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Breastfeeding not medically necessary
"Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote in message oups.com... Anne Rogers wrote: sniped Yes, I was devastated at the time, but I had to accept the situation for the baby's sake. I cried my eyes out for several days, and then decided to stop being sad. It's funny what determination can do. I am okay with it now, but every once in a while when the topic comes up I well up. You were incredible in the lengths that you went to to try and breast feed. You should definately feel proud of yourself for what you did for your daughter. As Anne has said, formula exists for a reason, and your case is one of those reasons. Can't help with the insurance issue though, as I don't know the US system. Glad to hear that things are going well for you otherwise, Suzanne |
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Suzanne S wrote: "Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote in message oups.com... Anne Rogers wrote: sniped Yes, I was devastated at the time, but I had to accept the situation for the baby's sake. I cried my eyes out for several days, and then decided to stop being sad. It's funny what determination can do. I am okay with it now, but every once in a while when the topic comes up I well up. You were incredible in the lengths that you went to to try and breast feed. You should definately feel proud of yourself for what you did for your daughter. As Anne has said, formula exists for a reason, and your case is one of those reasons. Can't help with the insurance issue though, as I don't know the US system. Glad to hear that things are going well for you otherwise, Suzanne Suzanne, I really appreciate that you remembered me! The support I got here at the time really meant a lot to me. Thank you! For all those struggling with breastfeeding issues, you can join a group called MOBI (Mothers Overcoming Breastfeeding Issues) ). And those who've had to deal with an inability to breastfeed may find support at Breastfeeding Grief ). |
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For all those struggling with breastfeeding issues, you can join a
group called MOBI (Mothers Overcoming Breastfeeding Issues) ). And those who've had to deal with an inability to breastfeed may find support at Breastfeeding Grief ). what are those groups like? now finding you can't because of a previous surgery or that you congentitially have insufficient glandular tissue, or a life threatening medical condition where the drugs are just not safe for breastfeeding, now all those seem things that deserve support in the grief group, but I'd be frightened of people coming there who whilst they grieve the loss of their breastfeeding relationship, that it's also for much more controllable reasons and in many ways there own choices, I'm not saying that they don't also need support, but it can be hard to find the right place and if I really couldn't I'd be gutted if I mother came along and say she couldn't and it turned out that she had cracked nipples, used a nipple shield and eventually her supply dwindled, because she could had things been different, whereas for you, Penny, you truely can't, it's just physically impossible. Hope no one takes this the wrong way, I'm just curious as to the dynamic of the groups, there doesn't seem to be that many yahoo groups that do exactly what they say on the tin Anne |
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Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote:
We managed to hold off on supplementing only for the first four nights. She cried so desperately that we had to give in. Initially I didn't feed her myself, to avoid nipple confusion, so my husband did. In a way it helped them get closer. In the meantime, I'd keep her on the breast and she sucked and sucked but nothing came out. About a week into it, she realised it was hopeless and would turn her head away. It was torturous for both of us, and it broke my heart, let me tell you. [hugs] Very glad to hear she's doing well. -- Cheri Stryker mom to DS1 - 7 yrs, and DS2 - 3.5 months Check out my new breastfeeding T-shirts on CafePress! http://www.cafepress.com/dancingbones |
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Anne Rogers wrote: For all those struggling with breastfeeding issues, you can join a group called MOBI (Mothers Overcoming Breastfeeding Issues) ). And those who've had to deal with an inability to breastfeed may find support at Breastfeeding Grief ). what are those groups like? now finding you can't because of a previous surgery or that you congentitially have insufficient glandular tissue, or a life threatening medical condition where the drugs are just not safe for breastfeeding, now all those seem things that deserve support in the grief group, but I'd be frightened of people coming there who whilst they grieve the loss of their breastfeeding relationship, that it's also for much more controllable reasons and in many ways there own choices, I'm not saying that they don't also need support, but it can be hard to find the right place and if I really couldn't I'd be gutted if I mother came along and say she couldn't and it turned out that she had cracked nipples, used a nipple shield and eventually her supply dwindled, because she could had things been different, whereas for you, Penny, you truely can't, it's just physically impossible. Hope no one takes this the wrong way, I'm just curious as to the dynamic of the groups, there doesn't seem to be that many yahoo groups that do exactly what they say on the tin Anne I think these are what they say they are. They're moderated and in order to join you need to tell your story and the moderator will then publish it for the group, and you get advice and support from mums who've gone through similar problems. What's nice is that these are all women who've really gone to great lengths to try to breastfeed and are genuinely unhappy about not being able to do it, or about doing it with great difficulty. You get mothers who pump constantly and are completely exhausted and just need a word of encouragement and understanding. Or mothers whose baby has a congenital defect that prevents them from latching on properly, and they seek suggestions on how to get the breastfeeding going anyway. You get suggestions on what to say when you get judgemental comments from strangers who see you bottle-feeding. The only thing I found hard about being a member of these groups is that when I had to give up, and finally got over the grief, I didn't want to be reminded of it any more, and obviously these groups send you lots of mail that's all about this thing you're hoping not to think about any more. I think it does help if you continue to dwell on it and need a place to vent and hear sympathetic responses. (I noticed that Google hid the email address of the groups, so I'll say it again: the first is mobi at yahoogroups dot com, and the second is breastfeeding-grief at yahoogroups dot com.) |
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Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote:
Anyway, she's a real little Buddha right now, loves her bottle, loves to eat. She's kept to the 75th-80th percentile by weight the whole time yet she's only at about the 55th by height. I keep wondering if she remembers on some level how hungry she was after birth and wants to eat up now to make up for it. I think that may be what happened with Jamie. He had a tongue tie which wasn't snipped until he was two months (long story), and he barely gained weight in that time because he couldn't suck properly. Once it was snipped he started gaining at a normal rate, but of course my supply wasn't brilliant by then, despite me doing a *lot* of pumping to try to catch up. So he couldn't put on the extra weight he needed to catch up. Then I went back to work when he was four months old, and he was bottle-fed at home. He got through *astonishing* amounts. I mean, he would be going through 25 - 30 fluid ounces during the time I was at work, sometimes more. I couldn't remotely keep up with that by pumping, and he was through my stash in less than two weeks, so we supplemented. He kept on drinking that amount for months. His growth chart is practically a right-angle - almost flat for the first couple of months, then hurtling upwards after I started work and he could do the catching up. He was _really_ enthusiastic about food for his entire first year - would happily try anything and liked almost all of it. I always felt he was trying to make up for lost time. He's more take-it-or-leave-it about food now, which I think is because he caught up - he was on the 98th centile at last weighing, despite being quite a bit lower down the centiles on height. Sorry to hear that you didn't have any luck with breastfeeding, but well done for trying! All the best, Sarah -- http://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell |
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"Anne Rogers" wrote
Anyway, she's a real little Buddha right now, loves her bottle, loves to eat. She's kept to the 75th-80th percentile by weight the whole time yet she's only at about the 55th by height. I keep wondering if she remembers on some level how hungry she was after birth and wants to eat up now to make up for it. that's interesting, I've heard a couple of people say similar recently, one because the milk wasn't get through because not all her ducts and reattached after a breast reduction and another because the baby had an undiagnosed cleft palate, so despite trying very hard he just couldn't get the available milk out. Both have mentioned that their child seems afraid to let a bottle go as if they can remember that early lack of food! My two were both like that too :-(. Jean -- LeinsterFreecycle Co-moderator http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LeinsterFreecycle/ DD June '02 DS May '05 |
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In article .com,
"Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward" wrote: So says my insurance company, having rejected a claim from a specialist at the Faulkner Breast Centre who tried a procedure to open my milk pores to enable me to breastfeed my newborn four months ago. I am outraged and helpless. I remember you and your difficulties and hope that the suggestions here will help you get justice. -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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Breastfeeding not medically necessary
Hi,
I'm really sorry about your problems with insurance.I wouldn't expect too much from insurance companies in America, if it is not in your policy they won't cover it however illogical. My son was having trouble breathing. The doctor at the urgent care clinic put him on oxygen and ordered an ambulance to the hospital. Later, we had to pay for the ambulance!!! The insurance also said it wasn't medically necessary as he hadn't been admited to the hospital (the hospital just treated and released him) !!!!! Helen Lady Penelope Creighton-Ward wrote: So says my insurance company, having rejected a claim from a specialist at the Faulkner Breast Centre who tried a procedure to open my milk pores to enable me to breastfeed my newborn four months ago. I am outraged and helpless. |
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Breastfeeding not medically necessary
Well, that sucks big time. How about a different approach? Such as: medically necessary to rescue normal function of the milk ducts. Breastfeeding evidently is not medically necessary for your baby, because she is thriving on formula. But normally functioning milk ducts may be medically necessary for you: prevention of mastitis and other direct effects of the blockage; indirect effects such as lower risk of breast cancer, etc. Those reasons might add up to a stronger case for medical necessity. |
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