I'm back (warning m/c ment.) xpost

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Zannah.


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"Jenrose" wrote:

I lost the baby on Monday. The miscarriage started at 7 w 1 d, but I think
from what I saw that baby stopped growing a week or two earlier. My faith in
the medical establishment was pretty accurate, but I did manage to get
compassionate, if slow, care at the ER when we went in to make sure the
burning pain wasn't ectopic. It wasn't. I went home and miscarried naturally
over the next two days. Brutally, constantly painful Sunday. Monday,
surprisingly gentle, although rather laborlike, and I was just starting to
hope that things might be okay when the baby passed painlessly.

We decided that if I ovulate before June 14 (3 wks after mc) then we'll wait
a cycle to try again. If I don't ovulate until after June 14, we'll start
ttc this cycle.

The only "good" thing about this is that I know that it wasn't caused by my
clotting disorder--in fact, I passed very few clots at all, which means I've
managed to successfully anticoagulate enough without causing heavy bleeding
using my herbs and vitamins. The maternal side of the placenta looked great.
That was about all that did look great--the baby's side was sort of "folded"
and baby had clearly stopped growing and didn't look right, even by the
wierd standards of what 4 week embryos look like.

Perversely, as soon as the baby passed I felt "fine" phsyically. Bleeding is
"light period" right now and wsa far heavier this weekend. I'm tired, but as
much from the emotions as anything.

We buried the baby with the placenta on Tuesday, in the most fertile piece
of ground I know, under a blueberry bush in my old herb garden at my
mother's house.

My husband has been amazing... he stayed home with me Tuesday all day, and
has been taking really good care of me. He's been very tender and gentle and
unafraid of my grief.

One of the most difficult parts of this has been my mother--she's been
working hard to be really helpful, but she lost two and took it about as
hard as I've ever seen anyone take anything, and it seems like this has aged
her 5 years overnight. I grieve almost as much for her as for myself.

Jenrose

"Jenrose" wrote in message
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I lost the baby on Monday. The miscarriage started at 7 w 1 d, but I think
from what I saw that baby stopped growing a week or two earlier. My faith
in
the medical establishment was pretty accurate, but I did manage to get
compassionate, if slow, care at the ER when we went in to make sure the
burning pain wasn't ectopic. It wasn't. I went home and miscarried
naturally
over the next two days. Brutally, constantly painful Sunday. Monday,
surprisingly gentle, although rather laborlike, and I was just starting to
hope that things might be okay when the baby passed painlessly.

We decided that if I ovulate before June 14 (3 wks after mc) then we'll
wait
a cycle to try again. If I don't ovulate until after June 14, we'll start
ttc this cycle.

The only "good" thing about this is that I know that it wasn't caused by
my
clotting disorder--in fact, I passed very few clots at all, which means
I've
managed to successfully anticoagulate enough without causing heavy
bleeding
using my herbs and vitamins. The maternal side of the placenta looked
great.
That was about all that did look great--the baby's side was sort of
"folded"
and baby had clearly stopped growing and didn't look right, even by the
wierd standards of what 4 week embryos look like.

Perversely, as soon as the baby passed I felt "fine" phsyically. Bleeding
is
"light period" right now and wsa far heavier this weekend. I'm tired, but
as
much from the emotions as anything.

We buried the baby with the placenta on Tuesday, in the most fertile piece
of ground I know, under a blueberry bush in my old herb garden at my
mother's house.

My husband has been amazing... he stayed home with me Tuesday all day, and
has been taking really good care of me. He's been very tender and gentle
and
unafraid of my grief.

One of the most difficult parts of this has been my mother--she's been
working hard to be really helpful, but she lost two and took it about as
hard as I've ever seen anyone take anything, and it seems like this has
aged
her 5 years overnight. I grieve almost as much for her as for myself.

Jenrose


I am so sorry to hear of your loss (((((((((Jenrose)))))))))

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1 tiny angel 11/03
EDD December 4 2004

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I'm so sorry, Jenrose. THanks for sharing with us.

laurie
mommy to Jessica, 3 years
Christopher, 13 months

"Jenrose" wrote in message
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I lost the baby on Monday.
Jenrose

I am so sorry to hear this.
Alissa

"jake's mom" wrote in message
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"Jenrose" wrote in message
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I lost the baby on Monday. The miscarriage started at 7 w 1 d, but I
think
from what I saw that baby stopped growing a week or two earlier.

I just lost our baby Sunday. I was 7 weeks when it was detected--the baby
measured 6 weeks. I also miscarried naturally at home.


Sounds like we were walking lockstep on that one...

We decided that if I ovulate before June 14 (3 wks after mc) then we'll
wait
a cycle to try again. If I don't ovulate until after June 14, we'll
start
ttc this cycle.


We want to ttc real soon also. I get depressed when people and doc's. say
to wait 2-3 cycles to give your body time to heal. What did your doc tell

2-3 cycles is too long, IMO. There's a rebound fertility that can happen in
the 3 months following a miscarriage, according to a midwife friend of mine,
and while you do want to let your body heal a bit, waiting longer can make
it harder to catch the next one. The usual advice I see is "Wait for one
full cycle, then you can TTC on the next one if you are physically and
emotionally ready." But if your first cycle is 8 weeks, then obviously your
body is going to be pretty darned healed by 4 weeks or so in most cases....
hence our decision.

you? Mine said they want to make sure my hcg levels go down to zero to
make sure all of the placenta is gone and there are no problems. My hcg
level was 4300 Friday and down to 1030 on Monday. I go back next Tuesday
and the following Thursday for further hcg testing.

My hcg was 3300 on Saturday and 1500 on Monday. I'm taking my temperatures
and they're nosediving appropriately, which is a great indicator of dropping
levels. I'm buying several HPT's from the Dollar Tree store near us, and
will take one next Monday to see if it comes up positive still. If it is
positive next week, depending on how dark it is, I'll wait either another
week or another few days to test again. Once I get a negative hpt, I'll
start using OPK's...they're more sensitive to HCG and will tell me when the
levels drop below 10.

I know that the entire placenta came out for me--I looked at the darned
thing and it came off clean and intact. My body stopped the violent cramping
as soon as it separated, and eased off on the "dilate" contractions as soon
as it was out. I'd be feeling it more if there was something left.

With a miscarriage prior to 8 weeks, particularly with a baby that stopped
earlier, I just think it's silly to apply the same rules you might apply to
a second-trimester loss. And there are people who get pg within 6 weeks of
giving birth. Surely not ideal, but I think the risks of conceiving
immediately again are overstated. There is a slight increase in risk of a
repeat loss if you conceive within a few weeks of a miscarriage, but there's
also an increased chance of getting pg, according to some sources. And with
a loss prior to 6 weeks, I'd probably not even think twice about trying
again immediately. I just know that my body reacted to this like a birth, so
I'd like to give the placental site a couple weeks to heal. I'd rather not
have another baby implant on that same site...

Jenrose

((((((Jenrose))))))
I'm so sorry, this isn't fair :-(

"Jenrose" wrote in message
s.com...
I lost the baby on Monday. The miscarriage started at 7 w 1 d, but I think
from what I saw that baby stopped growing a week or two earlier. My faith
in
the medical establishment was pretty accurate, but I did manage to get
compassionate, if slow, care at the ER when we went in to make sure the
burning pain wasn't ectopic. It wasn't. I went home and miscarried
naturally
over the next two days. Brutally, constantly painful Sunday. Monday,
surprisingly gentle, although rather laborlike, and I was just starting to
hope that things might be okay when the baby passed painlessly.

We decided that if I ovulate before June 14 (3 wks after mc) then we'll
wait
a cycle to try again. If I don't ovulate until after June 14, we'll start
ttc this cycle.

The only "good" thing about this is that I know that it wasn't caused by
my
clotting disorder--in fact, I passed very few clots at all, which means
I've
managed to successfully anticoagulate enough without causing heavy
bleeding
using my herbs and vitamins. The maternal side of the placenta looked
great.
That was about all that did look great--the baby's side was sort of
"folded"
and baby had clearly stopped growing and didn't look right, even by the
wierd standards of what 4 week embryos look like.

Perversely, as soon as the baby passed I felt "fine" phsyically. Bleeding
is
"light period" right now and wsa far heavier this weekend. I'm tired, but
as
much from the emotions as anything.

We buried the baby with the placenta on Tuesday, in the most fertile piece
of ground I know, under a blueberry bush in my old herb garden at my
mother's house.

My husband has been amazing... he stayed home with me Tuesday all day, and
has been taking really good care of me. He's been very tender and gentle
and
unafraid of my grief.

One of the most difficult parts of this has been my mother--she's been
working hard to be really helpful, but she lost two and took it about as
hard as I've ever seen anyone take anything, and it seems like this has
aged
her 5 years overnight. I grieve almost as much for her as for myself.

Jenrose

I'm so sorry. Will pray for you.

--
Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
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So very sorry Jenrose.

Andrea.

I am so sorry to hear this {{{{hugs and healing}}}}

A

Jenrose wrote:


With a miscarriage prior to 8 weeks, particularly with a baby that stopped
earlier, I just think it's silly to apply the same rules you might apply to
a second-trimester loss. And there are people who get pg within 6 weeks of
giving birth. Surely not ideal, but I think the risks of conceiving
immediately again are overstated.


Just sharing my own experience. I had a m/c at 8 weeks but the
ultrasound showed the baby probably stopped forming at around 7. Mine
wasn't exactly a clean m/c but it wasn't complicated either. I bled for
a little over two weeks, had a period (I think an anovulatory cycle) 5
weeks after the m/c started and conceived 2 weeks after that. I didn't
have a D&C as I didn't want to risk scarring, kind of ironic now that I
have a uterus with a massive big slice across it, but it was important
to me at the time.

A