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Proud To Be Single Parent !!!!!!
There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i
don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. |
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"Carrie" wrote in message ... There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. I wouldn't say I'm proud for having children out of wedlock, I would have much rather had a lovely, responsible husband and done the whole traditional bit... but since I didn't, and I can't change the past, I am proud of the fact I'm doing the best job I can. Christine |
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"CME" wrote in message news:qMPUc.37629$fz2.35522@edtnps89... "Carrie" wrote in message ... There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. I wouldn't say I'm proud for having children out of wedlock, I would have much rather had a lovely, responsible husband and done the whole traditional bit... but since I didn't, and I can't change the past, I am proud of the fact I'm doing the best job I can. Being a single mother is not ideal but I'll tell you something - I rather be a single mother than to not have given birth to my son. He makes it all worth it, even when he's throwing a temper tantrum and I'm dead tired. If I could do it all over again, I'd do it the same way. I'm glad I didn't get married because I'm sure it's a hassle getting divorced. |
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"Carrie" wrote in message ... There is a lot of negativity flying around about single parents and i don't really understand it. I am single and PROUD of the fact that take care of my children alone. I didn't choose to do it alone and i don't see it any differently then if the other parent had died. I live in a small old fashioned community that has a lot of conservative elderly people. These people who were raised strict catholics don't look down on me for being alone or having children without being married. In fact, they are proud of me as well. They see that i am stronger then most and do the work of two. They see the love, care, attention, and affection that i give double. They see my struggles and pains and my refusal to give up. It doesn't matter what a troll or flamer has to say. They are unaware of what we go through. They also don't know the posative that comes from it. My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. Hold your head up high and be proud. I'm proud of the job I'm doing as a single parent, but I wouldn't have chosen single parenting. I made bad decisions when I was younger, and now my son has to live with choices I made. I was with a man who was unable to think of anyone but himself, and was abusive when things didn't go his way. Am I glad I got out? YES! Am I glad I raise my son alone? Given the choice I had at the time, yes I am. Would I do things differently if I could. DEFINITELY! There are so many times I wish I weren't a single parent. It's not an easy job, but for me it was better to be single than dead. As my son gets older, he discovers more about himself, and I'm certain he thinks about his father. He's asked questions, and I've answered them the best way I know how. I still feel it's a little early for him to make contact again, but my son knows if he wants to contact his dad, all he has to do is ask. I know how to find his father, and if my son wants to send him a letter, I'm all for that. My feelings aren't my son's feelings. I have to look at what is best for my child, whether or not I like it. My son's dad chose to terminate parental rights, and contact. However, when he did so, he stated he would "have no contact with J**** until such time as he (the child) chose to do so." That leaves it up to my son, and when he feels the need, I will get him the information. So far my son has digested the information, or is still processing it. The teen years are a rough time. I would hate to see my son gain his father's outlook on treating women, however as far as I know that may have changed. My son has a good foundation and solid family ties from my side of the family. He's seen my father and my brother in their relationships with women. He knows his grandpa and grandma have been married a long time, and how much they love one another. My son does not remember his father and I being together. He was only a year old when we separated. I had support from my parents, and friends. So have I raised my son totally alone? No I have not. I would have done so if I needed to, but I'm so glad I didn't. He's turned into a wonderful young man, and I'm proud to be his mom. I get compliments from others about how courteous, caring and helpful he is. So even though I didn't choose single parenting, I think I'm doing a pretty good job. I used to say to myself, "the next time I have a kid, I'm going to do it right." Well, it's been 12 years, and there's not another child, so I guess I'm doing that right. Just my rambling thoughts, I probably made very little sense. I also gave a load of information, some of you have heard it before. Sorry for the ramble. Betsy |
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Let me clear some things up...
I never said I chose to be a single mother. Both children were conceived during long relationships. The father of my first took off right before she was born. The father of the one inside me made some rather horrible choices and chose a life of drugs and danger that i could not be a part of. I was 4 weeks pregnant when i left and had no idea because i was on the birth control. It is a shame that things sometimes happen the way they do. But, there is nothing that can be done to change any of it. I take what i have and make the best i can out of it. In my opionion two lousy parents is not better then one great one. This child i am carrying now is guaranteed better off then if i stayed with its father. The home became unstable and violent. The stresses of being there would certainly be worse then the stress of being alone on bedrest. As for my daughter, while i am on bedrest she is with my parents and some of the time with my sister. That is what is best for her at the moment considering I cant even get out of bed to make her meals or take her to the park. I do the best i can and it is sometimes better then what two parents can do. I work twice as hard and benefit from twice the reward. I am not trying to say that my children are better off then they would be in a home with a stable father but i am saying that they are better off without the violence, drugs and crime. |
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"Carrie" wrote in message My daughter is only 6 and already she had told me that she prefers to have one great parent then two lousy ones. You made that up. A six year old could not possibly have the understanding and rationale to come to that kind of a conclusion. I suspect that you are priming your child to suit your own personal circumstances. Dennis |
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I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and
quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. |
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"Carrie" wrote in message ... I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. You are FOS..............if you you don't think that she isn't telling you want she thinks you want to hear.......from what she has picked up from YOU.......than you have your head up your ass to far for it to matter. |
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"Carrie" wrote in message I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. So from where did she get the exposure to two lousey parents so that she could draw a conclusion? If it wasn't from you, it must be from someone in your family as you have stated that they help with her upbringing. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. True, but you are only saying that as a kind of global cop out. You made up your original statement. If you didn't then you must be the lousey parent your daughter used to make the judgment. Dennis |
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"denanson" Dennis@Large .ie wrote in message ... "Carrie" wrote in message I did not make anything up. My daughter is extremely intelligent and quite independent for her age. She may only be starting the first grade but she is already reading my parenting and baby magazines better then my 12 year old brother. The only influencing she has had is the exposure to as much as she can grasp educationally. So from where did she get the exposure to two lousey parents so that she could draw a conclusion? If it wasn't from you, it must be from someone in your family as you have stated that they help with her upbringing. Gosh - you guys are all so nice. Good for you supporting Carrie like that. I have to admit that at times her speech and writing can be terrible but she makes up for it by excelling in her vocabulary and comprehension. Some children are simply more advanced in certain areas then others and that is a fact of life. True, but you are only saying that as a kind of global cop out. You made up your original statement. If you didn't then you must be the lousey parent your daughter used to make the judgment. Tell me - do you kill your prey before you eat it? |
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