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Old July 25th 07, 04:51 AM posted to alt.child-support
Soprano
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Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta
  #2  
Old July 25th 07, 05:37 AM posted to alt.child-support
teachrmama
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You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
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Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta



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Old July 25th 07, 05:57 AM posted to alt.child-support
Brook Harty
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If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

  #4  
Old July 25th 07, 06:22 AM posted to alt.child-support
Soprano
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teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the courts.
You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together. Why put
control of such an important issue in the hands of total strangers who feel
that their formulae are more important than the parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6 year
old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he likes,
we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The Child Support
people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta



You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I
think I will listen to His Grace's advice.
  #5  
Old July 25th 07, 06:23 AM posted to alt.child-support
Soprano
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Brook Harty wrote:
If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

I know that. And that is why I did not file those papers for a year. But
I discussed it with the former head of Family Support Services and His
Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake.
  #6  
Old July 25th 07, 06:47 AM posted to alt.child-support
teachrmama
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"Soprano" wrote in message
...
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the
courts. You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together.
Why put control of such an important issue in the hands of total
strangers who feel that their formulae are more important than the
parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta



You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I think
I will listen to His Grace's advice.


Oh--you mean your ex is such an uncaring father that he would try to
shortchange his daughter? That is really sad!!


  #7  
Old July 25th 07, 06:48 AM posted to alt.child-support
teachrmama
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"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Brook Harty wrote:
If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

I know that. And that is why I did not file those papers for a year. But I
discussed it with the former head of Family Support Services and His Grace
advised I do it for my daughter's sake.


Has her father not been paying anything at all?


  #8  
Old July 25th 07, 07:17 AM posted to alt.child-support
Soprano
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teachrmama wrote:
"Soprano" wrote in message
...
teachrmama wrote:
You are not legally required to file for child support through the
courts. You and your ex *can* sit down and come to an agreement together.
Why put control of such an important issue in the hands of total
strangers who feel that their formulae are more important than the
parents of the child?

"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

You are right. However I know the former head of Family Support Services
for my state and His Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake. I think
I will listen to His Grace's advice.


Oh--you mean your ex is such an uncaring father that he would try to
shortchange his daughter? That is really sad!!


No, that's not the problem. There are other problems which I don't want
to discuss publicly anymore.
  #9  
Old July 25th 07, 07:18 AM posted to alt.child-support
Soprano
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teachrmama wrote:
"Soprano" wrote in message
...
Brook Harty wrote:
If you use the services, they take a fee, and can create hardships for
the father.

You only have to use the service if absolutely necessary. If the father
is ever out of work, they can put the father in prison, which is the
"hardship" part.

Best advice, don't use it, if you don't have too.

Soprano wrote:
Hi, I am new here. I have had child support papers for a year and never
filed them. I am a Christian and I feel like an atheist doing this. I
should say I am a Christian convert, which makes it hard. I divorced my
husband. Slogging through these papers is hell on earth. We have a 6
year old and I have full custody of her but he can visit her whenever he
likes, we live in the same county. We live in Marin County, CA. The
Child Support people here are friendly and helpful.
Atlanta

I know that. And that is why I did not file those papers for a year. But I
discussed it with the former head of Family Support Services and His Grace
advised I do it for my daughter's sake.


Has her father not been paying anything at all?


Not like that, no. He helps out in other ways and sometimes gives me a
small amount of cash. He will buy groceries sometimes or dinner other
times. Its a tough situation and one I no longer want to discuss on Usenet.
  #10  
Old July 25th 07, 02:25 PM posted to alt.child-support
Shadow36
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"Soprano" wrote in message
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I know that. And that is why I did not file those papers for a year. But

I discussed it with the former head of Family Support Services and His
Grace advised I do it for my daughter's sake.


Thats the dumbest damn **** I ever heard of in my life. You just gave the
courts control over you, your daughters, and your ex's life.


 




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