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Thanks! Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
I think you need to let it roll off your back and not be so sensitive. Kids
are going to hurt our feelings to some degree and one needs to develop a thicker skin. He sees that it bothers you and he is continuing with it. Toughen up, as another poster said, your child was not given to for your validation. You need to validate yourself and not worry about what other people think (when he uses your name out in public). -- Sue mom to three girls cloud nine wrote in message ... A huge thank you to everyone for all your responses! I know it is not a big deal to some here, but to me, it is. I am going to try all of your suggestions. I appreciate it! Sue |
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Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
My DD has been calling her
daddy "dadda" for weeks and weeks but refuses to give me a name, despite the fact that she is perfectly capable of saying "mamma". It drives me nuts. Even "kate" would do LOL. My daughters used to call me Papa and pat me on the arm to show they meant me, not their father. --Helen |
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Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
I have just one suggestion - it's what I did when I thought I heard my
daughter start to call me "Cori" rather than Momma....DON'T ANSWER. DON'T RESPOND. As far as he's concerned, your name is NOT "Pam", it's MOMMY. Why answer to something that you don't want him to call you?? That will just reinforce the behavior, no matter WHAT you tell him about the names...as long as he sees you answering to it to HIM, he'll keep doing it. Your DS: Pam, do it. You: nothing DS: PAM...? You: I'm sorry, who's Pam? I'm Mommy. Can I help you? Also, I've encouraged my DH to call me Mommy around my Dd, and I call him Daddy to her. It helps, and I think we've made the connection. I also had to stop calling MY mother "Mom" and start calling her what I wanted the BABE to call her - "Dearma". :-) I felt SO HORRIBLE when my DD was calling MY mother "Mommy"!! So, we emphasized "Dearma" for her and "Momma" for me...and I think we're past the trouble stage. HTH! Corinne -- "Since AP parents are accused of "spoiling" their children with responsiveness, love, understanding, patience, positive interaction, intimacy and closeness, respect, and value - I have decided that spoiling ROCKS! Teaching my child that she ALWAYS deserves all of the above is the right thing to do, and I plan to own my spoiling ways. Baby Spoilers Unite!" --Jessica, iVillage AP board |
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Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
On Fri, 15 Aug 2003 14:51:22 +1000, "Tai" wrote:
DS2.5 called me by my name for the first time this week and I had to get him to repeat it to be sure he was. Since the only person in the house who calls me by name and not "mummy" or "mum" is my husband I'm quite surprised DS even knows what my name is! My 3 yo actually asked what my name was a few months ago. I like that she sort of understands that my name isn't "Mom," and that "Mom" is only the nickname my kids use. Everyone once in a while, the kids will call me by my first name, and frankly, I don't really care. While I have a slight concern about whether this is disrespectful (although none of the children are allowed to call other adults by their first names), hearing that "Mom Mom Mom Mom" mantra gets old sometimes. Especially since my husband usually calls me by the contraction rather than the full name our son used. My DH rarely uses my name, but calls me "Doll" instead. I have no clue why, but the kids think this is hilarious and will also call me "Doll" sometimes. Now, that is something I really don't like! For the past few months he's been calling all men "daddy" and all women "mummy". It's a phase that my older children went through and many of my friends' children and it's funny to see the effect of it on strange men, or rather, men who are strangers. Oh, I love this!! It's quite hilarious! The youngest yelled, "There's Daddy!" in a store the other day and what she meant was the one man looked sort of like DH. It's all I can do to say, "Oh, that's not Daddy" without cracking up. Really trips the men out, too. Tracy ====================================== We child proofed our home 3 years ago and they're still getting in! ====================================== |
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Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
"R. Steve Walz" wrote in message
... --------------------------- snipped for slightly amusing lack of imagination in vocabulary ...What the **** is wrong with them calling you by name?? Steve Nothing is "wrong" with it. I was answering the op's specific concern/question - but in my family, my sibs & I were raised to believe that it shows respect to refer to someone by their Honorific title - "Mother", "Father", "Grandmother", "Uncle" (blood relation or no). As young children, it's a rule; as adults, we are requested by our elders to continue to use the Honorific rather than their given names. Since we love, respect & sincerely like these elders of ours, we comply with their requests. There are instances of using given names in a casual, joking manner - but it's not the norm. Corinne -- ************************************************** *********** "This generation of mothers labors under [the] dubious pronouncement that babies sleep best in isolation. Every infant knows better. His protest at nocturnal solitude contains the wisdom of millennia." -- Thomas Lewis, M.D., 'A General Theory of Love' |
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Toddler calls me by my first name...help!
Corinne wrote:
"R. Steve Walz" wrote: snipped for slightly amusing lack of imagination in vocabulary ------------- Replaced to fight fascism and hypocrisy, you dumb bitch! -- What the **** is WRONG with you people!??? They will know your name AND that you're their parent as they grow up! What the **** is wrong with them calling you by name?? My kids called us by our first names OR by our parental title interchanably and AS THEY PLEASED, and it never upset any of US, just a few overhearing biddy dishonoring fascists who always want children UNDER YOUR THUMB and feel CONFUSED AND OFFENDED that you TREAT YOUR CHILDREN AS HUMAN BEINGS AND that you have FREED YOUR CHILDREN and given them their RIGHT TO THEIR OWN SPEECH AND BELIEFS!! Look down at your ****ing sig quote, and DO THAT, you ****ing abusive HYPOCRITE! "Since AP parents are accused of "spoiling" their children with responsiveness, love, understanding, patience, positive interaction, intimacy and closeness, respect, and value - I have decided that spoiling ROCKS! Teaching my child that she ALWAYS deserves all of the above is the right thing to do, and I plan to own my spoiling ways. Baby Spoilers Unite!" --Jessica, iVillage AP board ------------- Read AND OBEY your own ****ing sig quote!!!!!!! Steve ...What the **** is wrong with them calling you by name?? Steve Nothing is "wrong" with it. I was answering the op's specific concern/question - but in my family, my sibs & I were raised to believe that it shows respect to refer to someone by their Honorific title - "Mother", "Father", "Grandmother", "Uncle" (blood relation or no). As young children, it's a rule; --------------- Bull**** and nonsense, coerced speech or "respect" is ABUSE! Leave children the **** alone, you *******s!! as adults, we are requested by our elders to continue to use the Honorific rather than their given names. Since we love, respect & sincerely like these elders of ours, we comply with their requests. ----------- OUR ****ing choice, thanks! There are instances of using given names in a casual, joking manner - but it's not the norm. Corinne ------------- **** your "norms", the norm is what children do, of which what you "adults" do is merely a twisted corruption!! Steve |
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