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Update - child-led potty training
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Kivi went pee and poop on the potty. Ever since last weekend, when she asked for the potty, the only encouragement I gave was "hey, Kivi, I'm going to the bathroom, do you want to go with me?" She would sit on the potty, usually fully clothed, but at bathtime, with a bare bottom. Once she even "wiped" and tossed the TP into the potty. She thought that was pretty funny. Sometimes she chose to go, sometimes she kept playing. Mostly it seemed like she thought it was funny. Sometimes she would follow me of her own accord and sit on the potty. She LOVES the fact that it's also a stepstool - it allows her to reach all sorts of things at the sink. This morning there was a bit of poop in her diaper, so I dropped the poop into the seat where she could see it, and said "see, poop goes in the potty." This afternoon, I happened to notice her straining, so I said "Kivi, do you want to go poop on the potty?" She nodded, so I picked her up and took her to the bathroom. She said "no, no.." as I took off her diaper, but I asked "do you want to go ahead and sit on the potty?" She nodded, and sat. Then she kept sitting. Normally, in her play, she never sat more than 15 seconds. But she kept sitting. I said "when you poop, you grunt like this." And she grinned and grunted a couple of times. So I said "do you want Mommy to sit on the potty too?" She nodded, so I sat and peed and said "Mommy is going pee on the potty". And she KEPT sitting. I had no idea if she was actually doing anything, or just getting a kick out of me fetching things for her (I brought her banannas, because she had JUST told me she was hungry prior to starting this). So she ate a couple of banannas. Then I asked her, "do you want me to get you a book and we could read?" She shook her head no. Then Garrett came in and said "what is she doing?" I said "sitting on the potty." Eventually I looked, and there was poop there!! And then as I was wiping her, I noticed there was also pee in the potty, too. She got a kick out of dumping it into the toilet. Wow. I tend to go overboard, so I need to be careful not to push due to my own excitement. Cathy Weeks Mommy to Kivi Alexis 12/01 |
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Update - child-led potty training
Cathy Weeks wrote: Well.... Kivi went pee and poop on the potty.*snip* This morning there was a bit of poop in her diaper, so I dropped the poop into the seat where she could see it, and said "see, poop goes in the potty." This afternoon, I happened to notice her straining, so I said "Kivi, do you want to go poop on the potty?" *snip* I said "when you poop, you grunt like this." And she grinned and grunted a couple of times. So I said "do you want Mommy to sit on the potty too?" She nodded, so I sat and peed and said "Mommy is going pee on the potty". *snip* Then Garrett came in and said "what is she doing?" I said "sitting on the potty." Eventually I looked, and there was poop there!! And then as I was wiping her, I noticed there was also pee in the potty, too. She got a kick out of dumping it into the toilet. Well DONE!!! I left in the parts that to me show that you made a CLEAR connection for her between what she was feeling and what she should DO, (including grunting!!LOL! Told that to DS too!) As for pushing her...jsut remember that she can only produce when her body's ready to, so keep noting her cues, which obviously you already recognise. And keep making the connecton for her of what she feels and what to do about it. And I'd suggest keeping her in diapers for a little longer, so she doesn't worry about another change. AS for "mistakes", I handle them like you did...show where it should have gone, but no big deal. And I say "poop goes in the potty", too. I say that as he's sitting there "producing" as well. (The other thing I started after reading so many times about kids freaking about flushing was "bye bye poo, we're thru with you!" as we flushed. He's got no problems with it at all, so that's sort of phasd out now) Dawn, cheering for Kivi! (and Cathy!) |
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Update - child-led potty training
Cathy Weeks wrote in message
om... Once she even "wiped" and tossed the TP into the potty. She thought that was pretty funny. Sometimes she chose to go, sometimes she kept playing. Mostly it seemed like she thought it was funny. Sometimes she would follow me of her own accord and sit on the potty. This kind of "play" is how kids learn. It looks like play since she's not "really" using the potty, but it is all new to her and wiping and tossing the TP in the potty are skills she has to master to be able to use it for real. Whether she's produced anything or not at this point, the practice at wiping and tossing will be just as useful when she does start to go. Let her practice each step as much as she's interested, and expand on what she's doing with verbal explanations. The best part about letting her completely master each step before getting rid of diapers, IME, is that she'll be completely self-sufficient in the bathroom right from the start. You won't have to worry about having to drop everything at any moment to rush to the bathroom and help her - she'll just go and do it herself. I tend to go overboard, so I need to be careful not to push due to my own excitement. Yep - don't start thinking it's going to be a straight shot from here to the end of diapers. Just as it took a while (probably) to get from pulling up on furniture to walking confidently it is going to take time and a lot of practice to acquire all the skills needed for toilet use. Right now she's at the pulling up on furniture stage. :-) She may have several phases of interest and lose interest completely a few times inbetween, before everything suddenly clicks and she puts it all together to start using the toilet all the time. Congrats on the first big step though! -- Cheryl S. Mom to Julie, 2 yr., 7 mo. And Jaden, 2 months Cleaning the house while your children are small is like shoveling the sidewalk while it's still snowing. |
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