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Fathers the key to child behavior
Tuesday, 25th May 2004
Fathers the key to child behavior Children who have contact with their fathers following a family break-up suffer fewer behavioral problems, academics said today. Youngsters who have a close relationship with their natural father after their parents split up are likely to be less disorderly, anxious or aggressive. Researchers discovered that children who had infrequent or no contact at all with their non-resident fathers were more likely to externalize and internalize problems. Professor Judy Dunn from the Institute of Psychiatry at Kings College, London, analyzed data collected from 162 children whose parents had separated over a two-year period. Of those children, 18% had no contact with their father, and 16% had contact less than once a month. The research was part of the continuing Children Of The 90s project based at Bristol University, which has been monitoring the progress of 14,000 children in the Avon area since 1991. The findings were published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry. Prof Dunn said: "There is a practical message here - parents should make a great effort to get on well after they split up. "They should put their differences behind them for the sake of the children. The more contact there is the better the outcome for the children." Researchers interviewed all 162 children (initially at an average age of eight and a half) about their relationship with their mothers, fathers and stepfathers. The mothers were asked to report on children's behavior, on whether they were aggressive or delinquent (externalizing behavior) or withdrawn, anxious, or depressed (internalizing). The research comes in the wake of an attack on the Prime Minister with a purple flour bomb by campaign group Fathers 4 Justice. Rights The group claims current laws are failing children and fathers and wants better parenting rights for fathers. Prof Dunn said: "This research is the best kind of thing to support the case of some desperate campaigners who want more access to their children. "Our findings were unequivocal: more frequent and more regular contact was associated with closer more intense relationships with non resident fathers and fewer adjustment problems in children." Prof Dunn noted that the amount of contact between a child and a father was related to the relationship between the parents. She added: "This underlines the importance of parents developing a good working relationship over children's issues and of keeping any problems in their own relationships separate from their parenting." The research showed there tended to be less contact between children and their fathers if the mothers had been relatively young when pregnant. -- ------------------------------------------------------------ Eliminate the impossible and whatever remains, no matter how improbable, must be the truth. ---- Sir Arthur Conan Doyle --- |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
"Dusty" wrote in message ... Tuesday, 25th May 2004 Fathers the key to child behavior Children who have contact with their fathers following a family break-up suffer fewer behavioral problems, academics said today. Youngsters who have a close relationship with their natural father after their parents split up are likely to be less disorderly, anxious or aggressive. What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce? |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody
gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. Joy "Joy" wrote in message ... "Dusty" wrote in message ... Tuesday, 25th May 2004 Fathers the key to child behavior Children who have contact with their fathers following a family break-up suffer fewer behavioral problems, academics said today. Youngsters who have a close relationship with their natural father after their parents split up are likely to be less disorderly, anxious or aggressive. What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce? |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
Bob Whiteside wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. No, the *REAL issue* is the number of children who are growing up without mothers or fathers in their life. The loss of EITHER is critical. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
Bob Whiteside wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. No, the *REAL issue* is the number of children who are growing up without mothers or fathers in their life. The loss of EITHER is critical. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
Bob Whiteside wrote:
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. No, the *REAL issue* is the number of children who are growing up without mothers or fathers in their life. The loss of EITHER is critical. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. There is tons of research on mothers of children who didn't have a significant relationship with their children (or the child's father) before the mothers were forced to give up the children. The fact a child's parents were married or not married has nothing to do with parental involvement pre or post divorce. The real issue is the number of children who are growing up without fathers in their lives. |
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Fathers the key to child behavior
"Joy" wrote in message ... Geez, just noticed the cross post on my earlier response. Before anybody gets all up in arms at the idea that I'd ask about kids whose fathers are less than sterling, I'd like to point out that this was intended as a legitimate question (which would have been understood in the one group on this distribution list that I normally post to). There seem to be a lot of studies on the negative effect on kids of having less contact with a parent after a divorce - but this always seems to refer to kids who actually had a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. My "What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce?" question was referring to those kids who, well, didn't have a significant relationship with both parents before the divorce. I don't think I've ever seen a study on the effect of divorce on those kids, and wondered if there are any such studies. -------------------- I don't know about any studies but in my case my dad was away from home a lot and when he was home he had no idea what to do with two kids. He never wanted kids but followed the script and had them anyway. He was never abusive to us he just didn't know how to act around us. After the divorce, once or twice a year my mom would drive to his place, (couple hours away), and drop us off. It put him on the spot but he tried his best. When I was a teenager I spent a few days with him and while he was still unsure about it we got along well mainly because I was able to have 'adult' discourse with him. He remarried to a very strong, family-oriented woman who was finally able to bring him out and he became a very loving grandad. As an adult I spent more time with him and we got to know each other and to like and love each other. He just had no use for kids. So I think a lot of the time dads don't pay as much attention to the kids is because they are working long hours or they have no idea what to do with them. ~AZ~ Joy "Joy" wrote in message ... "Dusty" wrote in message ... Tuesday, 25th May 2004 Fathers the key to child behavior Children who have contact with their fathers following a family break-up suffer fewer behavioral problems, academics said today. Youngsters who have a close relationship with their natural father after their parents split up are likely to be less disorderly, anxious or aggressive. What about those kids whose fathers didn't pay attention to them *before* the divorce? |
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