionate than you are. I don't think you are an ideal candidate to be a big brother either. Kids, even those with major attitude problems, in situations like these need a lot of love and support, something you are obviously not prepared to give. |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
In article , Rob says...
HI, Those of you who didn't agree with me the last time, do I now get a little more support from you? The bottom line is that the kid was never corrected by his mother, thus she is approving of his behavior. This is why this kid has 2 friends (according to his mother), one friend who's sister doesn't like him. Yes, he needed a big brother, and that was me, but he was beyond with what I or any other big brother could provide because he needs professional help, and so does his mother. Rob As others have posted, there still are problems from your side, too. YES this kid has problems that's WHY HE NEEDS A BIG BROTHER. But my fundmental question for you is - obviously this wasn't working. We told you that last time. I see no changes from either end. Why did you persist? Banty |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
In article , Banty says...
In article , Rob says... HI, Those of you who didn't agree with me the last time, do I now get a little more support from you? The bottom line is that the kid was never corrected by his mother, thus she is approving of his behavior. This is why this kid has 2 friends (according to his mother), one friend who's sister doesn't like him. Yes, he needed a big brother, and that was me, but he was beyond with what I or any other big brother could provide because he needs professional help, and so does his mother. Rob As others have posted, there still are problems from your side, too. YES this kid has problems that's WHY HE NEEDS A BIG BROTHER. Acutally, I should correct this. BB/BS isn't necessarily about kids who are very troubled. It's about kids who need a consistent non-parental adult influence in their lives. But still, if the match is bad, the match is bad. Banty |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
I didn't know so many responded to my problems with my little brother (through Big Brothers Big Sisters) because I didn't check the newsgroup. Then why on earth did you post to it? You should be kissing my feet for taking the time out of my life to respond to your childish post. Please don't post to this group if you have no intention of interacting with the group. jo |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
In article , jojo says...
I didn't know so many responded to my problems with my little brother (through Big Brothers Big Sisters) because I didn't check the newsgroup. Then why on earth did you post to it? You should be kissing my feet for taking the time out of my life to respond to your childish post. Please don't post to this group if you have no intention of interacting with the group. jo Now hold on, this is a USENET newsgroup, not a club. People drop in and drop out of these discussion groups all the time depending on the topics of the groups and their current concerns. Banty |
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Big Brothers Big Sisters Problem (Follow Up To September Posting)
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Banty wrote: In article , jojo says... I didn't know so many responded to my problems with my little brother (through Big Brothers Big Sisters) because I didn't check the newsgroup. Then why on earth did you post to it? You should be kissing my feet for taking the time out of my life to respond to your childish post. Please don't post to this group if you have no intention of interacting with the group. jo Now hold on, this is a USENET newsgroup, not a club. People drop in and drop out of these discussion groups all the time depending on the topics of the groups and their current concerns. Banty Yeah, but it does seem kind of odd to pop in with a question, then not check back to see if people have responded to it! -- Children won't care how much you know until they know how much you care |
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