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12 months old...
Thanks for the food ideas, guys. Will eats all those foods - but only
when it suits him. Dinner is usually the best meal, where he'll eat veges and then some yoghurt for dessert or whatever. Today I bumped into the CHN and she said, 'You know what you have to do? Stop BF him' I just looked at her and blinked. "oh, I don't mean full stop, but you should only be feeding him 3 times a day now that he's one'. So - what happened to demand feeding? And she said if he doesn't eat anything it is because he knows that he only has to wait a few hours and he'll be offered the breast again anyway. Well pffft to that - I've offered 4 times today since 6am (and it's now 4pm) and he took it once - at 3pm. I'm just thinking he's not hungry and leaving it at that. I'd much rather him have breastmilk than nothing at all. I'll just offer meals at usual times, and afternoon snacks and he'll take it if he wants it. Thanks for your support, guys! Jo |
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12 months old...
"Notchalk" wrote in message
... Mum of Two wrote: I would be wary of attributing too much of this to breastfeeding, especially with a 12 month old, and assuming that it will improve without work. Parenthood dramatically changes the dynamics, and it's easy after all those sleepless nights to begin seeing your partner as a brother/flatmate/co-worker or in any number of asexual contexts. I know you -know- this, but don't forget that for women, foreplay takes all day. Now that Will is a year old, how long will he go between feeds? Can you get a babysitter and go out and catch a movie, have a hot spa, a romantic walk? Even just turn off the TV, put on some soft music, and -talk-. Not about Will, or finances, or home renovations, but about yourselves. And listen. /end unsolicited advice Heh, no, keep it coming, don't end it here! I just like to know that it's normal (ish) I still haven't got my period back, so I guess that's why I was attributing the no libido thing to breastfeeding - I figure my body knows it's not time for more babies yet, so why bother getting excited!? Well, certainly if you haven't got your cycles back that could have something to do with it. I got mine back at about 4 months pp, so it was a bit different for me. What raised alarm bells was when you said that the relationship is less 'cuddly' and that he felt more like a brother...those things can certainly lead to a lowered libido, but they're more than likely a result of being overtired and not having enough relaxed time alone together to connect. They're 'normal', but left unchecked they could cause real problems. I was given some great advice by a mother of three when I was pregnant with #1, and sadly I never took it. I guess I'm one of those pig-headed people who likes to learn from personal experience. :-P I can leave will for 8 hours to go to work and he takes no breastmilk in that time, so I know I could leave him with my sister or my niece. But that's all so very 'planned' IYKWIM? Yeah, I know exactly what you mean unfortunately! However, you don't need to plan exactly what you're going to do with that time. You could just lie back and have a relaxed cuddle and listen to some music, or have a bottle of wine put aside and a board game like Scrabble (or Twister ;-). Sex will happen when you've worked on the relationship stuff :-) -- Amy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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12 months old...
Mum of Two wrote:
Sex will happen when you've worked on the relationship stuff :-) That is precisely the problem, I think. I feel there is a bit of resentment on both sides, and it makes it hard to let go and get over it. Thanks again, Jo |
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12 months old...
Today I bumped into the CHN and she said, 'You know what you have to do?
Stop BF him' I just looked at her and blinked. "oh, I don't mean full stop, but you should only be feeding him 3 times a day now that he's one'. She's partially right, I know that when I saw a nutrition person, as a general session, not specifically about me or my children, she said that the reason a lot of toddlers don't eat enough solids is because they are having too much milk and that a significant proportion of children referred to child dieticians for low appetite are just too full to eat, but we're talking 18mths+ here, but there has to be some kind of transition. I suppose you could do things like offer breakfast before feeding on waking up, 3 times a day is not an abnormal number of feeds for a 1 year old, but it isn't in real life, because what if your baby doesn't sleep through and you are feeding that many times in the night? we were like that with number 1, so we were doing 6-8 feeds a day at age 1, but it did go down to roughly 3 when we night weaned him (personal choice). Anne |
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