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Don't know if you'll remember me.... but I need your help~!
Hi,
I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? The same guy who was making the negative remarks last year. Last year, the first two weeks of school, he said "she is extremely fidgity" and excessively Chatty" Those are the things I remember. The first day of school this year... YES THE FIRST DAY. I saw him, and asked how she was adjusting. He said word for word "she is very absent minded" When I probed as to what he was talking about, he said she had gotten up from her desk, walked toward his desk, and when asked "what she wanted" She said she forgot. I assumed he made her nervous and brushed him off. Last night was parent teacher night. I went to see him. I asked how she was doing, he said "she is really unfocused". That said, first words, I told him, I'm extrememly irratated, as he has never said one positive thing about her and reminded him she was in his class last year, and he did the same thing. I told him I wanted facts to back this up. He stated she writes backwards. At times she does get the odd e or #3 backwards, I'v noticed it myself. But I asked, how does that fit in with unfocused? He said "if I wanted to talk further, we could set up an appointment". I asked him, then what is the purpose of this meeting and you saing these things???? Long story short, I left, angry and upset. I left a message for the principal to contact me and kept her home today, to take her to her pediatrician incase I am missing something. Does this sound right to any of you guys? Has anyone had similar experiences? I take care of alot of her freinds from that class, and from her previous class. I don't see a HUGE difference in behavior or scholastic endevours. I could be missing something, but I honestly think it's this teacher. If you have suggestions in dealing with this, on a professional, and nonemotional level, please help me out here. I'm freakin right out. Thanks, C |
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Don't know if you'll remember me.... but I need your help~!
Carla wrote in message om... Hi, I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? The same guy who was making the negative remarks last year. Last year, the first two weeks of school, he said "she is extremely fidgity" and excessively Chatty" Those are the things I remember. The first day of school this year... YES THE FIRST DAY. I saw him, and asked how she was adjusting. He said word for word "she is very absent minded" When I probed as to what he was talking about, he said she had gotten up from her desk, walked toward his desk, and when asked "what she wanted" She said she forgot. I assumed he made her nervous and brushed him off. Last night was parent teacher night. I went to see him. I asked how she was doing, he said "she is really unfocused". That said, first words, I told him, I'm extrememly irratated, as he has never said one positive thing about her and reminded him she was in his class last year, and he did the same thing. I told him I wanted facts to back this up. He stated she writes backwards. At times she does get the odd e or #3 backwards, I'v noticed it myself. But I asked, how does that fit in with unfocused? He said "if I wanted to talk further, we could set up an appointment". I asked him, then what is the purpose of this meeting and you saing these things???? Long story short, I left, angry and upset. I left a message for the principal to contact me and kept her home today, to take her to her pediatrician incase I am missing something. Does this sound right to any of you guys? Has anyone had similar experiences? I take care of alot of her freinds from that class, and from her previous class. I don't see a HUGE difference in behavior or scholastic endevours. I could be missing something, but I honestly think it's this teacher. If you have suggestions in dealing with this, on a professional, and nonemotional level, please help me out here. I'm freakin right out. Thanks, C If your daughter is getting good grades, don't worry about what this guy is saying. It is obvious your child is not his favorite and though it is unfair, it happens. Don't let the comments of one teacher have you thinking anything is out of the ordinary with your child. You know your kid better then anyone. My daughter had a teacher that didn't particularly like her one year..... we just grinned and got through the year and I stopped meeting with him. TO |
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"Deb" wrote in message m... (Carla) wrote in message . com... Hi, I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? The same guy who was making the negative remarks last year. Last year, the first two weeks of school, he said "she is extremely fidgity" and excessively Chatty" Those are the things I remember. The first day of school this year... YES THE FIRST DAY. I saw him, and asked how she was adjusting. He said word for word "she is very absent minded" When I probed as to what he was talking about, he said she had gotten up from her desk, walked toward his desk, and when asked "what she wanted" She said she forgot. I assumed he made her nervous and brushed him off. Last night was parent teacher night. I went to see him. I asked how she was doing, he said "she is really unfocused". That said, first words, I told him, I'm extrememly irratated, as he has never said one positive thing about her and reminded him she was in his class last year, and he did the same thing. I told him I wanted facts to back this up. He stated she writes backwards. At times she does get the odd e or #3 backwards, I'v noticed it myself. But I asked, how does that fit in with unfocused? He said "if I wanted to talk further, we could set up an appointment". I asked him, then what is the purpose of this meeting and you saing these things???? Long story short, I left, angry and upset. I left a message for the principal to contact me and kept her home today, to take her to her pediatrician incase I am missing something. Does this sound right to any of you guys? Has anyone had similar experiences? I take care of alot of her freinds from that class, and from her previous class. I don't see a HUGE difference in behavior or scholastic endevours. I could be missing something, but I honestly think it's this teacher. If you have suggestions in dealing with this, on a professional, and nonemotional level, please help me out here. I'm freakin right out. Thanks, C Hello, Have your talk with the principal and insist she be put in another class, if it starts out bad , it will only get worse. Also, don't wait for the principal to call you back, just go in. You could have her in another class by tomorrow. This is advice I regret not following. Good luck !! Debi And advice I wished I'd followed too some years back too. Dolores |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ... Carla wrote in message om... Hi, I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? If your daughter is getting good grades, don't worry about what this guy is saying. What he is saying is not so much the problem....it's the effect he's having on this little girl....and *that* is a major problem.. It is obvious your child is not his favorite and though it is unfair, it happens. Well is shouldnt happen...and he shouldnt be teaching....It's not accetable in the adult workplace so why should it be acceptable in the classroom. Don't let the comments of one teacher have you thinking anything is out of the ordinary with your child. You know your kid better then anyone. My daughter had a teacher that didn't particularly like her one year..... we just grinned and got through the year and I stopped meeting with him. So you just glibly accepted your childs education and future being damaged.....It because of parents, with an attitude like yours, that we have to deal with such bad teachers day in and day out....and our children leave school with a 2nd rate education...They *know* they can get away with it....and they do get away with it.....We as parents have to stand up and make ourselves heard..... Sorry Tiffany....but I must disagree with everything you've said in the strongest possible terms... Dolores TO |
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Don't know if you'll remember me.... but I need your help~!
"Carla" wrote in message om... Hi, I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? The same guy who was making the negative remarks last year. Last year, the first two weeks of school, he said "she is extremely fidgity" and excessively Chatty" Those are the things I remember. The first day of school this year... YES THE FIRST DAY. I saw him, and asked how she was adjusting. He said word for word "she is very absent minded" When I probed as to what he was talking about, he said she had gotten up from her desk, walked toward his desk, and when asked "what she wanted" She said she forgot. I assumed he made her nervous and brushed him off. Last night was parent teacher night. I went to see him. I asked how she was doing, he said "she is really unfocused". That said, first words, I told him, I'm extrememly irratated, as he has never said one positive thing about her and reminded him she was in his class last year, and he did the same thing. I told him I wanted facts to back this up. He stated she writes backwards. At times she does get the odd e or #3 backwards, I'v noticed it myself. But I asked, how does that fit in with unfocused? He said "if I wanted to talk further, we could set up an appointment". I asked him, then what is the purpose of this meeting and you saing these things???? Long story short, I left, angry and upset. I left a message for the principal to contact me and kept her home today, to take her to her pediatrician incase I am missing something. Does this sound right to any of you guys? Has anyone had similar experiences? I take care of alot of her freinds from that class, and from her previous class. I don't see a HUGE difference in behavior or scholastic endevours. I could be missing something, but I honestly think it's this teacher. If you have suggestions in dealing with this, on a professional, and nonemotional level, please help me out here. I'm freakin right out. Thanks, C Seems to me Carla that you are doing all the right things. You are being calm, level headed and giving this guy enough string to hang himself...I also 100% agree with your not sending your daughter back etc... When you go and see the principal bring last years reports and evidence of your daughters work with you. Also, see if the previous years teacher would attend the meeting if she is willing....this guy sounds like he should be fired...yesterday..and its teachers like him that result in so many poorly educated children. Also, if he were a manager in industry and behaved in this way towards one of his team/employees the employee would have good grounds for a constructive dismissal case.......and since his remit is to educate....then his behaviour is even more unacceptable.... Btw, have you asked any other parents if they;ve experienced any problems with him? Let us know how you got on. Dolores |
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dolores wrote in message ... "Tiffany" wrote in message ... Carla wrote in message om... Hi, I came here last year. I had some concerns with my daughters grade 1 teacher who in the first week or two of school had insinuated my daughter was ADD or had a learning disability. She was taken out of his class during the school shuffle about in Canada last year, and given a new teacher. She ended up finishing grade one with straight A's and B's. Her lowest mark, a B, not even a B-. That particular teacher had no concerns with her progress in any area. The report cards were postitive, and parent teacher meetings were helpful. My daughter went from a C- in reading at the beginning of the year to a B+ at the end of the last term. Her social skills were fine. She had one satisfactory, the rest were good or excellent. In the entire year she had 2 repremands for arguing with one particular child and was given a think sheet. Well, this year, guess who her grade 2 teacher is? If your daughter is getting good grades, don't worry about what this guy is saying. What he is saying is not so much the problem....it's the effect he's having on this little girl....and *that* is a major problem.. As of yet, there is no effect this year. Atleast nothing is posted that the child is having a hard time this year. It is obvious your child is not his favorite and though it is unfair, it happens. Well is shouldnt happen...and he shouldnt be teaching....It's not accetable in the adult workplace so why should it be acceptable in the classroom. Its not acceptable in whose work place? Everyone deals with others differently. This man may appear to be 'mean'... maybe he is a tougher teacher and expects more. Maybe he is dead on about the child too. Don't let the comments of one teacher have you thinking anything is out of the ordinary with your child. You know your kid better then anyone. My daughter had a teacher that didn't particularly like her one year..... we just grinned and got through the year and I stopped meeting with him. So you just glibly accepted your childs education and future being damaged..... Maybe the kid will be damaged if she is catered too also. The child is in second grade..... no ill comments have been made to the child. The mother is the one hurt right now. It because of parents, with an attitude like yours, that we have to deal with such bad teachers day in and day out....and our children leave school with a 2nd rate education...They *know* they can get away with it....and they do get away with it.....We as parents have to stand up and make ourselves heard..... We are lucky for any education the kids get and if its second rate... educate your kid yourself. Its not just the teachers who should be teaching the kids. I teach my kid that not everyone is going to be the way she wants them to be. As for all these bad teachers..... can't say I have met one yet. My daughter is in 7th grade... maybe we will meet a bad one. Even the one teacher that seemed to be hard on her, felt as though he was being pretty tough on her, she had a fine year, was NOT damaged by it. If asked today, she would say she liked him. Why is a teacher only a bad teacher when they do or say something a parent doesn't like? Sorry Tiffany....but I must disagree with everything you've said in the strongest possible terms... Dolores TO |
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"Tiffany" wrote in message ...
If your daughter is getting good grades, don't worry about what this guy is saying. My daughter ended up with good grades last year, because she got a new teacher. I don't know if it would have ended up that way with this guy. I worry alot about what he is saying, because he is ademently implying that she is ADD or has a learning disability, when infact, she does not. It is obvious your child is not his favorite and though it is unfair, it happens. It's not going to be my daughters problem if I can help it. Don't let the comments of one teacher have you thinking anything is out of the ordinary with your child. You know your kid better then anyone. My daughter had a teacher that didn't particularly like her one year..... we just grinned and got through the year and I stopped meeting with him. What if her grades go down, because of his dislike? Or what if it causes her self esteem to go down. No, I will not tolerate this without accurate basis for the phrases and words he used to describe her. It's wrong, he is wrong and outright rude. He has NEVER said a positive thing about her. I have the doctor to back me up, as well last years grades, plus 2 previous years in private school. They give NO indication that there are any behavioral or learning problems. NONE. I can't sit back, and let this man belittle her, the age is to critical. I can see that she has become shy, and timid, and feels like the dumbest kid in the class. She comes out of that school balling over the craziest things. Last time I picked her up, she was a mess, in total tears. When I asked her what was wrong, she exclaimed "the zipper on my back pack broke". That is not my child, she knows darn well there are 2 other back packs at home, and if they won't do, I'd get her a new one. Thanks for the advice, but I can't sit on my hands over this one. Sometimes it is the right thing to do, by being quiet and letting it pass, but this is her education. Aside from health, it's very important. C. TO |
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"dolores" wrote in message ...
"Tiffany" wrote in message ... What he is saying is not so much the problem....it's the effect he's having on this little girl....and *that* is a major problem.. This is my big concern. I was lucky last year that they shuffled the kids and she got switched, I hope I can convince the principal that she is in a bad situation. It is obvious your child is not his favorite and though it is unfair, it happens. Well is shouldnt happen...and he shouldnt be teaching....It's not accetable in the adult workplace so why should it be acceptable in the classroom. That is right. I totally agree, and I will fight tooth and nail with ferocious and fierce tenacity so my kid can have what is best for her. I will let you know the outcome hopefully tomorrow. C. Don't let the comments of one teacher have you thinking anything is out of the ordinary with your child. You know your kid better then anyone. My daughter had a teacher that didn't particularly like her one year..... we just grinned and got through the year and I stopped meeting with him. So you just glibly accepted your childs education and future being damaged.....It because of parents, with an attitude like yours, that we have to deal with such bad teachers day in and day out....and our children leave school with a 2nd rate education...They *know* they can get away with it....and they do get away with it.....We as parents have to stand up and make ourselves heard..... Sorry Tiffany....but I must disagree with everything you've said in the strongest possible terms... Dolores TO |
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