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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
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My child is almost 2. Until now, she was taken care of by a nanny. I hasten to say that we like the nanny, and my child is learning things (she knows her animals, colors, shapes). For a variety of reasons, we decided to try a daycare center. Here are the reasons: 1. My child will get exposed to other kids. 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. Can parents with kids this age please comment on my list of reasons for daycare? In your experience, are kids who go to daycare when they are 2 better adjusted for preschool? Thank you for reading! Gia |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
I have comments only about a couple of things.
"Gia" wrote in message ups.com... Hi, My child is almost 2. Until now, she was taken care of by a nanny. I hasten to say that we like the nanny, and my child is learning things (she knows her animals, colors, shapes). For a variety of reasons, we decided to try a daycare center. Here are the reasons: 1. My child will get exposed to other kids. 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) Whether or not she goes to daycare, if she is spoiled it should be stopped at home with both the nanny and Mom and Dad. Set limits. If this is difficult or you don't know how, read Setting Limits or some other such good book http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/076...202/ref=pd_bbs _1/104-4988866-7091903?ie=UTF8 Support your provider! 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). I am curious why you don't "tolerate' this sort of thing at home? 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. She is 2. Most daycares won't have any more progress than you will at training a 2yo. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. Everyone is full of horse pucky. My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. Can parents with kids this age please comment on my list of reasons for daycare? In your experience, are kids who go to daycare when they are 2 better adjusted for preschool? Thank you for reading! Gia |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
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1. My child will get exposed to other kids. Could your nanny take your child to play groups? The library? Does your school district offer any Early Childhood Family Education classes for little ones? 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) She is two so she will think that she is the center of the universe, but you can work on that without other kids being there. 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). Could she do any messy activities outside? Finger paint on an easel or table in the yard? 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. Early childhood teachers will tell you that the only toys a child of this age really need are the three B's: Books, Balls, and Blocks. Anything else is fun and may even be educational, but isn't really necessary. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. You say she's ALMOST 2? Now different people will tell you different things, but our doctor told us not to try to potty train DD until she either A.) Showed signs of readiness, or B.) was at least 2. Maybe your DD isn't really ready yet. One thing I'm learning (slowly, because I'm stubborn) is that potty training just can't be rushed. And while peer pressure might work when other kids are around, it might not work when she's home with you. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. This I think is total bull (I would use the word malarchy, but I'm not sure how to spell it.)! What about kids who stay home with their moms? Are they all totally unprepared for preschool, I don't think so! Do you still employ the nanny? If so I would just let your daughter stay where she is most comfortable, I don't feel like your reasons for daycare are strong enough to change your daughter's comfort zone. But that's just my opinion. Sarah |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
Gia wrote:
Hi, My child is almost 2. Until now, she was taken care of by a nanny. I hasten to say that we like the nanny, and my child is learning things (she knows her animals, colors, shapes). For a variety of reasons, we decided to try a daycare center. Here are the reasons: 1. My child will get exposed to other kids. 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. Can parents with kids this age please comment on my list of reasons for daycare? In your experience, are kids who go to daycare when they are 2 better adjusted for preschool? Thank you for reading! It is not uncommon for some 2yos to have a very difficult time transitioning to school. I think the argument that she needs to be in school at 2 years old because otherwise she'll have a hard time at 3 years old is *completely* bogus. There are many kids who are ready at three but not particularly ready at 2. She will eventually adjust. She may be perfectly ready to go now and is just going through a bit of a transition, or it may be earlier than would be ideal for her to go. Does that matter? If it's earlier than is ideal for her to go, would you switch back? If you're committed to the daycare, then be positive and supportive and get on with it (after making sure that the staff are handling the situation appropriately). If you are stressing out over it, you're just going to make it worse for her. On the flip side, if you think she's not in a great spot developmentally to do this, and you are willing to back off, then by all means do that. It's flat out ridiculous to say that a child who is not even 2 years old yet is going to be damaged somehow by quality care at home. It is certainly within your ability to stop spoiling her and arrange for some of the messier play to happen (or have your nanny do so). The main thing is that you have to make your best assessment of what's best for her, and then do it without all the waffling. Kids are resilient. They learn to adapt to situations. You just don't want to waffle back and forth and agonize over everything all the time. That gives them a very unsettled feeling and makes them anxious. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
A good friend of mine teaches Kindergarten and has told me that she
definitely sees the difference between kids who went to daycare and those who were in an only-child setting until school age. She says that the children who went to daycare transition much more quickly and smoothly than most of the others. I have nothing against Nannies and know that they have many positives... but thought I'd pass along info that I was told. Best wishes! "Ericka Kammerer" wrote in message . .. Gia wrote: Hi, My child is almost 2. Until now, she was taken care of by a nanny. I hasten to say that we like the nanny, and my child is learning things (she knows her animals, colors, shapes). For a variety of reasons, we decided to try a daycare center. Here are the reasons: 1. My child will get exposed to other kids. 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. Can parents with kids this age please comment on my list of reasons for daycare? In your experience, are kids who go to daycare when they are 2 better adjusted for preschool? Thank you for reading! It is not uncommon for some 2yos to have a very difficult time transitioning to school. I think the argument that she needs to be in school at 2 years old because otherwise she'll have a hard time at 3 years old is *completely* bogus. There are many kids who are ready at three but not particularly ready at 2. She will eventually adjust. She may be perfectly ready to go now and is just going through a bit of a transition, or it may be earlier than would be ideal for her to go. Does that matter? If it's earlier than is ideal for her to go, would you switch back? If you're committed to the daycare, then be positive and supportive and get on with it (after making sure that the staff are handling the situation appropriately). If you are stressing out over it, you're just going to make it worse for her. On the flip side, if you think she's not in a great spot developmentally to do this, and you are willing to back off, then by all means do that. It's flat out ridiculous to say that a child who is not even 2 years old yet is going to be damaged somehow by quality care at home. It is certainly within your ability to stop spoiling her and arrange for some of the messier play to happen (or have your nanny do so). The main thing is that you have to make your best assessment of what's best for her, and then do it without all the waffling. Kids are resilient. They learn to adapt to situations. You just don't want to waffle back and forth and agonize over everything all the time. That gives them a very unsettled feeling and makes them anxious. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
Gia wrote:
My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. First, does she cry the whole half day or just at drop off? You've gotten some really good comments on this so I just have one more thing to add. One thing that daycares I am acquainted with do (my daughter has been in daycare for 5 months, since she was a year old) is that they have a transition week (or two) so you don't drop them off alone until they are used to it. Basically the first half-day you go with the child, then if they are doing well maybe the next day you leave the child alone for a bit, and by the end of the week work up to a full or almost full day alone. If it's taking longer for the child to adjust you continue going with them into the second week. I was just wondering if you had this kind of transition time with your daughter. Also if she is just crying when you drop her off then going on to have fun I wouldn't worry about it. It will likely stop soon. Daycare vs. nanny is a decision very specifc to the needs of your kids and your family. good luck! Elle |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
I'll add one more thing to the mix. My 20 month old daughter seems to really
enjoy her 2 morning a week PDO program (mostly, I suspect, because of the indoor and outdoor toddler large motor play areas, which rival Gymboree and are, unlike the neighborhood playgrounds, sized for her age group), and talks about it at home all the time, but she fusses to a major degree when she's dropped off-and she started this right about at 15 months or so. However, I've gone around to the window to be able to watch her, and that crying lasts maybe 2-3 minutes after I leave the room and am out of sight. According to the director, that's really typical for young toddlers. They know that mommy's leaving, and they know that they can make mommy feel bad for leaving while crying horribly, but once mommy's gone, they're ready for the task at hand. As they move into preschool, they tend more to the "bye, see you later". She also said that for a young toddler, it would be more worrisome if a child didn't do this, even if it does make mommy feel horrible. -- Donna DeVore Metler Orff Music Specialist/Kindermusik Mother to Angel Brian Anthony 1/1/2002, 22 weeks, severe PE/HELLP And Allison Joy, 11/25/04 (35 weeks, PIH, Pre-term labor) |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
tmdl20 wrote:
A good friend of mine teaches Kindergarten and has told me that she definitely sees the difference between kids who went to daycare and those who were in an only-child setting until school age. She says that the children who went to daycare transition much more quickly and smoothly than most of the others. I have nothing against Nannies and know that they have many positives... but thought I'd pass along info that I was told. A) There are many years between not even 2 years old and kindergarten entry. I am unaware of any research, or even anecdotal experience, saying that you have to get the kid out of the house before 2 years old or the kid won't be able to adjust in kindy. I've had kids go both ways (some starting after 3yo, some starting at 2yo) and there wasn't a darned bit of difference by kindergarten entry. B) Those differences between kids who did and didn't have preschool/daycare experience prior to kindergarten disappear rapidly as long as the kids who were at home had an appropriate environment. I.e., kids who were in an impoverished (in terms of cognitive stimulation and such) environment at home suffer long term consequences that aren't so easy to mitigate, but those with a rich environment at home and good care just take a little longer to learn the ropes of working in a large group. Best wishes, Ericka |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
You know, Micah started doing the same thing at church nursery right
around 15 months... He *had* been the angel I-love-nursery child up until then, but for the last few months it's been difficult. I guess this makes sense! Em mama to Micah, 11/14/04 Donna Metler wrote: .... According to the director, that's really typical for young toddlers. They know that mommy's leaving, and they know that they can make mommy feel bad for leaving while crying horribly, but once mommy's gone, they're ready for the task at hand. As they move into preschool, they tend more to the "bye, see you later". She also said that for a young toddler, it would be more worrisome if a child didn't do this, even if it does make mommy feel horrible. |
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Daycare question for 2-year-old??
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All the reasons are good but you dont have to do it right now if shes not ready. No harm in waiting 6 monthws and seeing if she liked it better. One of ours loved preschool from 1.5 years and the other not until 3 yrs. Depends a lot on the child. Gia wrote: Hi, My child is almost 2. Until now, she was taken care of by a nanny. I hasten to say that we like the nanny, and my child is learning things (she knows her animals, colors, shapes). For a variety of reasons, we decided to try a daycare center. Here are the reasons: 1. My child will get exposed to other kids. 2. We hope it will prevent further spoiling her (she thinks, naturally, that she is the center of the universe right now, and she is slightly spoiled, I have to admit) 3. In daycare, she'll get to do messy activities that I don't usually tolerate at home (finger painting, for example). 4. In daycare, they have more toys than I am able or willing to provide at home. 5. She has been resistent to potty-training, and we hope that if she sees other kids doing it, she'll use the potty, too. 6. Finally, everybody says that if she doesn't get used to daycare now, it will be more difficult for her to go to preschool when she is 3. My child has been in daycare for a week (half day), and she is crying when I drop her off. I am really very conflicted about this. Can parents with kids this age please comment on my list of reasons for daycare? In your experience, are kids who go to daycare when they are 2 better adjusted for preschool? Thank you for reading! Gia |
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