I need a little advice regarding child support

"Dash Ron" wrote in message
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message
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And you are wrong once again......I cross the border all the time without
a
license check

Country borders? (i.e. into Mexico or Canada)?

-Ron

Yep.......I cross into Canada frequently......and the Canadian side rarely
asks for ID.....they simply enter the plate number of the car of whoever is
driving. Coming back into the states, is about 50/50, and even then they
rarely punch up the ID's or run the passport through the computer.

Besides that, their is miles and miles of border I could cross over at
anytime without a C/I check......all you need is a boat.

Thanks..... Honestly, I'm not holding my breath.... I guess I just wanted to
see what kind of chances I had at getting what my son deserves in finanacial
support. His quality of life is great though because his bio dad isn't even
in the picture. We're just trying to get by.... unfortunately, I've noticed
that many of the single parents have a bit of a harder time financially than
the non-custodial parent..... Thanks though!

--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"steveb" wrote in message
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On Wed, 17 Nov 2004 10:30:33 -0500, "P.Fritz"
wrote:

Yes.......forget about it. Stop spending your time an energy trying to
get even/revenge/whatever against your ex and get on with your life.

She isn't trying to get revenge Paul, those are your issues, she is
trying to get child support. She says so very clearly.

In the end Sly, it amounts to the same thing tho. It is likely you
would be pouring good money after bad. Ask your lawyer how realistic
are your chances of getting anything .... take his or her advice

steveb

V,
I'd appreciate it! Thanks!! =)

--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"P.Fritz" wrote in message
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"V" wrote in message
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"slykitten" wrote in message
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hi,
I need a little advice on how to proceed.....
October 7th of this year there was a hearing regarding child support.
my
ex
owes it in a big way! The hearing was a "motion to show cause and
intervene." I appeared by phone because the hearing was held in my home
state and I moved to a different state. (when I say "home state" I
mean,
the
state I lived in my entire life up until I left the creep 7 years ago.)
In
some ways, I felt kinda like I got slapped across the face.... my ex
never
showed up! This was a hearing that I actually wanted him to show up
to!!!
So he's now in a heap load of trouble. He's been found in contempt of
court
and of course, we know the repercussions of that (I'm avoiding saying
certain things because this guy admitted once to "checking up" on me
via
internet.) A week later, he never appeared for a second court hearing
regarding a traffic ticket and was also found in violation and so he
has
a
second set of issues. He's on the run. I'm not sure what else I can do.
The
sad thing is that his precious mommy has helped him to hide from the
laws
that enforce child support. He's had his own business for a while which
"mysteriously" disappeared about 2 weeks before the hearing in October.
His
mother was listed as the "owner" and he was listed as the "lead
technical
supervisor" so we knew he had a job, he was just getting paid under the
table.
I guess that my questions are, What do I do now? Is there any way of
finding
him? Will I have to hire a private investigator? Is there a way of
tracing
him through his SSN? What if he changes his SSN? What if he's run off
to
someplace like Mexico or Canada? While I realize that there may not be
an
easy way of doing any of this, can someone at least offer me some ideas
on
what I could do and who I should turn to? This guy also has lots of
weapons.
My attempts at getting a restraining order has failed because the judge
took
his side when he and his precious mommy both claimed that all he does
is
"collects" guns. I'm now in a position where I have to protect myself
because the law won't do it. I feel kinda left in limbo.... So I'm open
to
ideas.
I'd appreciate it.

--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery



Was there a bench warrant issued, for sure?
He will eventually be caught up with, b/c he can not cross a border
without
some sort of run on his Driver's License which , in turn, will pop up in
NCIC
as a warrant. Now is the time to contact the DA in the state which the
hearing
took place. Be persistant. Some places will extradite or bring him back
to
the
place of offense, but I am going to be quite honest: if it were murder,
they
would....child support, they usually don't. But they will call to see if
the
offending agency wants to get him or not.
No need for an attorney. I went pro se. Just email me privately and I
will
help you out.
V


And you are wrong once again......I cross the border all the time without
a
license check

Thanks....
this does help! and you're right.... he is missing out.... that's ok
though.... my young'un is in far better hands and has a great family who
loves him! his step-grandparents adore him, he loves his step-dad..... my
family is always calling or sending letters to him..... over all, I think
it's a better situation than if the guy was involved..... =)

--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"Moon Shyne" wrote in message
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"slykitten" wrote in message
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hi,
I need a little advice on how to proceed.....
October 7th of this year there was a hearing regarding child support. my
ex
owes it in a big way! The hearing was a "motion to show cause and
intervene." I appeared by phone because the hearing was held in my home
state and I moved to a different state. (when I say "home state" I mean,
the
state I lived in my entire life up until I left the creep 7 years ago.)
In
some ways, I felt kinda like I got slapped across the face.... my ex
never
showed up! This was a hearing that I actually wanted him to show up
to!!!
So he's now in a heap load of trouble. He's been found in contempt of
court
and of course, we know the repercussions of that (I'm avoiding saying
certain things because this guy admitted once to "checking up" on me via
internet.) A week later, he never appeared for a second court hearing
regarding a traffic ticket and was also found in violation and so he has
a
second set of issues. He's on the run. I'm not sure what else I can do.
The
sad thing is that his precious mommy has helped him to hide from the
laws
that enforce child support. He's had his own business for a while which
"mysteriously" disappeared about 2 weeks before the hearing in October.
His
mother was listed as the "owner" and he was listed as the "lead
technical
supervisor" so we knew he had a job, he was just getting paid under the
table.
I guess that my questions are, What do I do now?

Let the controlling state issue a bench warrant, if they will - they'll
catch up
with him the next time he tries to get a hunting/fishing license, renew
his
driver's license, or gets stopped for a traffic infraction. Meanwhile,
you can
contact the controlling CS Enforcement agency, and request Enforcement,
specifically Tax Intercepts. Request it every year.

Is there any way of finding
him? Realistically? They won't work real hard at it unless you go on
Welfare, because then the state wants their own money back.

Will I have to hire a private investigator?

You could, but it probably would cost more than it's worth.

Is there a way of tracing
him through his SSN?

Yes. CS Enforcement in the controlling state can check his earnings as
recorded
by Social Security - and they should be able to tell where he's working.

What if he changes his SSN?

Not likely - it's a gigantic issue to do that.

What if he's run off to
someplace like Mexico or Canada?

Then you're going to be out of luck unless and until he comes back, and
even
then only if there's a flag on his passport AND it's checked at the
border.
I've gone from US to Canada multiple times without ever having to show a
passport.

While I realize that there may not be an
easy way of doing any of this, can someone at least offer me some ideas
on
what I could do and who I should turn to?

Annoy the hell out of Child Support Enforcement, but do it nicely - don't
****
'em off, or they'll conveniently lose your file. Be persistant, and frame
it in
the way of asking for their help.

This guy also has lots of weapons.
My attempts at getting a restraining order has failed because the judge
took
his side when he and his precious mommy both claimed that all he does is
"collects" guns. I'm now in a position where I have to protect myself
because the law won't do it. I feel kinda left in limbo.... So I'm open
to
ideas.

If he's in another state, then I wouldn't worry about that one.

After turning it over to CSE and requesting the annual tax intercepts, see
if
you can get a child support lien against any property he owns - that would
be
real estate, cars - again, it won't do you a whole lotta good unless he
tries to
sell the asset, but it's better than nothing.

After that, enjoy your kid(s) - he's missing a whole lot more than you
are.


I'd appreciate it.

--
"Many have forgotten this truth, but you must not forget it.
You remain responsible, forever, for what you have tamed."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupery

On Thu, 18 Nov 2004 12:30:24 -0700, "slykitten"
wrote:

Thanks..... Honestly, I'm not holding my breath.... I guess I just wanted to
see what kind of chances I had at getting what my son deserves in finanacial
support. His quality of life is great though because his bio dad isn't even
in the picture. We're just trying to get by.... unfortunately, I've noticed
that many of the single parents have a bit of a harder time financially than
the non-custodial parent..... Thanks though!

You're very welcome

I can't comment on the legal situation tho, although it seems you got
plenty of good advice already. I am just a Brit, visiting the US ....

steveb

..... although if it annoys Paul enough, I'll consider a permanent move
eg

"P.Fritz" wrote in message
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"Dash Ron" wrote in message
. com...

"P.Fritz" wrote in message
...

And you are wrong once again......I cross the border all the time
without
a
license check

Country borders? (i.e. into Mexico or Canada)?

-Ron

Yep.......I cross into Canada frequently......and the Canadian side rarely
asks for ID.....they simply enter the plate number of the car of whoever
is driving. Coming back into the states, is about 50/50, and even then
they rarely punch up the ID's or run the passport through the computer.

Besides that, their is miles and miles of border I could cross over at
anytime without a C/I check......all you need is a boat.


Even after 9/11? I haven't crossed the border since 2000 so I'm curious how
much it's changed.

Christine

"steveb" wrote in message
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On Thu, 18 Nov 2004 12:30:24 -0700, "slykitten"
wrote:

Thanks..... Honestly, I'm not holding my breath.... I guess I just wanted
to
see what kind of chances I had at getting what my son deserves in
finanacial
support. His quality of life is great though because his bio dad isn't
even
in the picture. We're just trying to get by.... unfortunately, I've
noticed
that many of the single parents have a bit of a harder time financially
than
the non-custodial parent..... Thanks though!

You're very welcome

I can't comment on the legal situation tho, although it seems you got
plenty of good advice already. I am just a Brit, visiting the US ....

steveb

.... although if it annoys Paul enough, I'll consider a permanent move
eg

As long as you stay out of Canada sluggo.

Christine

"Dash Ron" wrote in message
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"P.Fritz" wrote in message
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And you are wrong once again......I cross the border all the time without
a
license check

Country borders? (i.e. into Mexico or Canada)?

-Ron


Ron:
I am speaking of country borders. They do check quite often, especially since
9/11. I had gotten a call from Canda border on a subject we had warrants on
for non support. We cut him, b/c extradiction was not feasible, per the DA.
Every single person may not be stopped, but I bet since 9/11, they have a K-9
sniffing about.
V

"slykitten" wrote in message
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V,
I'd appreciate it! Thanks!! =)


Any time!
V

On Fri, 19 Nov 2004 00:59:36 GMT, "CME"
wrote:

As long as you stay out of Canada sluggo.

with you there? go figure!