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How bad a situation am I in?
Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very,
very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
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Cameron "gribble" wrote in message om... Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
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Cameron "gribble" wrote in message om... Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
Where are you geographically?
Cameron "gribble" wrote in message om... Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
gribble wrote:
Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. No, its only a couple months. Make the court petition, and they may even make the downward adjustment retro-active to the year end. You are trying, contact the courts, and don't worry about going to jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
gribble wrote:
Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. No, its only a couple months. Make the court petition, and they may even make the downward adjustment retro-active to the year end. You are trying, contact the courts, and don't worry about going to jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
gribble wrote:
Hello. Reading just a few posts in this group has gotten me very, very concerned. Here's my story: My Ex-wife petitioned for divorce towards the end of 2002. During mediation in December of 2002, I knew that money was the only thing that would win her over, so I offered to pay $600/month in child support so that I might have custody of our child 1/2 time (we have weekly rotating custody). The first C/S payment was made by personal check in January of '03. Well, towards the end of '03, I got laid off from a $75K/year IT job. My severance package effectively paid me through the end of the year. Since an income deduction was in place, the Ex rec'd a total of $7200 in child support (12 * $600) for all of last year. Let me point out that in our state, the guidelines suggest a monthly payment of $450/month --given our 50/50 arrangement. Anyway, I was out of a job in November, December, and January of '04. In February, I managed to land a job (a short-term contract position), paying a WHOLE LOT less than I earned previously (about $30,000 less). I'm just about keeping my head above water, and have kept up with the mortgage, maintenance, car, credit cards, etc. I wasn't able to give the Ex anything in January or February, but in March I did cut her a check for $400. About a week ago I gave her another $200, because she called to complain that "she's broke". She earns about $38K/year, and is shacking up with a guy who earns in excess of $70K (he also went through a divorce at about the same time). After being laid off, I kept in touch with my attorney, practically begging him to protect me from being held in contempt of court. We went back and forth on this for months, until last week he finally came back to advise me that the guidelines for my state say that with my new, decreased level of income, my financial commitment is $50/month. He said that it would cost between $1000 and $1500 to get the legal documents filed with the court. In fairness to my Ex, she did place our little one on her health insurance plan at her place of employ after my layoff (I simply could not afford to pay the COBRA premium). She claims that this costs her $200/month. I've never been shown any proof of that. So, I ask you: how bad a situation am I in? Can I really be sent to jail for not having paid the full amount of C/S these past 4 months? It may sound stupid, but I'm really afraid that she will release the dogs from the c/s enforcement division on me, haul me into court, and subsequently into jail. No, its only a couple months. Make the court petition, and they may even make the downward adjustment retro-active to the year end. You are trying, contact the courts, and don't worry about going to jail. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
The important unknown variable in your case is the attitude/policy of
the judge which might ultimately rule on a contempt citation. However, under the circumstances you relate, jail is unlikely because you were not responsible for the reduction in income and you have continued to make some payments. The worst thing you can do is to make no payments just because you can't afford to make the whole payment. First, make sure your payments always go through the child support agency. Direct payments are dangerous. Second, depending on where you are, child support agencies can initiate proceedings to modify support obligations, which includes increases or decreases when appropriate, at no cost to the parties (except court costs). The general policy in amending child support orders is to do what's best for the kids while also considering what you would have done if you were still married to the mother and had been laid off. The $50.00 per month estimated by your attorney seems unrealistic. Double check that information. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
The important unknown variable in your case is the attitude/policy of
the judge which might ultimately rule on a contempt citation. However, under the circumstances you relate, jail is unlikely because you were not responsible for the reduction in income and you have continued to make some payments. The worst thing you can do is to make no payments just because you can't afford to make the whole payment. First, make sure your payments always go through the child support agency. Direct payments are dangerous. Second, depending on where you are, child support agencies can initiate proceedings to modify support obligations, which includes increases or decreases when appropriate, at no cost to the parties (except court costs). The general policy in amending child support orders is to do what's best for the kids while also considering what you would have done if you were still married to the mother and had been laid off. The $50.00 per month estimated by your attorney seems unrealistic. Double check that information. |
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How bad a situation am I in?
The important unknown variable in your case is the attitude/policy of
the judge which might ultimately rule on a contempt citation. However, under the circumstances you relate, jail is unlikely because you were not responsible for the reduction in income and you have continued to make some payments. The worst thing you can do is to make no payments just because you can't afford to make the whole payment. First, make sure your payments always go through the child support agency. Direct payments are dangerous. Second, depending on where you are, child support agencies can initiate proceedings to modify support obligations, which includes increases or decreases when appropriate, at no cost to the parties (except court costs). The general policy in amending child support orders is to do what's best for the kids while also considering what you would have done if you were still married to the mother and had been laid off. The $50.00 per month estimated by your attorney seems unrealistic. Double check that information. |
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