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Teenagers faced with spankings
On 9 Dec 2006, 0:- wrote:
Nathan A. Barclay wrote: "Doan" wrote in message ... On Sat, 9 Dec 2006, Nathan A. Barclay wrote: The Safe Playing program has little to do with spanking/non-spanking. It's about using rewards and punishment. Kane claimed that there was no punishment is FALSE! Here is an earlier admission on the issue of punishment: "One of the conversations between Doan and I concerns his claim that my comments on Dr. Embry's use of the word "punishment" in regards to a technique he calls "sit and watch," has to do with my disagreeing that having the child sit and watch other children at "safe play" for a few minutes is "punishment," not just that Dr. Embry never mentions the word. " Oh, what a tangled web we weaved... ;-) Really? How so? I've noticed that Kane has an interesting habit of pretending that punishments are not punishments when it suits his purposes. If "sit and watch" is what it sounds like - a child who goes out in the street having to sit and watch other children play instead of being allowed to play - that is very definitely a punishment. I presume you haven't read the study report, so Doan can more easily con you. Hahaha! Why don't you provide with the PDF copy you claimed to have. Or you are the one that trying to con him? The sit and watch included the parent, usually the mother, being with the child. So? The real distinguishing feature as to whether or not something is a punishment is in whether its intent is that the unpleasant experience deter the child from doing the same thing again. No, that's called 'discipline.' A pure punishment is not limited to teaching. It's done to hurt, or take something from the one punished. That is some of the children cried! Or did you missed that from study, Kane? Doan |
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On Sat, 9 Dec 2006, 0:- wrote:
Doan wrote: On Sat, 9 Dec 2006, Nathan A. Barclay wrote: You accuse AF of lying because he omitted important information. By that standard, you are also a liar because you repeatedly talk about how huge a proportion of criminals were spanked without bothering to mention how hugely disproportionate a percentage of those were subject to abuse, not just what the law considers acceptable spanking. Compared with the seriousness of your omission, AF's is no big deal. --- I'm having a hard time pinpointing whether your reference to Dr. Embry's "study" is to his his letter to Children Magazine, which says nothing about a study in the scientific sense of the term, or to something else. In regard to the letter, I see some serious problems. Embry wrote, "Actual observation of parents and children shows that spanking, scolding, reprimanding and nagging INCREASES the rate of street entries by children. Children use going into the street as a near-perfect way to gain parents' attention." But observational data collected by watching children would be guaranteed to give skewed results. Children who quickly decided that going into the street wasn't worth getting spanked would be unlikely to be observed going out into the street at all, and thus unlikely to be observed getting spanked for it. In contrast, the less successful spanking is in deterring children from going out in the street, the higher the probability of their being observed going out into the street and getting spanked. And the children most likely to be observed going out into the street and getting spanked would be the ones with the behavior pattern Embry described - doing it for the attention. That could easily lead to an impression that spanking increases the likelihood of children's going out in the street even if its usual effect is to significantly reduce the likelihood. (And the same applies to the other techniques he listed.) In regard to the Safe Playing program, have you noticed that its stickers and extra positive attention are basically a form of bribery? I don't regard that as too high a price in a special case where it can save children's lives. But as a matter of basic policy, I view bribery as worse than punishment. Instead of teaching children that doing the right thing is something that is expected of them, bribery teaches children to expect a reward just for not doing something that's wrong. And it's not as if bribes give children any more reason to behave than punishments do when they expect not to get caught. To clarify, I view it as a good thing if parents take a unilateral initiative to let children know every now and then that their good behavior is appreciated, or especially when a positive change in behavior is appreciated. But if it turns into a quid pro quo arrangement where a child feels like he or she is supposed to be rewarded just for not doing something wrong, I view that as a problem. I'll also point out that the Safe Playing program is a response to a type of behavior that normally has essentially no intrinsic reward. The only significnat reward is normally the attention the child gets - assuming the child views negative attention as a reward in the first place - and the program offers children a better quality of attention to replace it. That's hardly clear evidence that nonpunitive techniques would work equally well when children have more to gain from misbehaving - especially if parents don't offer a bigger bribe, or if the children think they won't be caught and lose out on the bribe. I could bring up a few other issues that may or may not be all that relevant, but it's not worth the time. The Safe Playing program has little to do with spanking/non-spanking. It's about using rewards and punishment. Kane claimed that there was no punishment is FALSE! I didn't make that claim. My claim is, as you conveniently point out for me, quoting me, is that I disagree with Embry's use of the word to describe something the child is unlikely to experience as punishment, attention from mommy. Mom does sit with the child and encourage him to watch safe play. Then why did some of the children refused to sit and some even cried? Normal humans consider parental attention a good thing, not a punishment, unless of course mom is whacking the child while he's doing "sit and watch." Then why did Dr. Embry called it pusishment? Here is an earlier admission "Admission?" R R R, that I disagree with Embry characterizing this as a punishment? Admission of what, Doan? That I tell the truth and give my opinion. Yep, you got me there. Admission that you got caught with a lie! on the issue of punishment: "One of the conversations between Doan and I concerns his claim that my comments on Dr. Embry's use of the word "punishment" in regards to a technique he calls "sit and watch," has to do with my disagreeing that having the child sit and watch other children at "safe play" for a few minutes is "punishment," not just that Dr. Embry never mentions the word. " Oh, what a tangled web we weaved... ;-) Yes, why are you not urging him to actually read the report on the Embry study for himself? Send him a copy. I don't have a PDF copy. You do. I have a paper copy and if he is willing to send me a self-stamped envelope, I'll be glad to send it to him. He can also try inter-library loan or order it from the AAA Foundation. Or are you chicken **** to do it? I am willing to **** into your mouth. ;-) Doan Doan --- In regard to the following And if you can show any studies comparing parents who used only nonpunitive methods with parents who spank, what did those studies do to address the problem of self-selection bias, especially the possibility of parents who started off using purely nonpunitive methods giving up and starting punishing if the nonpunitive methods didn't work? this is NOT something I got from Doan. And it's not a trick either. You're taking a much stronger position than the current state of the available research can even come close to supporting in a scientifically valid way. As I recall, you yourself recognize that positive parenting techniques require extra up-front effort. That can reasonably be expected to have a significant impact on the quality of parents that use them and stick with them, which in turn makes self-selection bias an extremely important issue. --- I saved a copy of your message in case I might want to track down your links later, but trying to separate the wheat from the chaff in a Google search isn't my favorite thing in the world even when I initiate the search myself. Right now, I'm not in the mood for it. "0:-" wrote in message oups.com... Nathan A. Barclay wrote: "0:-" wrote in message oups.com... wrote: Nathan A. Barclay wrote: Straus and Mouradian's 1998 study divided mothers who spanked into three categories depending on whether they "never," "sometimes," or "often" spanked as a result of having "lost it." The outcomes for mothers who sometimes spanked as a result of having "lost it" were significantly worse than those for mothers who never spanked, and the outcomes for those who often spanked as a result of having "lost it" were even worse still. But the outcomes for mothers who never spanked as a result of having "lost it" were very close to those for mothers who never spanked at all - slightly worse, but either within the margin of error or too close to attach much meaning in a study where self-selection bias is present. Note that that study controlled for only one of several factors that I believe makes a significant (if not huge) difference in how effective or dangerous spanking is, yet it ended up with a group of spanking mothers with results extremely close to the results of mothers who never spanked. Also, it is important to note that Straus and Mouradian (1998) also found that, among these mothers, the more non-cp used, the worse the outcomes. In other words, the non-cp methods were no better than spanking. AF Hihihi. You are lying again. I've repeatedly pointed out that out of the four alternatives examined by the study. three were punitive. Where is the lie? The statement was that non-CP methods were no better than spanking, not that non-punitive methods were no better than spanking. The fact that a person leaves out a point you consider important does not make the person a liar. Sure it does, because he and I have had this same exchange many times. He knows the truth and conceals it. It's a harassment tactic, and he admits he's here for harassment. A good definition of lying is any attempt to decieve either by commission or omission. Can you cite any study that compares outcomes for parents who used only nonpunitive methods with outcomes for parents who spank at all? Yep. The Embry study. We've discussed it here before, and Dennis Embry's comments to a family magazine where he points out that punitive methods, including slaps, spanking, etc. result in worse results, and "catch them being good" and instructing is far more successful. The issue was 'street entries.' Embry isn't a spanking opponent or advocate. He's a traffic analyst witha considerable practice consulting with principalities. He's also interested in education generally, but more specifically about dangerous behavior, and more specifically safety. If not, then a lack of studies that show CP to be better than the exclusive use of nonpunitive methods is meaningless. There are not to show that it's the same, actually. What is meaningful is that there are none to show that non-cp, and non-punitive methods are HARMFULL, and more than enough, thousands actually, that show CP IS harmful. If there aren't any studies that look at the use of exclusively nonpunitive methods, that leaves wide open the possibility that such methods average working worse than spanking does It would be if we were seeing it crop up in other studies. Like those of mentally ill, and criminals. We see that yes indeedy, spanking is linked to both those. In fact I put one up in this thread today, and I've discussed here at length in the past. - or would average working worse if parents who try them weren't generally wiilling to change their minds and make at least some use of punishment if purely nonpunitive approaches aren't working. Yes, it is the extention of the "non-CP" concept. And comes rather often to the minds of parents that either never used, or have rejected later, CP methods. They simply think to themselves, if non-cp works, then why not non-punishment. Those that try that find that they are often quite correct in their assumption. It does work even better than non-CP, but punishing discipline. The parent becomes the partner in learning, and coach, and safety engineer, in the child's development. Nothing magic about it at all, except it's a concept foreign to so many. It doesn't look like it will work to the observer, and then when they see it, some still have trouble understanding what took place. Yet if I described an apprenticeship relationship you and most folks would have little trouble with the cooperative aspects being showcased. It's that old belief that children are born with the propensity toward evil and non-cooperation. They are born with nothing but a desire to survive and thrive. How that manifests can be easily directed to be, or appear to be, uncooperative, or their cooperative nature can be focused on with a minimum of struggles for power. And if you can show any studies comparing parents who used only nonpunitive methods with parents who spank, what did those studies do to address the problem of self-selection bias, especially the possibility of parents who started off using purely nonpunitive methods giving up and starting punishing if the nonpunitive methods didn't work? As Doan knows, and I've said, no such studies exist. That's why he asks for them. That's not debate. That's manipulation, harassment, and clever lying. Those who study subjects such as learning theory, and work those out in child care centers often attached to universities and colleges get to see it with their own eyes. Children who are being "uncooperative," have problems. Not a threat to adults. They may have been taught they have to fight to access the environment and events that nature tells them they must. They may be compromised physiologically in some way, genetically, environmentally, or by bad teaching as above. The kids (young students) get it, sometimes, and others they are so steeped in the power struggle tradition they are not suited to teach. Probably not to parent, but then they have the right. How far into this subject do you wish to go? Read Glasser? http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&l...nt&btnG=Search Druikers? http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&l...nt&btnG=Search These aren't anti spanking Zealots. Just child development and education basic researchers. By basic, I mean they used children, not theory. Do you wish to argue with me like Doan does, dodging and focusing on what ever will get you away from responsible exploration? You accuse me, wrongly I might add, of not welcoming your or other's "experience" and information. That's a door that swings both ways. If you are going to argue with me then you have to argue with what I use as my support. http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&l...nt&btnG=Search Read up. Tell me what's wrong with their research. I'll listen. 0 : - |
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Greegor wrote:
Where'd you go to college Kane? Kane wrote Out of state. And you? Do you know a guy named Jeff Pangborn? He went to school "out of state" also. |
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On Sun, 10 Dec 2006, 0:- wrote:
Doan wrote: I'm not going to carry on much more conversation with you if you insist on doing so from ignorance. Read the Embry study. Get back to me. Kane Since you claimed to have this study in PDF format, You are lying. The only format I said I had it in was hard copy. YOU asked me if I had it in PDF. I made no reply to that. A google confirmed that you indeed claimed to have a PDF copy. Were you lying then? Doan |
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Greegor wrote:
Where'd you go to college Kane? Kane wrote Out of state. And you? You go to the trial consultants association right? Ever run into Ken Pangborn? |
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Greegor wrote: Greegor wrote: Where'd you go to college Kane? Kane wrote Out of state. And you? Oh, you aren't going to answer. I see. You go to the trial consultants association right? So why should I? Ever run into Ken Pangborn? I don't run into people. Did you know I'm actually your Uncle? Artie Funkle's the name. 0 : - ] |
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More like Fester.
0:- wrote: Greegor wrote: Greegor wrote: Where'd you go to college Kane? Kane wrote Out of state. And you? Oh, you aren't going to answer. I see. You go to the trial consultants association right? So why should I? Ever run into Ken Pangborn? I don't run into people. Did you know I'm actually your Uncle? Artie Funkle's the name. 0 : - ] |
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Greegor wrote:
More like Fester. Who is More, your gay best friend? 0:- wrote: Greegor wrote: Greegor wrote: Where'd you go to college Kane? Kane wrote Out of state. And you? Oh, you aren't going to answer. I see. You go to the trial consultants association right? So why should I? Ever run into Ken Pangborn? I don't run into people. Did you know I'm actually your Uncle? Artie Funkle's the name. 0 : - ] |
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Nathan A. Barclay wrote:
Kane, I find it maddening when I make a complex argument and, in your reply, you keep interrupting to snipe at each sentence or two. It's as if you have a deliberate desire to make sure my original point gets lost amidst your interruptions. The situation is especially ridiculous when you interrupt to ask a question that I already answered in the very next sentence or two. I also have to wonder what such interruptions do to your ability to listen. Are reading my explanation as a unified whole and trying to follow my logic? Or are you too busy interrupting to be able to follow my train of thought? On several occasions, it's looked to me like the latter was almost certainly the case. Years ago I asked if he had ADHD and only recently did he admit that he does. |
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Doan wrote:
On 9 Dec 2006, 0:- wrote: Nathan A. Barclay wrote: You accuse AF of lying because he omitted important information. By that standard, you are also a liar because you repeatedly talk about how huge a proportion of criminals were spanked without bothering to mention how hugely disproportionate a percentage of those were subject to abuse, not just what the law considers acceptable spanking. Compared with the seriousness of your omission, AF's is no big deal. Double standard then? What makes mine more serious than his, in argument? As for criminals, I also included other categories that did not report "abuse" as such. One study I referred to deliberately screened OUT such victims, and stuck with CP only. They experienced more depression, drug use, and suicide attempts. --- I'm having a hard time pinpointing whether your reference to Dr. Embry's "study" is to his his letter to Children Magazine, which says nothing about a study in the scientific sense of the term, or to something else. In regard to the letter, I see some serious problems. Embry wrote, "Actual observation of parents and children shows that spanking, scolding, reprimanding and nagging INCREASES the rate of street entries by children. Yes. That is correct. He said it, and I have witnessed such oppositional behavior from chidlren parented as he mentions. Children use going into the street as a near-perfect way to gain parents' attention." But observational data collected by watching children would be guaranteed to give skewed results. Why? Children who quickly decided that going into the street wasn't worth getting spanked would be unlikely to be observed going out into the street at all, and thus unlikely to be observed getting spanked for it. That's not what he observed or what he said. In contrast, the less successful spanking is in deterring children from going out in the street, the higher the probability of their being observed going out into the street and getting spanked. And his observation was the all CP and scolding was related to higher incidences of children going into the street. Why don't you provide the actual data from the study to see if that statement is true? Come on, Kane. I DARE YOU! I DOUBLE DARE YOU! ;-) What's you hurry little liar? Doan Nathan, if he decides he wants the study, and I believe he's said he does, and that you were going to provide it, can wait and have context and the full report to work from to develop any argument, challenges, or questions about what I've said. Your shouting you childish dares proves clearly just how little you bring to this debate. And how much you lie. 0:- |
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