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Olathe author goes from lost child to foster parent
Olathe author goes from lost child to foster parent
By NOEMI HERRERA The Kansas City Star She was too young to know it then, but now 49-year-old Pam Watson of Olathe realizes she was traumatized. “They thought something was wrong with me because I wouldn't talk,” Watson said in reference to her paternal aunt and uncle who became her foster parents after the death of her mom and dad. Her biological parents had both died by the time she was 4. Separated from three of her four siblings, told that her maternal side of the family wanted nothing to do with her, and blamed for the abuse suffered inside her foster house, it was easy for Watson to put a hard shell around her heart and cloak it with a “forget you” attitude. Now, Watson has reconciled much of the pain and mended torn relationships. She tells her life's story in her new book — Feathers: This Woman, My Mother: A Monologue — Watson's introspective narrative from her inner child's point of view about loss, pain and overcoming. “I was angry when I wrote this book,” she said as she sat in her home in southeast Olathe. Angry because death took her foster mother away too soon, leaving Watson little time to enjoy their patched-up relationship. Angry because it wasn't until she was about 27 when she learned her mother's side of the family did love her all this time. In fact, Watson said, it was her mother's wish that if anything happened to her, Watson and her siblings would be cared for by her mom's only sister. As Watson's life journey is detailed in Feathers, she has already started on a new path of fostering Kansas children with special needs. A widow and mother of three children and eight grandchildren, Watson is licensed to foster two children with special needs in her home, ages 5 to 21. She believes her tumultuous childhood and having grown up misunderstood gave her the tools for fostering kids with special needs. Those tools: compassion and understanding. Watson's 21-year-old daughter, Melissa Boyington, said patience is another quality her mother has. “It's good she can help them, especially after what she went through growing up,” Boyington said. Watson is fostering a 13-year-old girl and 12-year-old boy now. Both have autism. Boyington said the little girl has especially made significant strides under her mom's care. “She's grown a lot and learned a lot of things. My mother's found out what she's capable of.” Watson said fostering children with special needs is a challenge, but she took on the challenge after an experience she had years before with her other daughter's friend. The friend was young and had three children by a man who returned to his home in Mexico. “She became homeless with these children,” Watson recalled. “Her only choice was to let the children go with the father, but we were scared we'd never see them again. So I let them stay here until she could get them into a homeless shelter.” It was at that time Watson went through the motions of becoming a foster parent. “Once I got into it, I found there was a need for special needs children. People forget, there's a lot of special needs children who need homes. Sometimes they have emotional problems or physical disabilities, so it is more challenging. “I was leery at first,” Watson said. But after coming across one little girl with attachment disorders and forming an instant bond with her, Watson knew. “That's what I need to do,” she said. When Watson thinks back on her childhood and remembers the pain, like the time her paternal grandmother told her she'd amount to nothing more than a street walker, Watson's fighting spirit emerges. “I was going make something of myself and show them ‘I could,' Watson said. In her adulthood, she has faced racism, climbed the corporate ladder and, now, gives stability to children who need it. She aspires to eventually open a girls' home, which she said is something that is needed in Johnson County. Her mission statement is already on paper and her pursuit is on for more information on how to get the home started. http://www.kansascity.com/mld/kansas...9015188.htm?1c Defend your civil liberties! Get information at http://www.aclu.org, become a member at http://www.aclu.org/join and get active at http://www.aclu.org/action. |
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