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One time Lump sum payment for life
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1. My ex pays me $x each month on time as child support for the past 1 year. 2. My daughter is now 4. 3. He is liable to pay till she is 18 (another 14 years). 4. He never visits her. Nor does he want to. 5. Zero participation as a parent from his side. 6. He doesn't want his current wife to know he has a child in reach. 7. He has told her I moved out of the country so he is not in touch with his daughter.....I don't know why...he has issues...if you know what I mean. ;-) My thoughts: I am fed up with the situation of this scare he might pull up a new trick on me. My daughter has started questioning me about her dad. I can't even say daddy is busy...will come some other weekend. Because Daddy will never show up. She doesn't even know who he is...never seen him (except when she was an infant). My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
On Jul 23, 10:39?pm, wrote:
Facts: 1. My ex pays me $x each month on time as child support for the past 1 year. 2. My daughter is now 4. 3. He is liable to pay till she is 18 (another 14 years). 4. He never visits her. Nor does he want to. 5. Zero participation as a parent from his side. 6. He doesn't want his current wife to know he has a child in reach. 7. He has told her I moved out of the country so he is not in touch with his daughter.....I don't know why...he has issues...if you know what I mean. ;-) My thoughts: I am fed up with the situation of this scare he might pull up a new trick on me. My daughter has started questioning me about her dad. I can't even say daddy is busy...will come some other weekend. Because Daddy will never show up. She doesn't even know who he is...never seen him (except when she was an infant). My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. I am quite sure you didnt make his life miserable in the least. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
He can agree to waiving all future parental rights, though not
obligations ;-). As far as a lump sum you and he can agree on this but...depending on the trust level between you regardless of what you agree to the courts can decide it doesn't count. If you receive a lump sum at a later time you can go back and ask to have child support re- established. The court then decides. They way the system works odds are you'd get child support. Even though this group is a bit snarly (often with justification) toward custodial parents, I don't see anything in your post about unfairness and I'm not suggesting that you would take a lump sum and then go back for child support. I'm just pointing out the downside for your ex. Don My thoughts: I am fed up with the situation of this scare he might pull up a new trick on me. My daughter has started questioning me about her dad. I can't even say daddy is busy...will come some other weekend. Because Daddy will never show up. She doesn't even know who he is...never seen him (except when she was an infant). My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
wrote in message ups.com... Facts: 1. My ex pays me $x each month on time as child support for the past 1 year. 2. My daughter is now 4. 3. He is liable to pay till she is 18 (another 14 years). 4. He never visits her. Nor does he want to. 5. Zero participation as a parent from his side. 6. He doesn't want his current wife to know he has a child in reach. 7. He has told her I moved out of the country so he is not in touch with his daughter.....I don't know why...he has issues...if you know what I mean. ;-) My thoughts: I am fed up with the situation of this scare he might pull up a new trick on me. My daughter has started questioning me about her dad. I can't even say daddy is busy...will come some other weekend. Because Daddy will never show up. She doesn't even know who he is...never seen him (except when she was an infant). My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. ........ except for the free money. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
wrote in Facts: 1. My ex pays me $x each month on time. So what's your problem? You probably need the lump sum to pay for "your" material needs. What new car, a trip perhaps? What do you do when the money runs out? It's obvious he doesn't want to have anything to do with you, move on. Thought women were more independent than the groveling leeches they prove to be. |
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wrote in If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. Key word, "My" daughter! BTW, he is out of your life completely, move on! |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
"DB" wrote wrote in If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. Key word, "My" daughter! BTW, he is out of your life completely, move on! == I'm thinking she wants paid to move on. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
wrote in message ups.com... My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. You can do this legally by reversing the concept. Determine the total amount of CS due over the next 14 years. Deduct the amount you are willing to take as a buy out. Send him the difference. |
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One time Lump sum payment for life
I'm not quite certain how getting the money all at once would solve the
difficulties. Would there be a mechanism that would only give you the money at $X per month? What would happen if you decided to spend it all within the first 3 years -how would your child be supported the next 11 years? Is he really well enough off to be able to give you an amount that large--or would he have to take out a loan? You say that he has no contact with the child now--how would getting the money all at once change anything for your child? It might change some annoyances for you, but how would it help the child? What if his job situation changes and he is earning 10 times what he is earning now. Legally your child would be intitled to a portion of that--would you really sit by and say "But we already got a lump sum so we get none of that gravy. sigh" I know that right now you really think you would, but it would be much harder when the money was actually available. For me, though, the biggest issue would be what would happen if all the money was spent, and you needed more--and I am not saying that you would blow it on nonsense, but emergencies still happen. Legally, you could still go after him for more money. So, there are lots of upsides for you--but, for him, it would be a 14 year roll of the dice. wrote in message ups.com... Facts: 1. My ex pays me $x each month on time as child support for the past 1 year. 2. My daughter is now 4. 3. He is liable to pay till she is 18 (another 14 years). 4. He never visits her. Nor does he want to. 5. Zero participation as a parent from his side. 6. He doesn't want his current wife to know he has a child in reach. 7. He has told her I moved out of the country so he is not in touch with his daughter.....I don't know why...he has issues...if you know what I mean. ;-) My thoughts: I am fed up with the situation of this scare he might pull up a new trick on me. My daughter has started questioning me about her dad. I can't even say daddy is busy...will come some other weekend. Because Daddy will never show up. She doesn't even know who he is...never seen him (except when she was an infant). My question: Can I propose to him that he can give me a one time lump sum payment of child support in lieu of payments each month for next 14 years. He would that way get rid of me (he hates me and the feeling is mutual)...and rather pay the bank the installment. As far as financial situation goes, he is pretty ok moneywise...that should not be a problem. Plus can he add (I want him to) that he gives away all his parental rights. If he doesn't have anything to do with my daughter, I might as well have him OUT completely. |
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