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"Beverly" wrote in message
... On Fri, 4 Nov 2005 08:47:50 -0800, "Tracy" wrote: "Beverly" wrote in message .. . On 2 Nov 2005 22:25:24 -0800, wrote: There are some who believe the following scenario would be innappropriate use of child support: (I'm using random numbers just to illustrate a point, but will base CS on the calculations in my state) CP gets net paycheck of $500 on the 7th, the 14th, the 21st, and the 28th... a total of $2000 during the month. NCP makes the same amount in a month, but also has to pay an additional $100 toward medical insurance for the family plan at work. NCP must send a CS in the amount of $220 to the CP. NCP's total contribution is $320. NCP's employer sends entire amount to arrive just before the 1st. CP is supposed to be responsible to support the child in addition to what the NCP sends in the amount of $320. CP spends $135 on the child from each paycheck, but receives the CS check on the 30th and promptly writes a check for the mortgage since this deposit brings the balance of the account sufficient to write the mortgage check. Was CS spent on the mortgage? Some would see it that way. Yet, a total of $540 was spent of the child during the month and CP was only responsible for $320; hence, wasn't the additional $220 used toward the child? Personally, I wouldn't count on CS to pay my mortgage, but there are people out there who will budget the last check of any sort to arrive to be used toward that 1st of the month payment. Tracking the expenses via software in the example above will only enlighten those who feel that the CS check is being used on a mortgage payment. I could hug you right now. All the years I've spent in this news group and have seen countless times of people claiming child support was spent on items not for the child, and then you come up with the above example. I'm sure there will be some who will change the figures, but in truth if someone is not presented with facts then they'll draw any conclusion they wish. Then there are those who will debate what is being spent on the child and if it should be spent in the areas provided. Examples are music lessons, riding lessons, and sports. Should the new dresser be considered a costs for the child or the parent? Should a mattress used by a child be considered a cost for the child? (those are hypothetical questions) Thanks, Tracy ~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ |
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Tracy wrote: "Beverly" wrote in message ... On Fri, 4 Nov 2005 08:47:50 -0800, "Tracy" wrote: "Beverly" wrote in message .. . On 2 Nov 2005 22:25:24 -0800, wrote: There are some who believe the following scenario would be innappropriate use of child support: (I'm using random numbers just to illustrate a point, but will base CS on the calculations in my state) CP gets net paycheck of $500 on the 7th, the 14th, the 21st, and the 28th... a total of $2000 during the month. NCP makes the same amount in a month, but also has to pay an additional $100 toward medical insurance for the family plan at work. NCP must send a CS in the amount of $220 to the CP. NCP's total contribution is $320. NCP's employer sends entire amount to arrive just before the 1st. CP is supposed to be responsible to support the child in addition to what the NCP sends in the amount of $320. CP spends $135 on the child from each paycheck, but receives the CS check on the 30th and promptly writes a check for the mortgage since this deposit brings the balance of the account sufficient to write the mortgage check. Was CS spent on the mortgage? Some would see it that way. Yet, a total of $540 was spent of the child during the month and CP was only responsible for $320; hence, wasn't the additional $220 used toward the child? Personally, I wouldn't count on CS to pay my mortgage, but there are people out there who will budget the last check of any sort to arrive to be used toward that 1st of the month payment. Tracking the expenses via software in the example above will only enlighten those who feel that the CS check is being used on a mortgage payment. I could hug you right now. All the years I've spent in this news group and have seen countless times of people claiming child support was spent on items not for the child, and then you come up with the above example. I'm sure there will be some who will change the figures, but in truth if someone is not presented with facts then they'll draw any conclusion they wish. Then there are those who will debate what is being spent on the child and if it should be spent in the areas provided. Examples are music lessons, riding lessons, and sports. Should the new dresser be considered a costs for the child or the parent? Should a mattress used by a child be considered a cost for the child? (those are hypothetical questions) Thanks, Tracy ~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ The actually problem arises if, and only if, an inappropriate award is made. It is that simple. The countless times of people stating that the money is not spent on the child is most likely the product of inappropriate awards. I would like to see what accountability laws would do to the compliance rate for child support payors. |
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wrote in message ups.com... Tracy wrote: .................................. All the years I've spent in this news group and have seen countless times of people claiming child support was spent on items not for the child, and then you come up with the above example. I'm sure there will be some who will change the figures, but in truth if someone is not presented with facts then they'll draw any conclusion they wish. Then there are those who will debate what is being spent on the child and if it should be spent in the areas provided. Examples are music lessons, riding lessons, and sports. Should the new dresser be considered a costs for the child or the parent? Should a mattress used by a child be considered a cost for the child? (those are hypothetical questions) Thanks, Tracy ~~~~ http://www.hornschuch.net/tracy/ The actually problem arises if, and only if, an inappropriate award is made. It is that simple. The countless times of people stating that the money is not spent on the child is most likely the product of inappropriate awards. I would like to see what accountability laws would do to the compliance rate for child support payors. =========== Agreed. It has always been my contention that support awards *that go beyond the actual costs of raising kids,* should be accounted for by the CP. If the government is going to legislate lifestyle (which is unconstitutional anyway), it should be legislated for CPs as well as NCPs. And as far as equal protection, it must be legislated for kids in intact families as well. If the government is going to declare that it is in the child's best interest to be supported according to percentage of income, Bill Gates should be required to account for how much he spends on his kids, too. ========== |
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"Tracy" wrote in
: I could hug you right now. All the years I've spent in this news group and have seen countless times of people claiming child support was spent on items not for the child, and then you come up with the above example. I'm sure there will be some who will change the figures, but in truth if someone is not presented with facts then they'll draw any conclusion they wish. Then there are those who will debate what is being spent on the child and if it should be spent in the areas provided. Examples are music lessons, riding lessons, and sports. Should the new dresser be considered a costs for the child or the parent? Should a mattress used by a child be considered a cost for the child? (those are hypothetical questions) Thanks, Tracy Tracy, You are a fair person, and I have read you posts for years. That is an okay example of how it appears support money is spent one way, and not on the child, I'll give it that... .... but, that's all I'll give it. If you were to look at this problem from other sides, you will see it is not a good example of the issues surrounding child support. In her example Beverly states: CP spends $135 on the child from each paycheck This amount based on the combination of both parent's support contributions $320 x 2 = $640, minus $100 to medical = $540, divided by 4 weeks = $135. Lets just say it is $135 per week (not per paycheck). Bev is assuming that all $135 is spent each week. That is the theoritical limit based on each parent contributing to the monthly child support amount. So, my question is, where does the extra money go when the limit is not reached. Do you think the CP gives a refund to the NCP ("Hey, sorry, I didn't spend all the money this month, here is a cheque for $23.67"). No... it just goes into the CP's pockets. It gets worse. As the amount the NCP pays (which is about $400 - $500 per child in Canada), that theoritcal limit can go so high you could not even being to spend that kind of money on a child (well, I guess you could if they want everything and anything). Using $400 per month from the NCP, under Bev's example, a typical monthly expenditures would have to be $800 per month ($400 x2). WOW! Interestingly, as the amount increases, the CP pockets are lined even more. Say the CP still spends $135 per week (total $540) but has the $800 in combined support as noted above. Now ther NCP is paying $400 out of $540 and the CP only $140. Technically, the CP has a windfall of $260 per month. Do not spend the whole $135, and the NCP is paying the entire show. Now, even at $320 each in support, and $135 per week in expenditures, what was the money spent on? Bev is assuming the CP spends the money on the child. This is the first issue with CS. What the heck is the money being spent on and is money going to other things other than the children. So, if the NCP got a nice printout showing money spent on books, school supplies, toys, a DVD, clothes and making allowances for food and other things... hey, I can cut some slack here. But, the NCP does not have any accounting for the money. So, what is a NCP to do when they see their child in clothes that are tattered and worn out, or not see the clothes at all, improper outdoor clothing, boots that do not fit, the children missing lessons, and so on, and the CP crying "I'm broke. I'm so poor. I can't afford thnigs for the children". If the NCP had a printout they could at least go... "Oh, I see, you spent some money on little Bobby here and here and you did not have enough for lessons". I suspect most NCP's go.. "Hey, wait a second... I pay a lot for support... where are the kids clothes... why aren't they in lessons we agreed upon... and where are the rain boots... and why do they not have a good proper lunch? Can you expain this to me!?!?" Most will get a not so nice reply "It's none of your business". It gets even worse. Most NCP's will not been able to use any co purchased (through support). That includes, but not limited to; favoutrite stuffed animals, books, DVD's, clothes, etc, since they are not allowed to leave the CP's house. Which leads me to... bum bum ba! Day-to-day expenses to the NCP. There was no day-to-day cost for the NCP in Bev's example. Does the child not eat when with the NCP. Perhaps the NCP will purchase something for the child... a story book... maybe pack a lunch or two... a school supply. As time spent with the NCP increases, costs for the CP go down, but the CP stiil gets her $135 per week to spend on the child. So more unaccounted money to the CP. But I digress... Bev added... Was CS spent on the mortgage? Some would see it that way. Yet, a total of $540 was spent of the child during the month and CP was only responsible for $320; hence, wasn't the additional $220 used toward the child? So, Bev, in her perfect example, of tight little numbers and 100% of money spent on the child... it all looks fine. And really, no support money was spent paying off someone else's mortage or paying for a lifestyle. It is simply a matter of money goes in and money comes out and timing of income(s), support payments, expenses and mortgages. Heck, while we are at it, lets just state the CP has $2000 in salary, plus $220 ($320) in support, minus mortgage. The rest is used on the child and after all the needs of the children are met, on the life(style) for the CP. Okay... I can sleep easier now. If only it was that simple. Finally... Bev concluded with... Tracking the expenses via software in the example above will only enlighten those who feel that the CS check is being used on a mortgage payment. I want to be enlightened!!! Please give my ex a spreadsheet, and supply me with the monthly receipts and a printout. I'll cut her slack on some of the bills, some of the mortgage, food and even captial expenditures like a bed and a dresser. After that, though, I want a refund for the overpayment. Fair enough? H. |
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Good point. I should redefine inappropriate as an award that is grossly
disproportionate to the actual costs of raising a child. The problem is that the actual costs of raising a child vary so wildly that there is that really a way to calculate it without doing an economic study on the child in question, which is time-consuming. |
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I agree with Henry. I am totally willing to just assume my daughter
will eat X amount of dollars in food per month. If the X is a reasonable amount. A bed and dresser, if they were for the child, would be no problem to me, hey buying something expensive like that may balance out the fact that I may have paid too much at some point. Say there is a different account for the child. There is $1000 excess support in there, the child needs a bed, or would like to have a new one, whatever. Well, by all means, buy it! Put it on the daddy account! And if the account gets over a certain balance, say $2500, the money automatically starts to roll over into an interest-bearing account in the child's name. College fund, wedding fund, finally turned 21 and moved out fund, I don't mind overpaying, but I would hate for my daughter to call me and hit me up for tuition after I overpaid for years, where did it all go? Who knows. Hell if a person is going to overpay, then the child should reap the eventual benefits. Oh yeah, if the account grows way too fast, NCP might need a downward modification. |
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"Henry" wrote in I want to be enlightened!!! Please give my ex a spreadsheet, and supply me with the monthly receipts and a printout. I'll cut her slack on some of the bills, some of the mortgage, food and even captial expenditures like a bed and a dresser. After that, though, I want a refund for the overpayment. Fair enough? Play it the other way, what if your child came to live with you? You're already paying rent or a mortgage and utilities, so the child doesn't cost you anything there. Not much extra to put another plate on the table for Breakfast and Dinner. Half the time you throw away excess food anyway or just bag it for lunch the next day, so again the child is no extra burden. So the real cost of feeding a child is the lunch cost? You already pack your own lunch, so what does it cost to throw in a piece of Fruit, a sandwich, desert pack and carton of milk? This is what I ate when my parents packed my lunch!!!! Clothes, how many pairs of jeans and shoes can you buy in one month? How did my immigrant parents ever raise us 3 kids on one blue collar salary? They sure as hell didn't have a $800 dollar CS check coming in every month to help them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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I agree that that the costs of raising an individual child vary
considerably. I also agree that calculating those costs for an individual child would be time-consuming--as well as being extremely expensive and unlikely to eliminate the arbitrariness that fathers complain about with state child support guidelines. Nevertheless, given the political will, it would be possible to greatly improve on the present system in the U.S. The problem is that the political will isn't there at present. The fathers who pay this so-called "child support" under the present system -- as distinct from the mothers who receive it -- have very little influence over politicians, judges, and bureaucrats. Divorced and never-married fathers are one of the few remaining officially designated scapegoats in U.S. society today. I have been involved in these issues for many years (although in recent years I have scaled back my involvement). Thus, I have observed the activities of Robert Williams, whose Denver-based consulting and CS enforcement company has had a crucial influence on CS activities in the U.S. I have sat in on the activities of a CS advisory committee in my own state. As a result, I am well aware that CS guidelines will always be arbitrary. However, it would be perfectly possible to change their basis to make them less biased against fathers. For example, all expenses--including fixed costs such as housing rental or mortgage expenses--could be pro-rated between BOTH parents, according to the time the children spend with the "majority" parent and the "minority" parent. Instead, the prevalent practice is to assign expenses associated with the children to the custodial parent (nearly always the mother). Typically, no allowance is made for the father's costs associated with the time the children are with him. Thus, the father continues to have to pay the mother for several weeks during the summer, when typically the children are with him 100 percent of the time. I have heard this issue raised, and the usual reply is that the mother's housing expenses don't go away when the children are with the father. However, EXACTLY the same thing is true for the father. It's just that no one has to pay any attention to the father's side of the equation. So-called "child support" COULD be made more rational, even if the arbitrary element can never be completely removed. This is not done for one reason, and one reason only. That reason is that making "child support" more rational would be to the benefit of fathers, and would involve removal of an unjustified subsidy to mothers. In addition, scaling back CS in this way would make wife-initiated divorces (which are the great bulk of family breakups in the U.S. today) more difficult. So there would be a conflict with a fundamental, but never-acknowledged, principle of U.S. family law. That principle is that enlarging women's options is the policy objective that trumps all others, including the legitimate interests of men and children. wrote in message oups.com... Good point. I should redefine inappropriate as an award that is grossly disproportionate to the actual costs of raising a child. The problem is that the actual costs of raising a child vary so wildly that there is that really a way to calculate it without doing an economic study on the child in question, which is time-consuming. |
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