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COMPLETLY at the end of my rope!!!!!!!!!!!!
On Mon, 04 Aug 2003 05:28:48 GMT, "Charlotte M."
wrote: Don't know how much she lost - they just told me she was close to losing 10% of her weight. This is totally normal. WAY normal. I have another few questions in he was she diagnosed with jaundice or dehydration? She was jaundice on day 2 but by day four was coming out of it quiet nicely. No dehydration. She was 6 lbs 8 oz at births. At two week check up though she was up to 7lbs 4 oz. HOLY huge weight gain! Gave birth at 37w3days. OK. She was slightly undercooked by some standards, but a healthy weight. Can't count!!! Probably every time at first and then 3-4 times a day towards day 6. Did you put her breast less often by day 6 for any particular reason? Just dang tired! And every time I try, she flays around and hits my very sore boobs. OK... another question in he what was she suctioned with at birth? Did you or your spouse see it and can you describe it? I believe it was just a plain old blue aspirator. I couldn't tell because I was being stitched up but it was in the bassinet in our room. Rarely does she just lie there unless she's asleep and when she's asleep, we can't get her to move for all the tea in China. LOL. That is 100% normal behaviour. In a few weeks, you'll look back on that and wonder what happened? Finger with a syringe and small tube that the LC gave us. She whips her head back and forth even as we're jamming the bottle in. Sometimes she only grabs the tip. OK. I'm pretty sure I know what is going on. If you can give me some answers to the questions above, I'm going to make some educated guesses and what you're dealing with. The good news is that I think you'll be able to deal with the problems... and yes, that word was plural. The hard news is that you're going to need some serious patience AND you will definitely need your partner or someone to help solve the problem. You can do it alone, but you'll solve it easier if you have an extra set of hands. Luckily I have a great DH who's more than willing to help. I'm not sure I'm willing to do the "let her starve for 24 hours" method just because she's screaming her head off when she wants to be fed at three hours. I can't imagine going 24 and it kills me to see her in pain. I don't have a problem with her crying, it's seeing her looking like she's in so much pain. We're also worried she, like her dad, is lactose intolerant because she's not reacting wonderfully to breast milk lately. My DH is highly lactose intolerant and also allergic to soy! Hopefully it's not a hereditary thing. After a feeding, it's like she goes rigid as a board and screams and turns purple. I have cut out all dairy in my diet and hoping that works soon. Ah the joys eh? Thanks again for any advice. I am willing to try many of the things mentioned to me by other folks and do appreciate it. |
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COMPLETLY at the end of my rope!!!!!!!!!!!!
On Tue, 05 Aug 2003 00:27:27 GMT, "Chotii"
wrote: "denise" wrote in message ... Luckily I have a great DH who's more than willing to help. I'm not sure I'm willing to do the "let her starve for 24 hours" method just because she's screaming her head off when she wants to be fed at three hours. I can't imagine going 24 and it kills me to see her in pain. I don't have a problem with her crying, it's seeing her looking like she's in so much pain. We're also worried she, like her dad, is lactose intolerant because she's not reacting wonderfully to breast milk lately. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Nobody *here* said anything about letting baby starve. Period. Rule number one is ALWAYS "feed the baby". That said, *if* your baby feels threatened by things going into her mouth (like a bottle nipple, or your own nipple - yes, this can happen) then you have to offer the milk from outside, in a tiny spoon or cup, or dribbled in with a small syringe. But you *do* offer it. Of course you do. Ahh-ok, makes sense. Actually I did get her onto one side tonight!! Had to give her pumped milk to top her off because sge would't take the other side - but some success! |
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COMPLETLY at the end of my rope!!!!!!!!!!!!
"denise" wrote in message ... She was jaundice on day 2 but by day four was coming out of it quiet Without looking at her chart, I can only guess at what happened here, and I have to tell you that I'm suspecting a huge amount of your breastfeeding relationship has been mismanaged. With that statement in mind, I'm going to make some guesses at a few things that I might be completely wrong on, but I suspect I'm not far off the mark on a few things. 1. I'm not sure why you had a c-section, but regardless of why you had it, I suspect it's making some of your normal breastfeeding choices, and habits you might get on your own, more difficult to access. At the very least, I know that the c/s will have slowed you down and will involve a bit more work for finding good positioning. 2. I'm not reading anything about true jaundice going on... as in, as long as you're not sharing stories about the bili-lights (which may have happened, I just didn't specifically ask about them), I'm going to assume that your baby had normal, yes normal, newborn jaundice. True jaundice can often result in some nasty problems, but if the jaundice was clearing up by itself in a few days, it was normal jaundice. 3. The fact that she lost nearly 10 percent of her weight was also completely normal. 4. I did wonder if she had an oral aversion caused by the suctioning, but if it was just the blue syringe, it was more than likely not too bad. However, from everything you've said in your pervious posts, I do think that an oral aversion is quite likely here. Did you put her breast less often by day 6 for any particular reason? Just dang tired! And every time I try, she flays around and hits my very sore boobs. OK. The very sore breasts can be a number of things. Right now, let's see about getting her to the breast and see what we can do around that. Luckily I have a great DH who's more than willing to help. I'm not sure I'm willing to do the "let her starve for 24 hours" method just because she's screaming her head off when she wants to be fed at three hours. I can't imagine going 24 and it kills me to see her in pain. ACK! I can't either... which is why I'm not going to recommend it. I think that sort of "lesson" makes babies suffer and doesn't teach them much except that mom and dad can't be trusted. (Better to save that lesson for her adolescence.) We're also worried she, like her dad, is lactose intolerant because she's not reacting wonderfully to breast milk lately. OK, now *this* might be an issue. How is she reacting? And more to the point, what are you giving her instead of breastmilk? My DH is highly lactose intolerant and also allergic to soy! Hopefully it's not a hereditary thing. After a feeding, it's like she goes rigid as a board and screams and turns purple. I have cut out all dairy in my diet and hoping that works soon. When you say lactose intolerant, what do you mean exactly? The phrase is often used in a number of ways to mean a number of things, so if you can clarify his reactions to lactose, that would be good. (Also, lactose in what? Do you mean he can eat cheese but not drink milk? Do you mean he can eat margarine with no whey or is butter ok?) Ah the joys eh? Thanks again for any advice. I am willing to try many of the things mentioned to me by other folks and do appreciate it. OK. I'm glad to hear that... because I'm now going to make a few suggestions. First things first, I have a nagging suspicion that your baby has developed an oral aversion. I suspect this in part because you have to force feed her with a bottle or a finger. (Interestingly, the other MKB poster I'm replying to on " Any experience with late starters?" is going to get a similar response, so I'm going to ask folks to do some cross-referencing of my posts.) Oral aversion is a condition that babies can get if they have ever had any aggressive manoeuvres done to their mouths. We have more nerve endings in our mouths than pretty much anywhere else in the body, which means that for a newborn, any grief or trauma to their mouths makes them behave like rape victims. (That is not an understatement for anyone who is thinking, "Oh, come on.") In a perfect world, a baby is born and then happily finds his or her way to mom's breast and nuzzles happily and securely. In our world of modern medicine, a baby is born and it's first oral contact is a suction bulb... or sometimes a more deep suctioning. This means that the baby's first oral contact *ever* is an aggressive manoeuvre. For some babies, this is no big deal and for others, it's a very big deal. In your case, add to that the fact that your baby had to be finger fed and bottle fed... and is now fighting both, and you get a fairly dangerous situation where your baby is not finding pleasure in food and in breastfeeding. On top of that, I also have a few theories, but without actually being able to see your baby, they are only theories, so take them for what they're worth: I suspect the drugs you needed in labour crossed the placental barrier and your baby is still processing them out. (Before anyone gets the idea that we're going to spend a post lamenting all the things that could have been done differently, we're not. However, if I have a correct grasp of how all of this happened, it's going to be easier to correct.) Assuming I'm on the right track, I have some suggestions on how to deal with things. The main thing here is that this is not a quick fix - it's going to take days of heart-wrenching work. I seriously suggest you get your partner involved in this because this will be easier as a two-person job. First thing is that you need to re-establish mama's breast as being the good place. My suggestion would be loads of skin to skin contact, which means you and baby should get naked. (You can keep a diaper on your baby if you prefer.) Your baby was naked inside you for nine months and thinks your smell and your body are safe and warm, so re-establish that you are the best place in the entire world. After that, I have a string of tips and suggestions: 1. Nurse your baby before she is truly hungry (and wailing) and does not have a full tummy. What this really means is that you'll be skin to skin with her and *hoping* she'll feel like latching. If she doesn't latch on the first twenty tries, don't sweat it. Just keep trying. The actual actions of what you'll be doing is holding her in a good position, one where her back and neck are in a straight line, close to your body, with you holding your breast so that she can easily grasp it. Tickle her lips with your nipples or brush her cheek with your nipple so that she'll turn to it. 2. Yes, she will fuss at this process. This is where your partner comes in. Since you are trying to establish your breast as a good place, having her wailing at your breast is not going to accomplish this. Before she works up into a full-fledged howl, pass her over to dad to soothe her. If she's honestly hungry, then feed her using whatever means you can, but if she's not hungry, just freaked out, have dad soothe her and pass her back to you when she's calmed down. Once she's calmed down, try step one again. 3. Nurse her in a dark/dimly lit room. Bright lights may make her feel overwhelmed or at the very least, may make her close her eyes to shut out the light... which may make her fall asleep. 4. Try this process when your baby is a bit drowsy. She is more likely to accept new information like this if she is already in a relaxed state. 5. Keep your baby close to you at all times. She needs to get to know your smell really does mean safe, secure feelings. A GREAT way to do this is get both of you naked and climb into bed together. (You can still use the diaper on her.) If you feel like you want to get up and go for a walk, use a sling or carry her in your arms. And, in case you're wondering, this is your job, not dad's. He doesn't have the goods that you do. (Work on bonding tips with dad later when this crisis has passed.) 6. Co-sleep. This is NOT a time to try sleep training or worry that you'll never get your baby out of your bed. 7. If your baby is not opening her mouth well, show her what you want from her. Move into her visual range (about 12 inches from her eyes) and open your mouth wide and stick your tongue as far down your chin as you can. Tell her this is what you want her to do and tell her it will help her feel good while she breastfeeds. Keep doing it. (Yeah, you'll look a little uncool, but when your baby starts to breastfeed, you'll be glad you managed it.) 8. Be patient and keep trying. Lactation consultants have a main rule: Feed the baby. While the goal is to get her to breastfeed, the goal is not to see how long she can go between meals without dehydrating. Since this process of lying around naked with your baby and tickling her lips or brushing her cheek with your breast is not going to be a quick solution, be prepared to feed her using other methods. Try to be as gentle as possible because remember that you're also dealing with someone who may feel that her mouth is not a safe place. 9. Assuming you can get her to latch, or at least come near your breast for comfort, you may also want to explore a Supplemental Nursing System (SNS). This is just a small feeding tube that you can tape to your nipple so that your baby gets food without having to do a lot of work. In the early days, this may be important. You can get an SNS from a public health nurse (although you may have to battle to get one), from a lactation clinic, or from Medela's On-Line store. Hang in there! This isn't an easy road to follow. -- Charlotte Millington Director, Global Birth Institute www.globalbirth.org |
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COMPLETLY at the end of my rope!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had problems with my daughter when she first born. She also did not open her
mouth very wide. What helped was I looked at her and said "AHHHHHH" That's it. Not "Open" not a conversation, just "AHHHH" It worked. Also, if she opens her mouth far enough while crying, see if you can get her on then. Note: this may not work with the oral aversion problem. Sue Tupperware without the party??? Shop online at my website. http://my.tupperware.com/SueBurton ** remove "spamnot" to reply** |
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