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Old February 20th 04, 03:41 AM
V
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It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to do his
work from school. He doddles. I take away privlidges, games, etc. to no avail.
OMG I feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it is not done.
Any suggestions?
V


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Old February 20th 04, 04:32 AM
Dbeardandsons1
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As soon as he comes in from school, set him down at a clutter-free workplace
with his homework. Help him get everything he needs, sharpened pencils, eraser,
ruler etc...

Then get him started by doing it in little bites...have him write his name.
Then move through it one question at a time until he settles into the routine.
One question at a time, one word at a time, one letter at a time if need
be...he is probably intimidated by the number or difficulty of the
questions...Getting him to look at it in smaller bites...encourage him to let
you know when he is stuck...if he stops working ask him what is wrong. Let him
know that if he doesn't know the answer that it is OK to skip that one and come
back to it after the rest are done. Help him work through a couple more and
then step back again...and observe. Hold the criticism if he makes a mistake,
but applaud him for the work he does complete. When the graded paper comes
home, sit down with him and go over the mistakes....have him show you how he
got the answer, if he doesnt' know explain how you would have done it.

Set the routine, remove the distractions (tv, music, whatever) and don't let
him get up until it's finished.

P.S. Hello Bright eyes!
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Old February 20th 04, 11:47 AM
Tiffany
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V wrote in message
...
It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to do

his
work from school. He doddles. I take away privlidges, games, etc. to no

avail.
OMG I feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it is not done.
Any suggestions?
V



Give him some time to chill when he gets home from school, then sit down
with him in a quiet place and be there while he does it. No exceptions, he
sits with you and you help him along.


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Old February 20th 04, 02:48 PM
Joelle
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feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it is not done.
Any suggestions?


Let him go to school without his homework and take the consequences.

Joelle
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St
Augustine
Joelle
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Old February 20th 04, 03:03 PM
lm
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On 20 Feb 2004 03:32:10 GMT, orilla
(Dbeardandsons1) wrote:

As soon as he comes in from school, set him down at a clutter-free workplace
with his homework. Help him get everything he needs, sharpened pencils, eraser,
ruler etc...

Then get him started by doing it in little bites...have him write his name.
Then move through it one question at a time until he settles into the routine.
One question at a time, one word at a time, one letter at a time if need
be...he is probably intimidated by the number or difficulty of the
questions...Getting him to look at it in smaller bites...encourage him to let
you know when he is stuck...if he stops working ask him what is wrong. Let him
know that if he doesn't know the answer that it is OK to skip that one and come
back to it after the rest are done. Help him work through a couple more and
then step back again...and observe. Hold the criticism if he makes a mistake,
but applaud him for the work he does complete. When the graded paper comes
home, sit down with him and go over the mistakes....have him show you how he
got the answer, if he doesnt' know explain how you would have done it.

Set the routine, remove the distractions (tv, music, whatever) and don't let
him get up until it's finished.


This is almost exactly what I did with my son. It took a lot of time.
You can expect a period during which he is 100% dependent on you, and
it's frustrating because you should be able to say "do the next set
while I make dinner and I'll check on you then" but you can't. These
are mac-and-cheese nights, but it's so worth it. Right now his
attitudes toward work are being formed -- it can be drudgery,
overwhelming, rote, challenging.... but this is your chance to help
him learn to enjoy work.

The only thing I'd disagree with above is making him stay put until
it's done. Whatever is reasonable for his age (my son is in 4th grade,
I'd say 1.5 hours max) should be the limit. Some days he will miss the
deadline and be marked down for it at school, but after a time he will
learn to work within the time constraints and do a better job.

My son now comes home from school and does his homework independently,
then asks me to check it if it's math, and does any reading he has to
do after dinner. Because he has to work so hard, he has excellent work
habits. His little brother, who finds academics a breeze, has no
self-discipline in that area. It's tough keeping that one challenged,
bu tthat's another story.

Good luck!

lm

P.S. Hello Bright eyes!


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Old February 20th 04, 06:20 PM
Betty
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"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

V wrote in message
...
It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to

do
his



Give him some time to chill when he gets home from school, then sit down
with him in a quiet place and be there while he does it. No exceptions, he
sits with you and you help him along.




A bunch of us mom's meet at the playground across from the school everyday
at 3:00.
No matter what the weather, we stay there until 4:00 and our kids run and
play. (We live on the west coast so usually not that bad weather)

This gives them 1 hour to get all their pent up energy out after having sat
all day at school. (and gives us time to socialise).
The when we go home, it is homework time.
This USUALLY does the trick, but not always.

Betty



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Old February 20th 04, 11:28 PM
V
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10 years old and the amount of homework is amazing!
Whoo..
V
'Kate wrote in message ...
On Fri, 20 Feb 2004 02:41:59 GMT, "V"
It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to do

his
work from school. He doddles. I take away privlidges, games, etc. to no

avail.
OMG I feel like an evil mother about 9 pm (my time) when it is not done.
Any suggestions?
V


How old is he?

'Kate



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Old February 20th 04, 11:29 PM
V
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You think you could come over and make him do it? =) kidding. I think I might
clear some more distractions, but what do I do with his sibling? I do not want
to punish her with quiet, no tv, etc, if she had the incentive to do her
homework on the bus, and timely and accurately?
V
"lm" wrote in message
...
On 20 Feb 2004 03:32:10 GMT, orilla
(Dbeardandsons1) wrote:

As soon as he comes in from school, set him down at a clutter-free

workplace
with his homework. Help him get everything he needs, sharpened pencils,

eraser,
ruler etc...

Then get him started by doing it in little bites...have him write his name.
Then move through it one question at a time until he settles into the

routine.
One question at a time, one word at a time, one letter at a time if need
be...he is probably intimidated by the number or difficulty of the
questions...Getting him to look at it in smaller bites...encourage him to

let
you know when he is stuck...if he stops working ask him what is wrong. Let

him
know that if he doesn't know the answer that it is OK to skip that one and

come
back to it after the rest are done. Help him work through a couple more

and
then step back again...and observe. Hold the criticism if he makes a

mistake,
but applaud him for the work he does complete. When the graded paper comes
home, sit down with him and go over the mistakes....have him show you how

he
got the answer, if he doesnt' know explain how you would have done it.

Set the routine, remove the distractions (tv, music, whatever) and don't

let
him get up until it's finished.


This is almost exactly what I did with my son. It took a lot of time.
You can expect a period during which he is 100% dependent on you, and
it's frustrating because you should be able to say "do the next set
while I make dinner and I'll check on you then" but you can't. These
are mac-and-cheese nights, but it's so worth it. Right now his
attitudes toward work are being formed -- it can be drudgery,
overwhelming, rote, challenging.... but this is your chance to help
him learn to enjoy work.

The only thing I'd disagree with above is making him stay put until
it's done. Whatever is reasonable for his age (my son is in 4th grade,
I'd say 1.5 hours max) should be the limit. Some days he will miss the
deadline and be marked down for it at school, but after a time he will
learn to work within the time constraints and do a better job.

My son now comes home from school and does his homework independently,
then asks me to check it if it's math, and does any reading he has to
do after dinner. Because he has to work so hard, he has excellent work
habits. His little brother, who finds academics a breeze, has no
self-discipline in that area. It's tough keeping that one challenged,
bu tthat's another story.

Good luck!

lm

P.S. Hello Bright eyes!




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Old February 20th 04, 11:30 PM
V
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::wink wink::
Hey back at you too!
What have you been doing? Email me to catch up!
V
btw, the advice was great. thanks.
"Dbeardandsons1" wrote in message
...
As soon as he comes in from school, set him down at a clutter-free workplace
with his homework. Help him get everything he needs, sharpened pencils,

eraser,
ruler etc...

Then get him started by doing it in little bites...have him write his name.
Then move through it one question at a time until he settles into the

routine.
One question at a time, one word at a time, one letter at a time if need
be...he is probably intimidated by the number or difficulty of the
questions...Getting him to look at it in smaller bites...encourage him to

let
you know when he is stuck...if he stops working ask him what is wrong. Let

him
know that if he doesn't know the answer that it is OK to skip that one and

come
back to it after the rest are done. Help him work through a couple more and
then step back again...and observe. Hold the criticism if he makes a

mistake,
but applaud him for the work he does complete. When the graded paper comes
home, sit down with him and go over the mistakes....have him show you how he
got the answer, if he doesnt' know explain how you would have done it.

Set the routine, remove the distractions (tv, music, whatever) and don't let
him get up until it's finished.

P.S. Hello Bright eyes!



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Old February 20th 04, 11:31 PM
V
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hey Betty. The problem is that they do not get off the bus until 4:30.
V

"Betty" wrote in message
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"Tiffany" wrote in message
...

V wrote in message
...
It is driving me crazy! I have tried everything to encourage my son to

do
his



Give him some time to chill when he gets home from school, then sit down
with him in a quiet place and be there while he does it. No exceptions, he
sits with you and you help him along.




A bunch of us mom's meet at the playground across from the school everyday
at 3:00.
No matter what the weather, we stay there until 4:00 and our kids run and
play. (We live on the west coast so usually not that bad weather)

This gives them 1 hour to get all their pent up energy out after having sat
all day at school. (and gives us time to socialise).
The when we go home, it is homework time.
This USUALLY does the trick, but not always.

Betty





 




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