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Ex left the state
"Bob Whiteside" wrote in message
hlink.net... "Tracy" wrote in message ... "Gini" wrote in message news:hcC5f.26082$p_.14351@trndny05... "Just Me" wrote in message ... (kellyGirl) said: "Ask yourself what is more important, the money or a child's relationship with it's father? The threat of Jail forces people to do strange things!" Obviously it's my sons relationship with his father that's more important. If it was the child support, I would have done something about that months ago. And the threat of jail...who even mentioned jail? My ex isn't facing any jail time, just money out of his paycheck each week..that's all that was going to be changed. He already pays money each week for a child that he had with someone else while we were separated. And it's not like the child support is huge, he doesn't have to pay that much. ==== "Obviously" your son's relationship with his father *isn't* more important! Who are you trying to fool? You sacrificed your child's right to a father for money that isn't "huge." Sheesh! And you can't figure out why dad took off? Your son has a right to be upset! ==== Gini - I have to disagree with you on this one. They've been divorced for a year after a year of separation. This woman has a good relationship with her ex's father. I have a strong belief he left the state due to the stress of the divorce and not having a family to lean on during that time of need. This is a man who has an ex who seems to be closer to his father than he is. That father-in-law/ex-wife relationship sounded weird. There is probably a long history behind that alliance. Plus the mother disclosed he had a child with another woman since their divorce and was paying that woman too. Paying CS to two women after taxes can be an extreme financial burden. The concern expressed was strongly biased for the first child's welfare while the second child's welfare has been ignored. Wow! I missed the post where she brought up the other child. Now I'm really thinking that an affair took place, his family disapproved of his behavior, etc... etc... etc... leading up to the overall burden of guilty feelings, ashamed, financially over burdened, plus a lot more. Which goes back to where I was coming from. Where he is at emotionally in terms of his divorce and his family is possibly similar to that of my husband's ex-wife. I would think the order of events has driven him to flee. Just speculating, if the second mother already had a CS withholding order (she would have been smart to have one since she already knew about the CS obligation to the first child), he could have been overwhelmed by getting a second withholding order for the first mother. If he was juggling his finances to take care of his CS obligations, he lost control of how to manage the situation when the second withholding order was served on his employer. My point is - this stuff doesn't happen in a vacuum. Several other things are probably going on that haven't been disclosed. That I agree with... a lot more. More than we were told. Either way - there is a very long road all parties are facing, and the right advice is very important at this time. They need to move beyond their decisions of divorce to help improve their situations, which includes child-support. The father is in a much tougher position then the mother since he has two different mothers then just one. What a mess... Tracy ~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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