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Parent in the Hospital
I have a problem at home, mostly with my 4.5 year old daughter.
It's unlikely that I'll be able to answer follow-up questions, so I'll be as complete as I can, and any advice would be appreciated. My wife has been in the hospital for a month. In the first three weeks, she was essentially in a coma-like state, came "out" of it, and is headed to a rehab facility tomorrow, likely for a few months, so work on cognitive, occupational, physical, and speech rehab. She isn't all the way back now, and it's hard to say how far she will come back. In the first three weeks, my daughter (nor my 16 month old son) couldn't visit , and we had rotating caregivers while I visited twice a day. It seemed to be working out. She asked about her at times, but didn't ask to visit. Once she was able, however, she refused. She said she was scared of the hospital, but most likely, she is scared of her mother's condition, or perhaps, simply isn't able to put it into words. I didn't press her to visit, as per my own instinct and the advice of others. And for what it is worth, my wife, who works with children, seems to understand and does not take it personally. I am hoping that she would come around, and that the rehab center might be a better place. So, of my two questions, #1 is, if she refuses visit the rehab center, how can I make work? I can't deny my wife visits if it goes on for months, and I want it to work out soon. But if the kid is kicking and screaming, then that won't make anyone happy. So what to do? The other issue is control. Earlier this week, she started clutching to me and crying whenever I left to visit. The emotions finally caught up to her. She, as I interpret it, didn't want to stay with anyone that she didn't feel safe with. She needed some predictability. So, that left myself and her best friend (who is on our street). They are understanding and accommodating, so I we came to an understanding that I would only visit this week when she could stay with her friend. Well, that was fine, but she's started to cling to us a bit tighter. She won't play with any other friends, and won't even play with that friend if she is with another kid. A few times, she has not treated her well, and I fear that if this increases, she'll be left with no one. She's also a bit short with my friends, or anyone else who happens to drop by the house. So, #2, what to do about that:? I want her healthy, and I think she needed some familiar ground for awhile to be so. However, I think that if she isolates herself for too long, then it will have the opposite effect on her emotional health, especially if she burns bridges in the process. So, how to get back to multiple, comfortable friends? Thanks. SM |
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