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Boots! (common I'm sure)
So our baby girl is growing up and acts like a 13 year old (she's 5).
Jarrod and I went on yet another cruise recently. This one to celebrate our 15th anniversary. While we were gone, his mom stayed at our place to take care of the girl, our dog and 2 cats. She only lives about 2 hours from us, so we see her probably every other week. For some reason, she decided to take Alegra on a shopping spree. One of the things she bought was a pair of boots. Now we've had experience with "boot issues" before as our niece is almost 9. But we never came up with a perfect way to deal with it... Alegra thinks she has to wear her boots with EVERYTHING. Before she was born I referred to her as my little diva, and she certainly lives up to that nickname. It isn't a huge deal, but how do you handle clothing issues? We've been working a lot with the word "compromise" lately, so she's starting to get it, but she still thinks her boots are the only thing she can wear. Compared to other things, this is really our only "fight" we have with her. One way we handle it is making her choose what she wants to wear to school the night before after her bath. That usually works, but some mornings she decided the boots are a must *grin* LES! |
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Babie wrote:
So our baby girl is growing up and acts like a 13 year old (she's 5). Jarrod and I went on yet another cruise recently. This one to celebrate our 15th anniversary. While we were gone, his mom stayed at our place to take care of the girl, our dog and 2 cats. She only lives about 2 hours from us, so we see her probably every other week. For some reason, she decided to take Alegra on a shopping spree. One of the things she bought was a pair of boots. Now we've had experience with "boot issues" before as our niece is almost 9. But we never came up with a perfect way to deal with it... Alegra thinks she has to wear her boots with EVERYTHING. Before she was born I referred to her as my little diva, and she certainly lives up to that nickname. It isn't a huge deal, but how do you handle clothing issues? We've been working a lot with the word "compromise" lately, so she's starting to get it, but she still thinks her boots are the only thing she can wear. Compared to other things, this is really our only "fight" we have with her. One way we handle it is making her choose what she wants to wear to school the night before after her bath. That usually works, but some mornings she decided the boots are a must *grin* LES! What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby |
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"Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. We laugh about it regularly. Particularly since I can be really OCD about some things. (I'm a "shoe collector" so I notice shoes usually before anything else lol) I just hate the way they look with some of her clothes. For the most part, she dresses really well. We've never forced her to wear our choices, so she's just expressing herself. We went through the exact same thing when our niece was 5, so we expected it. Luckily she prefers clothes that are age appropriate. All the girls in her class want to be Hanna Montana for Halloween (I hate her because of her self pictures she posts on MySpace) but our baby girl chose to be a puppy *smile* A St Bernard to be exact... LES! |
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"Babie" wrote:
"Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. snip My granddaughters have done something similar. It's not a big deal IMHO and I'd let her wear them. She'll get tired of them, or they will wear out eventually. |
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Rosalie B. wrote:
"Babie" wrote: "Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. snip My granddaughters have done something similar. It's not a big deal IMHO and I'd let her wear them. She'll get tired of them, or they will wear out eventually. Yes. The leopard-print boots will not fit forever. Ask me how I know. Clisby |
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Boots! (common I'm sure)
"Clisby" wrote in message
... Yes. The leopard-print boots will not fit forever. Ask me how I know. Oh but don't they TRY! I finally made one of mine give up a pair of boots because I know they were way too small, I was scared it was going to ruin her developing feet. Marie |
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In article , Babie says...
"Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. We laugh about it regularly. Particularly since I can be really OCD about some things. (I'm a "shoe collector" so I notice shoes usually before anything else lol) One really important thing about parenthood (and life, for that matter) is realizing which problems are your problems and which problems are others' problems. This one is your problem and not your little girl's problem. So dont' try to make her fix it. Banty |
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Boots! (common I'm sure)
Banty wrote:
In article , Babie says... "Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. We laugh about it regularly. Particularly since I can be really OCD about some things. (I'm a "shoe collector" so I notice shoes usually before anything else lol) One really important thing about parenthood (and life, for that matter) is realizing which problems are your problems and which problems are others' problems. This one is your problem and not your little girl's problem. So dont' try to make her fix it. Agreed; however, I don't agree with the notion that parents have no valid say over how their kids dress (which I'm not suggesting you espouse--simply observing that just because he may overdo the matching footwear thing doesn't mean that there aren't times when it's appropriate to insist that the child wear appropriate footwear). In some situations appearance matters and in others it doesn't (true for adults as well as kids, though adults have more situations in which appearance matters). When appearance matters, I have no heartburn squelching my kids' ....ummmm....creativity in matters of dress. When appearance doesn't matter, the only constraints are decency and weather-appropriateness. So, I'd agree that a parent shouldn't impose his or her desire to see a kid perfectly turned out all the time on the child, but not that requiring a kid to be well turned out when the occasion merits is something inappropriate. It's just a matter of matching the requirement to the context. Best wishes, Ericka |
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In article , Ericka says...
Banty wrote: In article , Babie says... "Clisby" What's wrong with the boots? OK, I'm a real slacker of a mother, but as long as my children are decently covered in something that fits the school dress code, it's really not my problem. If their clothing combinations are really weird, I'm sure some other child will kindly point it out. Clisby Nothing wrong with them at all. But she has a lot of dresses and skirts... not to mention shorts etc that she wants to wear them with. It's more of an annoyance for me than anything major. We laugh about it regularly. Particularly since I can be really OCD about some things. (I'm a "shoe collector" so I notice shoes usually before anything else lol) One really important thing about parenthood (and life, for that matter) is realizing which problems are your problems and which problems are others' problems. This one is your problem and not your little girl's problem. So dont' try to make her fix it. Agreed; however, I don't agree with the notion that parents have no valid say over how their kids dress (which I'm not suggesting you espouse--simply observing that just because he may overdo the matching footwear thing doesn't mean that there aren't times when it's appropriate to insist that the child wear appropriate footwear). In some situations appearance matters and in others it doesn't (true for adults as well as kids, though adults have more situations in which appearance matters). When appearance matters, I have no heartburn squelching my kids' ....ummmm....creativity in matters of dress. When appearance doesn't matter, the only constraints are decency and weather-appropriateness. So, I'd agree that a parent shouldn't impose his or her desire to see a kid perfectly turned out all the time on the child, but not that requiring a kid to be well turned out when the occasion merits is something inappropriate. It's just a matter of matching the requirement to the context. Agreed. I guess I'd see occassions where appearance is indeed important as to be kinda the kid's problem, too, if the family as a whole or the kid need to present themselves in a certain way. Banty |
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Boots! (common I'm sure)
Babie wrote:
Alegra thinks she has to wear her boots with EVERYTHING. Before she was born I referred to her as my little diva, and she certainly lives up to that nickname. It isn't a huge deal, but how do you handle clothing issues? Planning ahead, as you're doing, is good. The other things that works for us is to make it clear that there are times and places she can choose, and times and places she can't. If she can't wear boots to school today for some reason, we'll say no boots at school today, but you can put them on when you get home if you like (or tomorrow, or next time it rains, or whatever seems appropriate and reasonable). And, of course, there's always the strategy of finding another new pair of shoes that will appeal to her enough that they can substitute for the boots ;-) Best wishes, Ericka |
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