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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
Actually, you are somewhat right. Dr. Lapke said that it's about 2 years
after the breast buds start that girls get their periods. So I assume it will be about 10 or so. In addition, she is very tall for her age (tallest in her class) and projected to be about my height 5'8". Right now she is almost 5 feet tall. I'm assuming that this coming year will be a very big growth stage for her. She's wearing size 0 for pants and size 9 shoes (well some 8.5). I do know about the emotional side to this issue too as I had to handle it. Again, I think having gone through it early I can help Kathleen adjust too. Her best friend is exactly at the same stage of development as she is so hopefully they can go through this rite together. Shirley "Unadulterated Me" wrote in message ... Chotii wrote: "shirley" wrote in message news:UuFDc.162499$3x.76282@attbi_s54... Kathleen started to develop breasts at 8 and some odd and end hair! Needless to say I rushed her to the doctor who said she was perfectly normal. Since that day she has developed rapidly. At 9.5 (one more month) she is fully matured physically, growing daily and I swear she'll be borrowing my bra's within no time - and my shoes - she wears a size 8.5-9. I have no idea why your doctor considers onset of menarche at 8 to be "perfectly normal". Little girls are not meant to be mature women at the age of 8, or 9, or 10. They're certainly not prepared emotionally to deal with the sexual attention they WILL get as a result of being sexually mature. Not to mention that early puberty puts her at higher risk for breast cancer (and by the way, could have been treated with estrogen-antagonist medication). I think you were right to rush her to the doctor. I think he did you a disservice. http://www.center4policy.org/children11.html http://www.007b.com/early_puberty.php http://www.drgreene.com/21_356.html --angela I don't think Shirley said she had started her period, only that her breasts were growing and her physique was changing, that can start as early as 8, though 8 is on the early side, from experience with my daughters and their friends those that started developing around 9 tended to have their period by 11. Interestingly those girls are very short and stocky/dumpy type physiques, not sure if early development stunts the growth or if a stockier type body shape leads it's self to earlier puberty. I know the earlier you get your period the shorter you will be as once it starts upward growth is slowed considerably (why put energy into going up when you need it for padding and filling) but not sure if their is a correlation with simply pubescent development. A |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
Actually, you are somewhat right. Dr. Lapke said that it's about 2 years
after the breast buds start that girls get their periods. So I assume it will be about 10 or so. In addition, she is very tall for her age (tallest in her class) and projected to be about my height 5'8". Right now she is almost 5 feet tall. I'm assuming that this coming year will be a very big growth stage for her. She's wearing size 0 for pants and size 9 shoes (well some 8.5). I do know about the emotional side to this issue too as I had to handle it. Again, I think having gone through it early I can help Kathleen adjust too. Her best friend is exactly at the same stage of development as she is so hopefully they can go through this rite together. Shirley "Unadulterated Me" wrote in message ... Chotii wrote: "shirley" wrote in message news:UuFDc.162499$3x.76282@attbi_s54... Kathleen started to develop breasts at 8 and some odd and end hair! Needless to say I rushed her to the doctor who said she was perfectly normal. Since that day she has developed rapidly. At 9.5 (one more month) she is fully matured physically, growing daily and I swear she'll be borrowing my bra's within no time - and my shoes - she wears a size 8.5-9. I have no idea why your doctor considers onset of menarche at 8 to be "perfectly normal". Little girls are not meant to be mature women at the age of 8, or 9, or 10. They're certainly not prepared emotionally to deal with the sexual attention they WILL get as a result of being sexually mature. Not to mention that early puberty puts her at higher risk for breast cancer (and by the way, could have been treated with estrogen-antagonist medication). I think you were right to rush her to the doctor. I think he did you a disservice. http://www.center4policy.org/children11.html http://www.007b.com/early_puberty.php http://www.drgreene.com/21_356.html --angela I don't think Shirley said she had started her period, only that her breasts were growing and her physique was changing, that can start as early as 8, though 8 is on the early side, from experience with my daughters and their friends those that started developing around 9 tended to have their period by 11. Interestingly those girls are very short and stocky/dumpy type physiques, not sure if early development stunts the growth or if a stockier type body shape leads it's self to earlier puberty. I know the earlier you get your period the shorter you will be as once it starts upward growth is slowed considerably (why put energy into going up when you need it for padding and filling) but not sure if their is a correlation with simply pubescent development. A |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!! - Shirley
This certainly isn't meant to be any form of a scientific poll (didn't want you
to think I'm that crazy), but all 4 of my nieces from different families needed their first bras at the age of 8. 2 of them are adults and have average B and C cups. I recall talking with my friends of older children and learning that this is very normal in their homes as well. Also, each generation shows an earlier age of puberty than the one before. Just as feet are larger, people avg. a taller height, babies are born at a heavier avg. weight, etc. I wouldn't give a second thought to there being anything wrong or unusual with your daughter. She sounds perfectly normal and so does your doctor, IMO. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!! - Shirley
This certainly isn't meant to be any form of a scientific poll (didn't want you
to think I'm that crazy), but all 4 of my nieces from different families needed their first bras at the age of 8. 2 of them are adults and have average B and C cups. I recall talking with my friends of older children and learning that this is very normal in their homes as well. Also, each generation shows an earlier age of puberty than the one before. Just as feet are larger, people avg. a taller height, babies are born at a heavier avg. weight, etc. I wouldn't give a second thought to there being anything wrong or unusual with your daughter. She sounds perfectly normal and so does your doctor, IMO. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!! - Shirley
This certainly isn't meant to be any form of a scientific poll (didn't want you
to think I'm that crazy), but all 4 of my nieces from different families needed their first bras at the age of 8. 2 of them are adults and have average B and C cups. I recall talking with my friends of older children and learning that this is very normal in their homes as well. Also, each generation shows an earlier age of puberty than the one before. Just as feet are larger, people avg. a taller height, babies are born at a heavier avg. weight, etc. I wouldn't give a second thought to there being anything wrong or unusual with your daughter. She sounds perfectly normal and so does your doctor, IMO. Missy in Indiana http://hometown.aol.com/mhrust/overviewforng.html Morgan Olivia & Julia Lucille 4/28/01 (YAY!) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
First I want to say that I am a long-term poster here who normally uses a
different name. Since parts of this might embarrass my kids down the line, I have changed user names and won't name my kids, but just say that they are 6yo. That way, hopefully years from now when one of their schoolmates discovers google groups, my kids won't be embarrassed. The subject first came up at our house in the bathtub when the kids were 2 and my daughter asked about my son's penis and noted that she didn't have one. I had once read that one should avoid the explanation that "boys have penises and girls don't" as it might imply that girls are missing something, so instead to say "Boys have penises and girls have vaginas." Both of my kids subsequently mispronounced the parts -- "peanuts" and "ginas". My daughter would occasionally repeat to me (usually in the produce aisle of the supermarket, or the library, or some other public place...) "Boys have peanuts, girls have gina". No one who heard this EVER figured out what she was really trying to say, and I never corrected her pronunciation as that way I didn't have to worry as much about the supermarket clerks getting an anatomy lesson from a 2-year-old. Her brother continued to say "peanuts" for penis until he was nearly 4 or so (and I did at one point explain that it had nothing to do with the "peanuts" that come in a jar or in peanutbutter). Anyway, I agree that real words should be used whenever possible when the child asks questions (though no need, imho, to introduce topics that the kids haven't expressed an interest in), and since Jenna is specifically saying "No, mama, what's it called?", I like Helen's response. I will add that I have not yet told my daughter about menstruation, as she gets COMPLETELY flipped out by blood (not pain, just blood), and she's not quite ready for it. She's getting better on this one, though. "looneybird" wrote in message ... For all of you out there, especially with b/g twins, or b/g children period I guess... here goes. I knew this dreaded day would come. Charlie has known for over a year now that he pees from him penis. Around that same time, also asked what Jenna had. So, we've just always kept it simple by saying that "Boys have penises, and girls don't." He was always satisfied with that answer. Then she started asking too, and we told her the same thing. Pretty satisfied. Then it was "Do you have a penis, Mommy?" "No, Mommy is a girl, so no penis." Satisfied. Recently, Jenna has become frustrated with that answer and wants more specifics. She'll say "No, Mommy... what is it (pointing to herself) *called*?" We decided early on that we weren't going to use baby talk (pee pee, winkie, etc.) and decided to tell them both the correct term for their anatomical parts. Penis was easy. I have a real problem with telling her that *her's* is a vagina. We are absolutely *not* talking about her vagina, we are talking about where her urine comes from, right? So, I decided to tell her that it is her urethra. DH pointed out "Well, men have urethras too." So I thought maybe "urethral *opening*? How's that for a mouthful... especially for a 4 year old! Now she's been pointing to it saying "This is my Aretha!" What are some of the solutions you have used? Any advice? As flustered as I probably sound in this post, I actually remain quite calm and usually answer very matter of factly and divert their attention... "Yes, Charlie has a penis and you have a urethra... You have a nose and so does Charlie! What else do you have that Charlie has?" Oh... and she's been asking about breasts. Up until now, I've just called it her chest. When she asks about why mine is different, I just explain that girls chests grow as they get older. I'm obviously *not* ready for all this! LOL Someone help me! Lynn (Mommy to Charlie and Jenna 8/30/00) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
First I want to say that I am a long-term poster here who normally uses a
different name. Since parts of this might embarrass my kids down the line, I have changed user names and won't name my kids, but just say that they are 6yo. That way, hopefully years from now when one of their schoolmates discovers google groups, my kids won't be embarrassed. The subject first came up at our house in the bathtub when the kids were 2 and my daughter asked about my son's penis and noted that she didn't have one. I had once read that one should avoid the explanation that "boys have penises and girls don't" as it might imply that girls are missing something, so instead to say "Boys have penises and girls have vaginas." Both of my kids subsequently mispronounced the parts -- "peanuts" and "ginas". My daughter would occasionally repeat to me (usually in the produce aisle of the supermarket, or the library, or some other public place...) "Boys have peanuts, girls have gina". No one who heard this EVER figured out what she was really trying to say, and I never corrected her pronunciation as that way I didn't have to worry as much about the supermarket clerks getting an anatomy lesson from a 2-year-old. Her brother continued to say "peanuts" for penis until he was nearly 4 or so (and I did at one point explain that it had nothing to do with the "peanuts" that come in a jar or in peanutbutter). Anyway, I agree that real words should be used whenever possible when the child asks questions (though no need, imho, to introduce topics that the kids haven't expressed an interest in), and since Jenna is specifically saying "No, mama, what's it called?", I like Helen's response. I will add that I have not yet told my daughter about menstruation, as she gets COMPLETELY flipped out by blood (not pain, just blood), and she's not quite ready for it. She's getting better on this one, though. "looneybird" wrote in message ... For all of you out there, especially with b/g twins, or b/g children period I guess... here goes. I knew this dreaded day would come. Charlie has known for over a year now that he pees from him penis. Around that same time, also asked what Jenna had. So, we've just always kept it simple by saying that "Boys have penises, and girls don't." He was always satisfied with that answer. Then she started asking too, and we told her the same thing. Pretty satisfied. Then it was "Do you have a penis, Mommy?" "No, Mommy is a girl, so no penis." Satisfied. Recently, Jenna has become frustrated with that answer and wants more specifics. She'll say "No, Mommy... what is it (pointing to herself) *called*?" We decided early on that we weren't going to use baby talk (pee pee, winkie, etc.) and decided to tell them both the correct term for their anatomical parts. Penis was easy. I have a real problem with telling her that *her's* is a vagina. We are absolutely *not* talking about her vagina, we are talking about where her urine comes from, right? So, I decided to tell her that it is her urethra. DH pointed out "Well, men have urethras too." So I thought maybe "urethral *opening*? How's that for a mouthful... especially for a 4 year old! Now she's been pointing to it saying "This is my Aretha!" What are some of the solutions you have used? Any advice? As flustered as I probably sound in this post, I actually remain quite calm and usually answer very matter of factly and divert their attention... "Yes, Charlie has a penis and you have a urethra... You have a nose and so does Charlie! What else do you have that Charlie has?" Oh... and she's been asking about breasts. Up until now, I've just called it her chest. When she asks about why mine is different, I just explain that girls chests grow as they get older. I'm obviously *not* ready for all this! LOL Someone help me! Lynn (Mommy to Charlie and Jenna 8/30/00) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
First I want to say that I am a long-term poster here who normally uses a
different name. Since parts of this might embarrass my kids down the line, I have changed user names and won't name my kids, but just say that they are 6yo. That way, hopefully years from now when one of their schoolmates discovers google groups, my kids won't be embarrassed. The subject first came up at our house in the bathtub when the kids were 2 and my daughter asked about my son's penis and noted that she didn't have one. I had once read that one should avoid the explanation that "boys have penises and girls don't" as it might imply that girls are missing something, so instead to say "Boys have penises and girls have vaginas." Both of my kids subsequently mispronounced the parts -- "peanuts" and "ginas". My daughter would occasionally repeat to me (usually in the produce aisle of the supermarket, or the library, or some other public place...) "Boys have peanuts, girls have gina". No one who heard this EVER figured out what she was really trying to say, and I never corrected her pronunciation as that way I didn't have to worry as much about the supermarket clerks getting an anatomy lesson from a 2-year-old. Her brother continued to say "peanuts" for penis until he was nearly 4 or so (and I did at one point explain that it had nothing to do with the "peanuts" that come in a jar or in peanutbutter). Anyway, I agree that real words should be used whenever possible when the child asks questions (though no need, imho, to introduce topics that the kids haven't expressed an interest in), and since Jenna is specifically saying "No, mama, what's it called?", I like Helen's response. I will add that I have not yet told my daughter about menstruation, as she gets COMPLETELY flipped out by blood (not pain, just blood), and she's not quite ready for it. She's getting better on this one, though. "looneybird" wrote in message ... For all of you out there, especially with b/g twins, or b/g children period I guess... here goes. I knew this dreaded day would come. Charlie has known for over a year now that he pees from him penis. Around that same time, also asked what Jenna had. So, we've just always kept it simple by saying that "Boys have penises, and girls don't." He was always satisfied with that answer. Then she started asking too, and we told her the same thing. Pretty satisfied. Then it was "Do you have a penis, Mommy?" "No, Mommy is a girl, so no penis." Satisfied. Recently, Jenna has become frustrated with that answer and wants more specifics. She'll say "No, Mommy... what is it (pointing to herself) *called*?" We decided early on that we weren't going to use baby talk (pee pee, winkie, etc.) and decided to tell them both the correct term for their anatomical parts. Penis was easy. I have a real problem with telling her that *her's* is a vagina. We are absolutely *not* talking about her vagina, we are talking about where her urine comes from, right? So, I decided to tell her that it is her urethra. DH pointed out "Well, men have urethras too." So I thought maybe "urethral *opening*? How's that for a mouthful... especially for a 4 year old! Now she's been pointing to it saying "This is my Aretha!" What are some of the solutions you have used? Any advice? As flustered as I probably sound in this post, I actually remain quite calm and usually answer very matter of factly and divert their attention... "Yes, Charlie has a penis and you have a urethra... You have a nose and so does Charlie! What else do you have that Charlie has?" Oh... and she's been asking about breasts. Up until now, I've just called it her chest. When she asks about why mine is different, I just explain that girls chests grow as they get older. I'm obviously *not* ready for all this! LOL Someone help me! Lynn (Mommy to Charlie and Jenna 8/30/00) |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
"Chotii" wrote in message ... And with all this said, if anybody has any suggestions on how to address adult sexuality in ways that won't make the kids go EWWW!, I'd love to know them. Recently my daughter (11) took a 7 week class from Planned Parenthood on sexuality. It was offered by parent choice from a girls treatment for girls with learning differences like my daughter. I was fearful that because she learns differently she would end up getting into serious trouble sexually because she's so gullible and doesn't always get social cues. Anyhow, the class was unbelievably thorough and she actually came back knowing more about sex than most high school grads. They were merciless in explaining how to have safe sex, even to the point of explaining about dental dams. I'm sorry, but even though I'm totally secure in teaching my kids about sex and have never shied away from any topic so far, dental dams really never even crossed my mind as a topic of discussion. Because of this class my DD is completely and totally aware of all the pitfalls of sexuality amongst young teens.She has met several pregnant young teens, one of whom was raped by her stepfather, in this program, and she really has the utmost respect for sexual promiscuity and the problems it can cause. Just today she mentioned something about the Florence Crittenden homes and what they're like. I know this isn't for everyone, but it worked like a charm for my kid, who was in a seriously dangerous position due to her learning differences. I would recommend a class like this to any parent who is concerned that they can't convey safe sex messages to young kids. And if you think 11 is too young, get real. There are plenty of girls in the 11-13 yo age group who are not only having sex, but having babies as well. Marjorie |
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Boy/Girl Anatomy - Ack! They are asking!!!
"Chotii" wrote in message ... And with all this said, if anybody has any suggestions on how to address adult sexuality in ways that won't make the kids go EWWW!, I'd love to know them. Recently my daughter (11) took a 7 week class from Planned Parenthood on sexuality. It was offered by parent choice from a girls treatment for girls with learning differences like my daughter. I was fearful that because she learns differently she would end up getting into serious trouble sexually because she's so gullible and doesn't always get social cues. Anyhow, the class was unbelievably thorough and she actually came back knowing more about sex than most high school grads. They were merciless in explaining how to have safe sex, even to the point of explaining about dental dams. I'm sorry, but even though I'm totally secure in teaching my kids about sex and have never shied away from any topic so far, dental dams really never even crossed my mind as a topic of discussion. Because of this class my DD is completely and totally aware of all the pitfalls of sexuality amongst young teens.She has met several pregnant young teens, one of whom was raped by her stepfather, in this program, and she really has the utmost respect for sexual promiscuity and the problems it can cause. Just today she mentioned something about the Florence Crittenden homes and what they're like. I know this isn't for everyone, but it worked like a charm for my kid, who was in a seriously dangerous position due to her learning differences. I would recommend a class like this to any parent who is concerned that they can't convey safe sex messages to young kids. And if you think 11 is too young, get real. There are plenty of girls in the 11-13 yo age group who are not only having sex, but having babies as well. Marjorie |
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