18 Week Ultrasound Details..

Anyway I am due May 18...and kind of
hoping time flies! (Then I want time to
stop!)

ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!........

I'm due ( may 21st )...;-)

: Argh, why is my mom so purposely annoying?

Good grief, Jill, I do feel for you. Is slipping a valium into her coffee
out of the question? Just kidding!!!

With my mother, I will accept anything she wants to give me whether I like
it or not. I do welcome advice about not buying anything that won't be
used; I have no idea what will or won't since I'm ignorant to the whole
mother thing.

But, man, if she was on me like your's, I would blow up!!! LOL! I'm not
recommending it, mind you.

Hang in there. You are the mommy. You can do whatever you want. You hold
all the power in that relationship. Don't abuse it, but perhaps you may
find that you need to remind her.

~Carol Ann

"Carol Ann" wrote

But, man, if she was on me like your's, I would blow up!!! LOL! I'm not
recommending it, mind you.

Hang in there. You are the mommy. You can do whatever you want. You
hold
all the power in that relationship. Don't abuse it, but perhaps you may
find that you need to remind her.

~Carol Ann

That's why I have to vent (at length)- to me it is unbelievable that she
could be this way, and get actually WORSE over the years!!!! !!!

I welcome advice, but she doesn't offer advice. She offers you situations
that you can't win- if a newborn outfit is not the satisfactory kind of
outfit for a newborn then what is?? (She seems to be just mad that she isn't
pivking everything out, and also, she doesn't seem to want me to get any new
things that I want. Like the way she is being over the registry. I
APPreciate that my former coworkers are throwing me a shower. They alone
bought us hundreds of dollars of wedding gifts. If I register for it,
chances are, I will get it, and my mom doesn't like that. She also doesn't
want to buy the crib or anything substantial which is fine, we don't need
anyone to, but doesn't like that my inlaws are thrilled to buy it) etc etc.

I hate that I can't even go shopping with her for 30 minutes without wanting
to bang my head on the floor. I get really adolescent anger spurts toward
her but who wouldn't?? This is not a normal woman. I hoped she would behave
during the ultrasound. I figured she would cause a scene-- sniffling,
clutching her chest, wailing "My baby is having a babyyyyyyyy"- drama along
those lines, but she topped herself, by taking up the entire hour demanding
that the u/s tech (the very very patient tech!) keep reshowing her
everything about 10 minutes after we had moved on.

I just can't say anything good about her because she has been so
distressingly annoying- all my life, but worse during this pregnancy. (She
is also verbally abusive. I tell the absurd, dumb stuff, but not a lot of
the other things she says). ugh............my MIL can be annoying but she is
not , I repeat NOT, like that.

My mom used to babysit her friends' babies and I have seen what she does and
thnks is funny and it is going make my head explode. For example, if someone
leaves a kid with her and tells her not to bottle feed, she does anyway. She
did this with a 3-4 year old girl whose parents were having an impossible
time getting her to stop throwing tantrums for her bottle. They asked her
not to give her one when she cried, but when they told my mom that, she made
sure to have one EVERY time the girl came over! (I was a teenager then and I
remember being annoyed). Also, my mom does dumb IMO things, such as thinks
it is cute to give babies chocolate syrup because it s a treat etc. If I
want to breastfeed, she sees no harm in always having formula at her house.
The only way I AM in control of this is not to leave my baby there ever.
Then she will b*tch about THAT like I am keeping the baby away from her...I
could go on and on. It is ugly.

Also my mom has always loved to put infants in the pool. She watches them
very carefully but to me 1- you DON'T put a kid in diapers into a pool that
other people will be using. and 2- She is careful with the water, but she
thinks it is cute when a baby TANS. I do not. My mom insists people look
better tan, tells me I am pale and sick, and will just keep letting the bbay
in the sun no matter what I say. it is going to be a nightmare.

I started crying to my husband last night out of sheer frustration. He just
ignores her. And says you can't control her. But I DO NOT want her doing
stuff like this. I feel out of control, with my own baby, like she and my
MIL both will do whatever they want anyway no matter what I say for my
baby....and my husband won't back me up, he says just let them be grandmas.
It p*sses me off, and It is going to be the cause of some words.

WOW Jill,
I just finished to read the posts. You got a handfull with your mother.
Because she loves you you seem to find a way to deal with her. I think that
once Rachel comes, things will change. It will be so wonderful for you and
DH that everything else will take second place.
Speaking of outfits this morning I went to WalMart and I found the cutest
patterns for dresses for our little girl. I really enjoy needlepoint and
quilting and I thought to give it a try. If they don't come out nice I won't
be too upset. My in-laws in Ireland are superstitious about buying things
just for the baby before she is born, so they are waiting for the end of
March. Being the first grandchild they are going to be nuts for her. I can
already see how my MIL and FIL are so excited when we give them news on the
progress of the baby.
Anyway sending you lots of pampering vibes (so you can recover very quickly
from your mother's behaviour).
Love
--
Nicky

EDD March 26, '04. It's a girl!

Congratulations Jill.

I have to confess that I really did LOL at your mothers antics whilst
shopping - I think I would just cry if my Mum tried that. Good luck.

Camille