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Betty wrote in message news:ElO1c.691692$ts4.259847@pd7tw3no... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Sure, you have to tell your kid that just because someone IS a figure of authority doesn't mean you can actually TRUST them. It must be confusing to kids. I have already told my daughter that she doesn't even open the door for someone dressed as a police officer. That basically there is no reason for the cop to enter the house, he can talk through the door. And if someone claims I am injured and at the hospital and is taking her there.... I tell her forget it, if I am injured she can't help anyways and needs to wait for her Grandmother. This is were the "password" system comes in handy. There are times when, especially single parents, have to have someone else pick up their child. Establishing a password system with your child insures that only someone who YOU have asked to pick them up will be able to. My son knows not to go with anyone, even someone he knows, if the person does not give the password. If I am not there to meet him (if I was hurt or unable to call), and some one (other then my cousin) who does not have the password tries to pick him up, he knows not to go with that person, but to go to my cousins house which is just across the street from us. Once the password has been used, you have to change it of course. Betty That's a good idea.... but luckily my daughter is old enough now that she could be left alone.... no need to have someone other then the select relatives ever pick her up. T |
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On Thu, 4 Mar 2004 17:38:58 -0500, "P.Fritz"
wrote: "lm" wrote in message .. . On Thu, 4 Mar 2004 17:24:05 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: P.Fritz wrote in message ... "lm" wrote in message ... On Thu, 4 Mar 2004 08:23:33 -0500, "Tiffany" wrote: Paul Fritz wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... V wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... I don't think you were being gender biased. Both parents should talk to the kids, that way they see both sides of the card. Unfortutanly both parents aren't always there. How much longer before you have the talk? T Oh we have. They know what I do and my kids (both) have been taught how to defend themselves, against anyone trying to hurt them....as far as sex we have had the talk...and it was not so bad. I was just open and will stay opening to questioning. I forget sometimes, there are single dads to girls vice versa, hence using "mom's talking to sons" instead of parents talking to their children. How old are your kids? V One....12 girl. We had the talk, retalk, reminder talk, ect. She will be 13 at the end of the month so its getting closer and closer to the point she may do 'it'. Now I work to remind her what can happen that one instant with out protection, stuff like that. Yeah, two kids were caught at the local public school.......8th graders, he was getting a b.j. in a science room DURING class. My ex overheard my daughter (13) taking to a friend about another girl iin her class (private catholic school) getting 'fingered' during school.........YIKES Yeah, its scary. I talk to mine about oral sex.... I don't want her running around giving blowjobs with disregard for her own sexual pleasure. lol. Actually I don't say it that way. These girls just do the bj's and get nothing back. In that case it is demoralizing. I do tell her that emotions and feelings should be considered before doing anything sexual and that were she to be one of those girls doing the bj's or whatever, she would get a reputation that would follow her through high school. I never spoke to her about getting 'fingered'. I guess that will have to come up at the next one. I will add also that it is becoming common for teenagers to engage is anal sex..... because all these things aren't really SEX you see. You can't get pregnant doing these things. Thanks Clinton. All of that thinking predates Clinton, you can be sure of that. voice of experience???? sorry, I couldn't resist.............yes sex predates Clinton, but the general acceptance of such acts 'not being sex' as an excuse certain can be laid at his feet. I think it didn't help a society that is already going down the tubes with a lack of basic morals. He definately started the phrase that is still sticking that certain sexual acts AREN'T sex. You guys didn't spend much time around catholic schools, did you? Girls have been protecting their virtue whilst having nonsex-sex for a long time. lm Not the schools I went to. Maybe back then you just didn't have the way with women you have now. :-) lm |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Thu, 04 Mar 2004 22:47:00 GMT, "Betty" This is were the "password" system comes in handy. There are times when, especially single parents, have to have someone else pick up their child. Establishing a password system with your child insures that only someone who YOU have asked to pick them up will be able to. Betty That is excellent advice! Thank you for posting it. 'Kate Your welcome, but I didn't realise this wasn't common knowledge or a common practice. The password system is used by almost everyone we know. In fact, it is taught in our school as part of the "C.A.R.E." program. I can't remember what the acronym exactly stands for, but starting in Kindergarten right through grade 7, all classes teach safety and sexual awareness. Yesterday my son brought home a page on improper touching and how to prevent it or how to respond if it happens. Betty |
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'Kate wrote in message ... On Thu, 4 Mar 2004 16:46:05 -0500, "P.Fritz" 'Kate wrote in message ... On Thu, 4 Mar 2004 08:47:19 -0500, "Paul Fritz" 'Kate wrote in message The problem with how you've reported is that each agency uses a different criterion for what it includes as rape. For example, the FBI statistics do not include incomplete rape or non-violent rape. A person can be penetrated without ejaculation and that will not be included (an example only). The rate of rape/sexual assault has lessened considerably since 1995. If 248,000 people were raped or sexually assaulted in 2002 (reported rapes only) and 44%* of reports filed are from victims who are 18 years old or less, then 109,000 are under 18. If adolescence starts at age 13, then by the time a child reaches age 18 (5 years), 545,000 teens will have reported being raped or sexually assaulted. Classic example of stats gone bad. Lets take your example......109,000 under age 18 were raped....lets call it 110,000 for easy math, so every year age group would average 22,000 rapes per year. ( 110,000 divide by 5 years. ) The cumulative total would be 110,000 as each year group passed their 18th year. Actually, no. One would not divide the five years into the 110,000. Doing that would only be manipulating the numbers and not be a true picture of the risk. The chance of being raped increases dramatically in the 16-19 year old female age group. It increases also for those living in cities and who are black or hispanic. Spreading "risk" over years evenly does not give a realistic picture of that risk given that each age group does not have an equal "chance". It doesn't matter how you divide up the numbers, the averages would still be the same, as will the cumulative totals. LOL... yes, averages mean just that. The 1 in 4 stat is bogus. I can't say that anything you've shown would prove that and nothing I've shown would disprove it. Actaully, the numbers show that the 1 in 4 stat is bogus In some areas of the country, there may be a risk of 1:4 or 1:6. In some areas there may be 0 risk. That does not affect the average. If there is a local problem, then it is up to that locality to address the occurrences, find the cause, and lessen the risk. What I have seen is that there is an overall rate of decline for rape that started in the mid 1990's. I can think of several reasons for that and among those reasons is manipulation of statistics and the definitions of the variables that are used to compile the statistics. I don't think that the victims did the manipulation so there must be another reason - perhaps political. Perhaps? That is the understatement of the year. *Sex Offenses and Offenders. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1997. Age 12-34 are the highest risk years. Risk peaks in the late teens: girls 16 to 19 are four times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape or sexual assault. [2000 NCVS.] Has nothing to do with the 1 in 4 claimed ratio Nor was I defending that statistic at that point. I was fact finding. Part of the fact finding was getting information that would increase or decrease risk among teens. If risk is higher when a teen enters those age groups, then that is important to know. No doubt, as well as the where's and how's......such as use of alcohol and drugs. snip Sorry, but the claimed stat was "in the United States": that is an average across the board, not a local anomally. I can't imagine assessing risk in individual towns other than my own. I can believe that the 1:4, 1:6 is possible in some areas. I would not defend, however, a statistic that I was unwilling to research so I didn't. I also think it's foolish to discount that there are high risk groups and if I argued those numbers, it would be on the basis of high v. low risk groups and say "as high as". Any rape. regardless of age is horrific, I just don't like seeing issues used to advance an agenda based all false data. 'Kate |
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"Lisa" wrote in message ...
"Sky KIng" wrote in message l.net... In article , says... "Sky KIng" wrote in message l.net... In article , says... That is something for mothers to talk to their preteen sons about, not an assault counselor, I come in after the fact. Why not fathers talking to their sons? Moms can talk to their daughters. You think he'd step up to the plate after having ****ed off before the child was born? Try again You mean after the woman left with the kid without telling dad right.....? Spare me your Dad=Bad and Mom=Good ****. I dunno, folks tell me I'm a good **** all the time. How bout you? You some bad **** boy? No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. |
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"Sky King" wrote in message om... No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. Sky king are you raising children alone? Just curious , V |
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On Sun, 07 Mar 2004 02:30:41 GMT, "V" wrote:
"Sky King" wrote in message . com... No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. Sky king are you raising children alone? Just curious , V No, he's not, at least according to his posting to talk.rape and soc.men. He probably won't even see this. This thread started crossposted, and it just happens I post to both assp and talk.rape, so I can tell you that his home groups are those, not this one. Cele |
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"V" wrote in message ...
"Sky King" wrote in message om... No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. Sky king are you raising children alone? Just curious , V Mine are raised but I did the majority of the raising.... |
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"Sky King" wrote in message m... "V" wrote in message ... "Sky King" wrote in message om... No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. Sky king are you raising children alone? Just curious , V Mine are raised but I did the majority of the raising.... Well your insight is welcomed in this group as far I am concerned. V |
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"Cele" wrote in message ... On Sun, 07 Mar 2004 02:30:41 GMT, "V" wrote: "Sky King" wrote in message . com... No..I am a grown man. We see you agenda now. I knew it. Sky king are you raising children alone? Just curious , V No, he's not, at least according to his posting to talk.rape and soc.men. He probably won't even see this. This thread started crossposted, and it just happens I post to both assp and talk.rape, so I can tell you that his home groups are those, not this one. Cele You post to talk.rape too? I read the group and posted a few times so I could get some perspective on survivors of rape. V |
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