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I'm kind of cheesed off!
I dont' get bothered by the one card phenomenon, and C&E have never
seemed bothered by it, either. The way I see it, there are both good aspects and bad aspects to being a twin, but I think that in the long run, the good aspects -- companionship, as well as early skill in negotiating and diplomacy, resulting from things like dealing with one gift/card -- far outweigh the bad. With the fire truck situation, I would just buy a different, less expensive ride-on toy. No need for the two ride-ons to be exactly alike, nor in my opinion do I think it's desirable for one-year-olds to become accustomed to always having two alike of something. But yes, like a bike, like skis, like other things that I can't think of at the moment but will come to me as soon as I hit send, a ride-on is something of which it makes sense to have two. But they don't have to both be fire trucks. Just my two cents, Julie Mom to little diplomats Erica & Chris, 07/97 Megan Byrne wrote: Oh Brigitte, I could write a book on this and my guys are only one! I haven't said anything about this on the NG's b/c I didn't want to seem selfish, but as you know A & A's first b-day just passed. And the majority gave them 2 gifts and 2 cards, because, as we all know, they are TWO people. They were a few "twin b-day" cards. Anyway, it seems like my IL's are dense. Especially one SIL who is a teacher for goodness sake. She bought them 1 ride-on firetruck. Excuse me?? They love it, but so much that they fight over it constantly. Screaming, pushing. I have to take it away from them. So now, in one of my free moments, yeah right, I have to get another one. And, money is not an issue for my SIL. Anyway, that is my major, major vent. I am sure that we just have years of this to come. I guess next time I have twins I should have themn at 11:59p and 12:01a. Would different days prove that they are different people??? Megan Mommy to miracle twins... Aidan & Alexis Born 9-28-02 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
Of course, I would buy them a different ride-on toy. Buying "another
one" just really meant another ride on. Maybe I will find a police car!! Megan Mommy to miracle twins... Aidan & Alexis Born 9-28-02 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
Of course, I would buy them a different ride-on toy. Buying "another
one" just really meant another ride on. Maybe I will find a police car!! Megan Mommy to miracle twins... Aidan & Alexis Born 9-28-02 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
You know this thread brings up a pet peeve of mine. Like some of you, I *do*
find importance/significance placed on the girls receiving their own cards. I keep many things to make collages out of, etc. that they can choose to keep or pitch when they get older. It also tends to stand for the "individual" importance we place on them happening to be born at the same time. With that, I also can easily see how some might not find it a big deal at all. My pet peeve is this: The gift is for the receiver not for the giver. So, why is it so hard for a giver to simply ask if there is a preference. I know, I know...some people may not think to ask if they have no reason to believe otherwise. But, I have relatives who I know are asking eachother what they are doing about "the girls" and say they did what was easiest on them. I don't get it. If someone is strapped for time or $ I truly believe a simple phone call is the thought that would matter most. But, in my personal experience, it seems givers often would rather just do what is easiest on them with little thought. A MIL who would give a single card to both grandchildren? Seems kinda frustrating to me. A SIL (who financially can) chooses to buy one ride-on toy for toddlers to share may have simply chosen a gift she wasn't sure that both children would like and just opted for one? Hopefully she did have really good intentions, but why didn't she just ask? Hmm... me thinks I am making a big rambling deal out of a thought Chalk it up to a typical Mom needing some rest lol. Just got caught up in the thread. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
You know this thread brings up a pet peeve of mine. Like some of you, I *do*
find importance/significance placed on the girls receiving their own cards. I keep many things to make collages out of, etc. that they can choose to keep or pitch when they get older. It also tends to stand for the "individual" importance we place on them happening to be born at the same time. With that, I also can easily see how some might not find it a big deal at all. My pet peeve is this: The gift is for the receiver not for the giver. So, why is it so hard for a giver to simply ask if there is a preference. I know, I know...some people may not think to ask if they have no reason to believe otherwise. But, I have relatives who I know are asking eachother what they are doing about "the girls" and say they did what was easiest on them. I don't get it. If someone is strapped for time or $ I truly believe a simple phone call is the thought that would matter most. But, in my personal experience, it seems givers often would rather just do what is easiest on them with little thought. A MIL who would give a single card to both grandchildren? Seems kinda frustrating to me. A SIL (who financially can) chooses to buy one ride-on toy for toddlers to share may have simply chosen a gift she wasn't sure that both children would like and just opted for one? Hopefully she did have really good intentions, but why didn't she just ask? Hmm... me thinks I am making a big rambling deal out of a thought Chalk it up to a typical Mom needing some rest lol. Just got caught up in the thread. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
"David desJardins" wrote in message ... I personally sort of like the idea of giving one card. I guess I don't much care for cards at all---they seem like a waste because they just get thrown out soon after---so giving one instead of two seems like an improvement. To the extent that the card has value, it's just as an indicator that the giver has remembered and appreciates the event: I don't think buying two cards instead of one card really indicates any more appreciation. Presents seem like a different matter. David desJardins I agree with you on this one, David. Most people around me seem to save cards though, so I can understand why this would be important to people. I'm one of those people that throws things like cards out quickly. I don't like to hold onto things that, IMO, just cause clutter. -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
"David desJardins" wrote in message ... I personally sort of like the idea of giving one card. I guess I don't much care for cards at all---they seem like a waste because they just get thrown out soon after---so giving one instead of two seems like an improvement. To the extent that the card has value, it's just as an indicator that the giver has remembered and appreciates the event: I don't think buying two cards instead of one card really indicates any more appreciation. Presents seem like a different matter. David desJardins I agree with you on this one, David. Most people around me seem to save cards though, so I can understand why this would be important to people. I'm one of those people that throws things like cards out quickly. I don't like to hold onto things that, IMO, just cause clutter. -- Leslie Alex and Jordan, 06 May 2000 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
Missy,
I forgot to add this,which really PO's me...the SIL that bought A & A the ride-on toy, has also bought a ride-on toy for my 2 nephews on their first b-day. That seems to be her "1st Bday" gift. Now, my 2 nephews, who are not brothers, rec'd their own toy and I am sure that my 3rd nephew, who will be 1 in March, will get his own. So, why didn't A & A?? Now, doesn't that make you even more teed? Megan Mommy to miracle twins... Aidan & Alexis Born 9-28-02 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
Missy,
I forgot to add this,which really PO's me...the SIL that bought A & A the ride-on toy, has also bought a ride-on toy for my 2 nephews on their first b-day. That seems to be her "1st Bday" gift. Now, my 2 nephews, who are not brothers, rec'd their own toy and I am sure that my 3rd nephew, who will be 1 in March, will get his own. So, why didn't A & A?? Now, doesn't that make you even more teed? Megan Mommy to miracle twins... Aidan & Alexis Born 9-28-02 |
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I'm kind of cheesed off!
So, why didn't A & A??
Now, doesn't that make you even more teed? You bet! I kept trying to find a nice reason why she didn't get them their own gift. But, I still didn't understand why she didn't just ask you first. Sadly, it seems clear that benefit of the doubt isn't going to work for her. Argh! That would have hurt my feelings or brought out the protective mama in me at least in to a small extent. Let's face it, it stinks when our little one(s) may not be treated as we believe they should. It kind of makes you wonder if it will get better or worse with time as each birthday passes with the relative. It's got to be frustrating for you. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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