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My question for spankers
Becca
Your suggestion would work in some cases but certainly not in all of them. For example, my 8yo daughter has a habit of leaving her bicycle in the front yard even though I have told her sevral times to make sure she puts it in the garage. If her bicycle were to get stolen, I would let suffice as her punishment...you neglected a rule and now you do not have a bicycle. On the other hand however, if my 2yo son were to wander out into the street, should I allow him to get hit by a car? That would certainly teach him a lesson wouldn't it? Jeremy |
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My question for spankers
Jeremy James wrote: Becca Your suggestion would work in some cases but certainly not in all of them. For example, my 8yo daughter has a habit of leaving her bicycle in the front yard even though I have told her sevral times to make sure she puts it in the garage. If her bicycle were to get stolen, I would let suffice as her punishment...you neglected a rule and now you do not have a bicycle. On the other hand however, if my 2yo son were to wander out into the street, should I allow him to get hit by a car? That would certainly teach him a lesson wouldn't it? Jeremy If I may, in the interest of better parenting. I doubt there is a parent on the planet, unless severely compromised by some mental disability that would fail to notice a child is 8 or a child is 2 years of age and change their interventions accordingly. If you want to contribute please try to let go of the attempts to debate with fallacious arguments to "win" and focus on real needs. Take the bicycle example. What various strategies might be more likely to work? I rather liked simply writing the bike off and letting the 8 year old sort that out. One could be helpful and sympathetic and understanding of our human failings like forgetting to put things away. Can I assume you too suffer, like all the rest of us, from that one? What do you do after you have lost some tool to rust from leaving it outdoors overwinter, or you wallet no the top of the car and drive away? Do YOU, and all the rest of us, not simply do our best to recover from the loss? Hell, I'd explain all that to an 8 year old, and in our talk elicite responses as to her ideas on how we ALL could reduce our forgetfullness. Once engaged she is going to feel you and she are in this together, which of course as parent who cares and child who trusts YOU ARE. THIS is how you created children that grow to be responsible adults, not by punishment. But by consequenses that include seeking solutions and recoveries. Any ideas about how the child could go about "recovery" after a bike is stolen. What would you do after your lawn mower, after you forgot to lock the storage shed, ws stolen? Do you hit yourself on the butt with a switch, give yourself a time out, send yourself to your room, or .............................." I'm not going to give you answers. You and your child have a conversation underway that started at or before birth (according to your beliefs) and hopefully will not end, in deep trust, until one of you dies...or possibly even continue then, according to your beliefs. Why IS it that we think pain is the best teacher when in fact that is true for all those creatures that do NOT have speach, and the power to create goods and physical situations like humans do? That IS our great power over the animals....that we can modify our environment and continue to IMPROVE. They can only do it without ONE lifetime, if at all (very rare) but we have history, recent and long past, that continues our growth. Why not use what we have been given my God, the Universe, etc. (according to one's belief)? Just for the sake of education: your arguement is an attempt to argue two dissimilar situations. In debate it is referred to as "Fallacy of Accident." What SEEMS logical in one circumstance does not actually always apply in another because conditions are not the same or have changed. In fact what can be right in one circumstance could be wrong to the point of dangerous in another. Do you honestly think the becca would suggest using the logical or natural (your example was the "natural," of course) consequences if it would endanger a child? If we are going to seek better parenting how about being honest and logical about it, rather than having a silly war? And why must your child be "punished" or there even be a "rule" about what she does with her own belongings other than when they impact YOU, such as leaving her bike behind your car in the driveway? If she loses HER possession that YOU do not have to replace, like eyeglasses, or a winter coat you have the perfect opportunity to teach real world life skills. You bought the bike. You are upset the gift was not appreciated enough for her to protect. Without making a huge thing about it you could express that. And be ready to move on to help her come out of any guilt she feels at YOUR loss. Best way? Help her resolve HER loss. Am I getting through here? It's the same you'd treat a best friend, or one that thinks you are. Would you berate, punish, humiliate your friend if he had his favorite garden tools stolen because he forget and left them out? Naw you'd lend him yours, go on a shopping trip with him, or even lend him a few bucks if he needed them to replace the tools. And that is how love is expressed, and how people learn far more effectively and powerfully than any application of pain. It's efficient too, because there is no healing to do. Kane |
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Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street
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beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Jeremy James Wrote: Becca Your suggestion would work in some cases but certainly not in all of them. For example, my 8yo daughter has a habit of leaving her bicycle in the front yard even though I have told her sevral times to make sure she puts it in the garage. If her bicycle were to get stolen, I would let suffice as her punishment...you neglected a rule and now you do not have a bicycle. On the other hand however, if my 2yo son were to wander out into the street, should I allow him to get hit by a car? That would certainly teach him a lesson wouldn't it? Jeremy -- beccafromlalaland |
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On 20 Jan 2006, Kane wrote: beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Well, Ignoranus Kane0 would say that tasering could also be used to keep a child from running into the street. In fact, according to Ignoranus Kane0, tasers are SAFE! ;-) Doan |
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Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, Kane wrote: beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Well, Ignoranus Kane0 would say that tasering could also be used to keep a child from running into the street. Betcha you are afraid to fully cite and quote my actual comments, aren't yah little frightened attention seeking child? Full citation and link to thread where I made such a claim without any mitigating circumstances. You do recall the child in question was drunk, do you not? And outrunning a police officer that stopped her from running into traffic, right? In fact, according to Ignoranus Kane0, tasers are SAFE! ;-) Let's see where I said that, with a full citation and link to the message or thread. Doan You are a lying attention seeking little fool that is so sick with your own traumatized childhood and the defense of your parents that you would lie as you do above, on a near constant basis. You appear to me to be a classic case of psychological harm caused by such trauma. I feel very sorry for you, but not enough to let you lie without exposure. Any new posters, before you believe this attention seeking developmentally arrested boy look up his aps posting history. You'll see, even if you are a spanker, that what I'm pointing out is true. Is this the kind of person you want defending spanking? Kane |
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On 20 Jan 2006, 0:- wrote: Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, Kane wrote: beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Well, Ignoranus Kane0 would say that tasering could also be used to keep a child from running into the street. Betcha you are afraid to fully cite and quote my actual comments, aren't yah little frightened attention seeking child? Full citation and link to thread where I made such a claim without any mitigating circumstances. You do recall the child in question was drunk, do you not? And outrunning a police officer that stopped her from running into traffic, right? In fact, according to Ignoranus Kane0, tasers are SAFE! ;-) Let's see where I said that, with a full citation and link to the message or thread. what? You don't remember what you have posted? ;-) "Are TASER devices safe? Yes. Independent medical and scientific experts have determined TASER devices to be among the safest use-of-force options available. " You are once again proven to be a LIAR! ;-) Doan |
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Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, 0:- wrote: Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, Kane wrote: beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Well, Ignoranus Kane0 would say that tasering could also be used to keep a child from running into the street. Betcha you are afraid to fully cite and quote my actual comments, aren't yah little frightened attention seeking child? Full citation and link to thread where I made such a claim without any mitigating circumstances. You do recall the child in question was drunk, do you not? And outrunning a police officer that stopped her from running into traffic, right? In fact, according to Ignoranus Kane0, tasers are SAFE! ;-) Let's see where I said that, with a full citation and link to the message or thread. what? You don't remember what you have posted? ;-) Sure I do. "Are TASER devices safe? You aren't asking the question I answered. I didn't say they were safest. "devices to be among the safest use-of-force options available." Dancing screeching hysterical monkeyboy, you have done it again. Simply playing with the language and claiming others are saying things they didn't. Or didn't say what you say they said. Yes. Independent medical and scientific experts have determined TASER devices to be among the safest use-of-force options available. " You are once again proven to be a LIAR! ;-) No, you are proven to be impaired. R R R R 0:- Doan |
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On 20 Jan 2006, 0:- wrote:
Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, 0:- wrote: Doan wrote: On 20 Jan 2006, Kane wrote: beccafromlalaland wrote: Obviously you would use Natural consequences within the confines of what is age appropriate. Your 2yo son may not understand that wandering into the street could result in serious injury. Then it is your job to participate in some GOYB (get off your butt) Parenting. There are times when Natural consequences are not appropriate. In those situations you have to be the teacher, not the car speeding down the street You mean to tell me becca tongue in cheek you would set up a barrier between your child and a hungry lion, rather than just spanking him to teach him to say away? How gauche. 0:- Well, Ignoranus Kane0 would say that tasering could also be used to keep a child from running into the street. Betcha you are afraid to fully cite and quote my actual comments, aren't yah little frightened attention seeking child? Full citation and link to thread where I made such a claim without any mitigating circumstances. You do recall the child in question was drunk, do you not? And outrunning a police officer that stopped her from running into traffic, right? In fact, according to Ignoranus Kane0, tasers are SAFE! ;-) Let's see where I said that, with a full citation and link to the message or thread. what? You don't remember what you have posted? ;-) Sure I do. "Are TASER devices safe? You aren't asking the question I answered. I didn't say they were safest. Did I mention safest, Ignoranus Kane0? ;-) "devices to be among the safest use-of-force options available." Dancing screeching hysterical monkeyboy, you have done it again. Simply playing with the language and claiming others are saying things they didn't. Or didn't say what you say they said. So did you or did you not say they are SAFE? Yes. Independent medical and scientific experts have determined TASER devices to be among the safest use-of-force options available. " You are once again proven to be a LIAR! ;-) No, you are proven to be impaired. LOL! Are you the one that say spanking is part of "non-violent" parenting? Doan |
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My question for spankers
Dance monkeyboy dance.
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