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A bit of a vent :-)
Kimme mik wrote:
Hi all, Personally, I don't like taking my twins out all too much. Especially with all of my other kids. My oldest is 15, then 13, 8, and the twin girls. What a specticle we are. People don't know what to think and yes, they do ask stupid intrusive questions. I agree, my 'Are they all your's' 'how do you cope' 'where do you put them all' 'How many bedrooms do you have' 'Did you plan such a large family' 'Are you having any more' 'Is this *it* then' 'Haven't you heard of contraception' 'Don't you have a T.V' questions FAR outway my twin questions from people. It's rare we go out all together these day's, I tend to take them out in smaller groups or individually to avoid the gogglers and questions. -- Andrea If I can't be a good example, then I'll just have to be a horrible warning. |
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A bit of a vent :-)
On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote: I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a combination of all three. I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a boy and one is a girl. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...lypictures.htm Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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A bit of a vent :-)
On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins
wrote: I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a combination of all three. I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a boy and one is a girl. -- -Seth Jackson, proud father of Derek and Mariel(10/1/99). Pictures at: http://hitmeister.home.mindspring.co...lypictures.htm Music links: www.mp3.com/SethJackson www.mp3.com/loudspeaker www.SethJackson.net |
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A bit of a vent :-)
I guess part of the reason I am so open about it is because of the help it
can bring someone who asks. I once answered the twin question to a woman who I sort of knew as an aquaintance and came to find out that she and her DH were just about to start fertility treatment, etc. We became good friends and I was her "source" of info. throughout. She was very grateful to be able to talk to someone who had been through it. I realize that those situations are few and far between, but it's just another viewpoint. I agree, but I don't think such people are so very "few and far between", though. I have had a *lot* of women approach me say and ask very personal questions -- and then as we chat, tell me they are undergoing or about to start treatment, or just lost an IVF pregnancy, or whatever. Since the questions happen not to bother me, it's nice to be able to offer a few kind words to a stranger suffering as we used to. Everyone's mileage and tolerance varies of course -- and the interruptions were less welcome when they were 3 weeks old than later of course. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) |
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A bit of a vent :-)
I guess part of the reason I am so open about it is because of the help it
can bring someone who asks. I once answered the twin question to a woman who I sort of knew as an aquaintance and came to find out that she and her DH were just about to start fertility treatment, etc. We became good friends and I was her "source" of info. throughout. She was very grateful to be able to talk to someone who had been through it. I realize that those situations are few and far between, but it's just another viewpoint. I agree, but I don't think such people are so very "few and far between", though. I have had a *lot* of women approach me say and ask very personal questions -- and then as we chat, tell me they are undergoing or about to start treatment, or just lost an IVF pregnancy, or whatever. Since the questions happen not to bother me, it's nice to be able to offer a few kind words to a stranger suffering as we used to. Everyone's mileage and tolerance varies of course -- and the interruptions were less welcome when they were 3 weeks old than later of course. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) |
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A bit of a vent :-)
It may be that as they get bigger people will become less sensitive to the
need to stay back. I know that happened to us. So just be wary as the winter goes on ... RSV remains a problem for a couple of years --- long after the babies stop looking so fragile. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "The Huwe Family" wrote in message .com... While I am very afraid of the RSV, I also don't want fear to rule my life. I don't go out all the time, but staying inside day after day drives me batty. There have been an occasional person who has stuck out their hands to touch, but for the majority of people, they seem to know better and refrain from touching. It's enough for them to look :-). I know in my daughter's case, she is so tiny that people seem afraid to touch her because they think they will hurt her. That's ok in my book. The only place I have a problem saying "No" to people is at church, and have been lucky that the only people who have been able to hold them are the few people that came with me to the NICU to help take care of them. (I won't put them in the nursery.) "KimandJuan" wrote in message ... The other day my family (DH, Me, 1 month old triplets, and my mom) and a friend of mines family (Her, husband and 9 month old twin daughters) went to a restaurant to eat. WOW, Gayle! You are so brave! I don't think I left the house at least until the babies were 3 months old. I was afraid of everyone wanting to touch them and getting sick in the fall season. You haven't had a problem with people wanting to touch? ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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A bit of a vent :-)
It may be that as they get bigger people will become less sensitive to the
need to stay back. I know that happened to us. So just be wary as the winter goes on ... RSV remains a problem for a couple of years --- long after the babies stop looking so fragile. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) "The Huwe Family" wrote in message .com... While I am very afraid of the RSV, I also don't want fear to rule my life. I don't go out all the time, but staying inside day after day drives me batty. There have been an occasional person who has stuck out their hands to touch, but for the majority of people, they seem to know better and refrain from touching. It's enough for them to look :-). I know in my daughter's case, she is so tiny that people seem afraid to touch her because they think they will hurt her. That's ok in my book. The only place I have a problem saying "No" to people is at church, and have been lucky that the only people who have been able to hold them are the few people that came with me to the NICU to help take care of them. (I won't put them in the nursery.) "KimandJuan" wrote in message ... The other day my family (DH, Me, 1 month old triplets, and my mom) and a friend of mines family (Her, husband and 9 month old twin daughters) went to a restaurant to eat. WOW, Gayle! You are so brave! I don't think I left the house at least until the babies were 3 months old. I was afraid of everyone wanting to touch them and getting sick in the fall season. You haven't had a problem with people wanting to touch? ~Kimberly Mommy to Alexis Iliana 07/17/99 and Emma Elidia & Aislyn Gabriela 10/01/02 come see us... http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aislynemma/ |
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A bit of a vent :-)
"Seth Jackson" wrote in message ... On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins wrote: I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a combination of all three. I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a boy and one is a girl. People can be very ignorant with these questions, can't they? Once, a woman who claimed to have b/g twins actually told me her twins were identical! And, although my girls are fraternal, I get a lot of people that ask me which side of the family twins come from. When I tell them that it had to be from mine since my girls are fraternal, I get usually get a lot of puzzled looks. But, it usually doesn't bother me and I often enjoy bragging on my girls unless I'm in a hurry. ) Tori Mommy to Lauren & Madison 4/4/01 |
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A bit of a vent :-)
"Seth Jackson" wrote in message ... On 23 Oct 2003 16:05:52 -0700, David desJardins wrote: I wonder if there are more twins where I live (Silicon Valley), or the people are different, or my own reaction is different. I never have had a big problem with people "bothering" us when we go out. Maybe it's a combination of all three. I think my own reaction is different. We used to get a lot of attention when our twins were babies, but frankly, I enjoyed it most of the time. The only thing that bothered me were certain particularly dumb questions like, "Are they identical?", when one is a boy and one is a girl. People can be very ignorant with these questions, can't they? Once, a woman who claimed to have b/g twins actually told me her twins were identical! And, although my girls are fraternal, I get a lot of people that ask me which side of the family twins come from. When I tell them that it had to be from mine since my girls are fraternal, I get usually get a lot of puzzled looks. But, it usually doesn't bother me and I often enjoy bragging on my girls unless I'm in a hurry. ) Tori Mommy to Lauren & Madison 4/4/01 |
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