Can you help???

I"m not sure if this is the right place I need to be but I could use
some advice. Me and my husband are trying to have a baby. It will be my
3rd but his first. He really accepts my kids as his own but always
wanted one with his own blood running through it. I understand and am
willing to give him that however we are having a hard time trying to
conceive. He had a problem with his testicles when he was younger and I
thought that might be a cause for it. We haven't been to the doctor or
anything I thought maybe someone could help me with some techniques or
tricks they might have used. If so I would greatly appreciate it.
THANKS!!
Angie

"Angie 79" wrote in message
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I"m not sure if this is the right place I need to be but I could use
some advice. Me and my husband are trying to have a baby. It will be my
3rd but his first. He really accepts my kids as his own but always
wanted one with his own blood running through it. I understand and am
willing to give him that however we are having a hard time trying to
conceive. He had a problem with his testicles when he was younger and I
thought that might be a cause for it. We haven't been to the doctor or
anything I thought maybe someone could help me with some techniques or
tricks they might have used. If so I would greatly appreciate it.
THANKS!!
Angie


If there are any questions about his testicle health, it wouldn't hurt for
you guys to have that checked out.
Kat
Mama to Maggie 11/03/01
and #2 EDD 02/01/04

"Kat" wrote in message
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"Angie 79" wrote in message
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I"m not sure if this is the right place I need to be but I could use
some advice. Me and my husband are trying to have a baby. It will be my
3rd but his first. He really accepts my kids as his own but always
wanted one with his own blood running through it. I understand and am
willing to give him that however we are having a hard time trying to
conceive. He had a problem with his testicles when he was younger and I
thought that might be a cause for it. We haven't been to the doctor or
anything I thought maybe someone could help me with some techniques or
tricks they might have used. If so I would greatly appreciate it.
THANKS!!
Angie


If there are any questions about his testicle health, it wouldn't hurt for
you guys to have that checked out.
Kat
Mama to Maggie 11/03/01
and #2 EDD 02/01/04


And the diagnostics for him are much less expensive and less invasive than
the ones they'd do on you. Since some health plans don't cover infertility
diagnosis or treatment, this might be a consideration.

Leigh

Thanks for responding. They told him a while ago that he still has a
50-75% chance of conceiving. I know he needs to go back now cause things
might have changed but I thought I would see if we could try some things
like the temperature or whatever before we went to that step. If there
is anything anyone can tell me then I would greatly apprectiate it.
Thanks again.
Angie

For starters, I would make sure both of you are in good health, don't drink,
don't smoke, eat as well as you can etc. Male sperm production takes 3
months, so if he was hitting the booze 3 months ago, it could be affecting
you now!
I read a study that showed that folic acid and zinc taken together was
supposed to help boost male sperm production, can't remember exact dosages
though. Might be worth a try if you think he has a problem there. Zinc is
good for both male and female fertility, and if you are ttc you should be
taking folic acid anyway.
Do you chart your basal body temperature? It is really helpful to know if
and when you are ovulating, and if (hopefully it doesn't get this far) you
find yourself needing specialist assistance, they often require you to do
this anyway.
Drink a couple of litres of water a day if you can, it's good for overall
health, fertility & pg. My first pg, which took 18 months to conceive,
coincided with me drinking a ton of water and getting fit walking to work, I
lost several kg - my scooter broke down, lol....could have been a
coincidence, but it all helps.
And make him wear boxers! Tight undies don't do a man's sperm count any
good, esp. if he already has probs. Those things were designed to hang loose
out of the body for a reason ;-)

"Angie 79" wrote in message
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I"m not sure if this is the right place I need to be but I could use
some advice. Me and my husband are trying to have a baby. It will be my
3rd but his first. He really accepts my kids as his own but always
wanted one with his own blood running through it. I understand and am
willing to give him that however we are having a hard time trying to
conceive. He had a problem with his testicles when he was younger and I
thought that might be a cause for it. We haven't been to the doctor or
anything I thought maybe someone could help me with some techniques or
tricks they might have used. If so I would greatly appreciate it.
THANKS!!
Angie

Thanks Amy for your advice. I haven't charted my basal temps yet
actually I wasn't sure exactly when to do it. During ovulation, before,
after?? I've gotten on Baby center for the ovulation dates even though I
know that can be inacurate. But I'll try anything :-) I've tried eating
right and a few other things. I found out with my daughter that I had
fibroids in my uterus. They told me this may make it hard for me to
conceive. I made an appt for my to see the obgyn this week. Maybe they
can help. It might actually be both of us. Do you think I should try the
basics for a few more months before I result in having to go to the
extremes as a fertility specialist? Thanks again for taking the time to
read and respond.
Angie

"Angie 79" wrote in message
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Thanks Amy for your advice. I haven't charted my basal temps yet
actually I wasn't sure exactly when to do it. During ovulation, before,
after?? I've gotten on Baby center for the ovulation dates even though I
know that can be inacurate. But I'll try anything :-)

Get yourself a good thermometer, I find my digital one best because I
couldn't deal with shaking down a regular one first thing in the morning and
struggling to see it without my glasses! I got mine for about NZ$10, and
it's been fine.
The key thing is to take it every morning when you first wake up, at the
same time, I set my alarm for that. Try not to move any more than necessary,
because it will make your temp rise. It becomes easy after a while when you
get used to it, but you'll probably have to try it for a few months to get a
pattern.
I measure in degrees celsius, and usually notice a shift from my usual temp
of about 36.0-36.3 to about 36.6-36.7. It rises slightly on the day of ov
and peaks a day or two after that, then drops around the time you get AF.
Other things can affect your temps, like alcohol, illness, restlessness
during the night, electric blankets etc, but usually you'll start to notice
a pattern.
Some of the great things about temp taking is you know often before AF not
to get your hopes up because your temps are dipping (usually you'll get AF
14 days after the rise) you'll get a good idea early on that you might be pg
(if they are at their peak for 17 days in a row, there's a good chance you
might be pg - the only time this has ever happened to me in many months of
charting is when I was) and also, most women have a cycle or two during the
year when they don't ov, so at least with temping you know this and don't
get your hopes up (anovulatory cycles are often longer).
It's a predictive thing, so you know to 'babydance' in the few days before
the temp shift usually happens. Once your temps have risen it is usually too
late. If you do find you are irregular, you can babydance every second day
from the earliest point you've ov'd, give yourself a margin of error.

I've tried eating
right and a few other things. I found out with my daughter that I had
fibroids in my uterus. They told me this may make it hard for me to
conceive. I made an appt for my to see the obgyn this week.

Seeing your obgyn as a pre-conceptual thing is probably not a bad idea in
any case.

Maybe they
can help. It might actually be both of us. Do you think I should try the
basics for a few more months before I result in having to go to the
extremes as a fertility specialist?

That would depend on how you feel, whether you are comfortable to sit back
and wait a while or whether you are really worried. Also on your age, most
specialists will see women over 35 after 6 months of ttc, simply because
their clocks are ticking more loudly. Usually they tell you to try for a
year. With our first, it took 18 months, and we probably weren't doing
everything right. Our OB told us it is not uncommon for healthy couples to
be trying into the second year, but it sure is a headache, I know where
you're coming from!
Good luck and lots of ~*~*~*~*~*~* Baby Dust *~*~*~*~*~*~*~ to you!

~ Amy

(Angie 79) wrote in message ...
I"m not sure if this is the right place I need to be but I could use
some advice. Me and my husband are trying to have a baby. It will be my
3rd but his first. He really accepts my kids as his own but always
wanted one with his own blood running through it. I understand and am
willing to give him that however we are having a hard time trying to
conceive. He had a problem with his testicles when he was younger and I
thought that might be a cause for it. We haven't been to the doctor or
anything I thought maybe someone could help me with some techniques or
tricks they might have used. If so I would greatly appreciate it.
THANKS!!
Angie

Hey Angie

Your husband really should get checked out unless you don't mind
possibly trying for a really long time Why don't you ask your doc
for some advice about that when you go for your own appointment?

In the meantime your DH should take a multivitamin with zinc in it,
which is very good for sperm production. Also you should definitely
chart your cycles - it's pretty easy once you get the hang of it. You
just take your temp with a digital thermometer at the same time every
morning. You have to do it all month cause the change in the pattern
of the temps is what tells you you ovulated. also you can look for
chages in your cervical mucus - when it is stretchy like egg whites
you are fertile.

It's ideal for you to know when you are ovulating cause the standard
advice for men with lower than optimal sperm counts is to have sex
every other day rather than every day at the time of ovulation.

Good luck!

Elle

It's ideal for you to know when you are ovulating cause the standard
advice for men with lower than optimal sperm counts is to have sex
every other day rather than every day at the time of ovulation.

True, in fact not just for those men, but for everyone. Too much sex is not
necessarily a good thing, just like not enough. We were at it like rabbits
for no. one, lol, and wondered why it took 18 months. The reasoning behind
this is not that men 'run out' of sperm, but that sperm production takes a
set amount of time. When a man is releasing semen excessively, the male body
rushes to produce sperm at a higher rate, and produces a lot of inferior
quality ones at the same time. So it's not just that his sperm count may be
lower, it will also contain a lot of 'duds', poor swimmers, deformed sperm
that can't fertilise an egg, that kind of thing.
The expectorant type of the cough syrup Robituissun has been shown to be a
temporary fix for men who get semen that is too sticky to carry sperm
properly, much the same way as it helps thin out women's cervical mucous, as
it basically just thins out all bodily secretions, so you can take it a few
days prior to 'babydancing'.

Thanks for the info. It's gonna help me out alot. I have another
question that may sound kinda weird. For the past month I have been
craving foods that I don't even like, I've been sleeping alot more than
I usually do and I've felt alot of nausea. However I started what I
thought was my period on Jan 10 but only bled for less than a day? Would
could be causing this?