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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. We semi-concluded that maybe we were too permissive earlier, and let him learn that if he protested enough, he could get out of being put into his car seat right away. But it's to the point where if we wait, he'll be fine - until we try the car seat again. I have to wonder if he didn't get hurt badly one or more times while getting into his car seat, so now he's terribly frightened of getting in. But since he can't talk, we're left to guess. And if that's the case, then his reaction to the fear is likely leading to more mishaps, since it's such a battle, and a spiral ensues. Has anyone else had a 1 year old (or so) who just couldn't stand their car seat? What did you do?! Thanks! |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
I almost forgot to mention: This is with two different cars, and two different car seats. One of the car seats is for toddlers, while the other is a convertible seat for infants and toddlers. On Wed, 13 Sep 2006 00:58:58 +0000, Dan Stromberg wrote: Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. We semi-concluded that maybe we were too permissive earlier, and let him learn that if he protested enough, he could get out of being put into his car seat right away. But it's to the point where if we wait, he'll be fine - until we try the car seat again. I have to wonder if he didn't get hurt badly one or more times while getting into his car seat, so now he's terribly frightened of getting in. But since he can't talk, we're left to guess. And if that's the case, then his reaction to the fear is likely leading to more mishaps, since it's such a battle, and a spiral ensues. Has anyone else had a 1 year old (or so) who just couldn't stand their car seat? What did you do?! Thanks! |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
"Dan Stromberg" wrote in message
news I almost forgot to mention: This is with two different cars, and two different car seats. One of the car seats is for toddlers, while the other is a convertible seat for infants and toddlers. On Wed, 13 Sep 2006 00:58:58 +0000, Dan Stromberg wrote: Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. snip Since he only does it when you're taking him AWAY from daycare and not when going TO daycare, is it possible that, in fact, he doesn't want to leave daycare rather than have a fear of the car seat? You don't mention whether he does this under other circumstances, so at the moment it seems to me that he's reacting to being taken away from somewhere he was having fun. Does your son keep crying or is it simply a battle to get him in and the protests stop after you have driven away? My almost 15 month old does exactly the same thing when leaving grandma's house. I have no problems getting Matt into the car seat when leaving home, the shopping centre, etc. At my mum's place he gets to play with different toys and horse around with his cousins. Every time we have to leave, there's tears and major wriggling and protests as soon as we try to put him into the car. He seems to be objecting to being taken away from the fun place and the loud teary protests are his way of showing us that he is not happy about it. It's lessened with time, and the tantruming was much worse when he first started staying at mum's and now after a couple of months he just lets out a few loud wails and wriggles a bit to show that he objects, then settles down for the car trip home with no further crying. So unless your son is consistently showing a fear response rather than throwing a tantrum when leaving somewhere fun, I'd say this could be his way of trying to assert control over his environment and of telling you he's not ready for the fun to stop just yet! Engram +-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+-+- Matthew 21 June 2005 DD EDD 06 Oct 2006 Check out our family at http://www.geocities.com/engram_au/ |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
"Dan Stromberg" wrote in message news Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. It's pretty typical for this age actually. They have just discovered independence -- they like to be able to walk around and explore and they start chafing at being constrained. I doubt that earlier permissiveness or being hurt had anything to do with it. Make sure, of course, that there is nothing pinching or binding him. But I think you're just going to have to suffer through this stage. BTW, when my daughter went through the same thing at the same age, someone rather snootily replied that "if you put them in the seat every single time, they'll never get the idea that they have a choice." I was really offended by that, as she had never moved a single foot in that car without being strapped down. Kids push limits. It's how they learn. Bizby |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
"Dan Stromberg" wrote in message news Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. Yes. I think he was a tiny bit older. I let him get in himself. If he was actually trying to get in and sit down I was patient with him. If he wasn't I counted to three. When I got to three I manhandled him in there. My oldest learned in about a week and we never had another problem. My youngest would take 3-4 days of this type of thing every 4 months or so until he was pretty big. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
"Dan Stromberg" wrote in message news He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. Honestly, it's not like it's "unfun" for him. He's throwing a tantrum. And yes, 14 month olds can throw tantrums. Unless he's being poked by something in the seat, put your sympathy aside because car seats are not negotiable. Personally, it sounds like he doesn't want to leave daycare. We semi-concluded that maybe we were too permissive earlier, and let him learn that if he protested enough, he could get out of being put into his car seat right away. But it's to the point where if we wait, he'll be fine - until we try the car seat again. If definitely sounds like he's just figuring out what he can and can't get away with. Give him options other times, but not the car seat and your departure time. I have to wonder if he didn't get hurt badly one or more times while getting into his car seat, so now he's terribly frightened of getting in. But since he can't talk, we're left to guess. And if that's the case, then his reaction to the fear is likely leading to more mishaps, since it's such a battle, and a spiral ensues. Most likely he didn't suffer any great pain without you knowing. Just to be safe, check everything to make sure there isn't something poking him. Has anyone else had a 1 year old (or so) who just couldn't stand their car seat? What did you do?! Yes, my dd went through this for a short time at about the same age. I just stuffed her into her seat and buckled her up kicking and screaming. It wasn't pretty and at times dh had to help, but the phase was very short lived. Now that she's almost two she likes to try to climb in herself, giving her a bit of independence in the whole carseat business. HTH JennP. |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
"JennP" wrote in message . .. "Dan Stromberg" wrote in message news He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. Honestly, it's not like it's "unfun" for him. He's throwing a tantrum. And yes, 14 month olds can throw tantrums. Unless he's being poked by something in the seat, put your sympathy aside because car seats are not negotiable. Personally, it sounds like he doesn't want to leave daycare. On the flip side he might be a little worn out from daycare and has a mini-meltdown as soon as he is with mom/dad and this is the first real opportunity. Lots of kids use up a lot of energy coping with things like daycare or school. They are *done* managing their behavior and just melt down when they are back with mom/dad. If I didn't manage the situation very well my kids would. -- Nikki, mama to Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Brock 4/06 Ben 4/06 |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
Dan Stromberg wrote:
I almost forgot to mention: This is with two different cars, and two different car seats. One of the car seats is for toddlers, while the other is a convertible seat for infants and toddlers. It is not clear to me whether he always reacts the same to a specific car seat - does he complain with only one car seat v.s. the other - i.e. is he always picked up with the same car seat? If so, maybe it is the specific car seat that he is reacting to. Can you switch the car seats from one car to the other to test this theory? On Wed, 13 Sep 2006 00:58:58 +0000, Dan Stromberg wrote: Hi folks. I have a 14 month old who doesn't mind being taken to daycare in the morning, and doesn't mind if my wife or I pick him up at daycare, but as soon as either of us tries to get him into his car seat for the trip home (but not the trip to), he gets =very= unhappy. He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. We semi-concluded that maybe we were too permissive earlier, and let him learn that if he protested enough, he could get out of being put into his car seat right away. But it's to the point where if we wait, he'll be fine - until we try the car seat again. I have to wonder if he didn't get hurt badly one or more times while getting into his car seat, so now he's terribly frightened of getting in. But since he can't talk, we're left to guess. And if that's the case, then his reaction to the fear is likely leading to more mishaps, since it's such a battle, and a spiral ensues. Has anyone else had a 1 year old (or so) who just couldn't stand their car seat? What did you do?! Thanks! |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
I still go through this with my son. He doesn't wear shoes in the car anymore. We take them on and off everywhere we go. He's getting pretty strong now, but you just put your sympathies aside, and pretend is isn't bothering you. Check the seat daily for anything that could hurt, watch your chin, (the chin kick is a killer), and make sure his clothing is pulled down, and not bunched anywhere, which can be annoying for him. |
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Little one -hates- the car seat (or something)
Nikki wrote: "JennP" wrote in message . .. "Dan Stromberg" wrote in message news He'll cry, he'll yell, he'll arch his back to avoid getting into the seat, he'll twist, he'll wriggle his arms away. It's easily the low point of my day, trying to get him into that car seat, because it's obviously so extremely unfun for him. Honestly, it's not like it's "unfun" for him. He's throwing a tantrum. And yes, 14 month olds can throw tantrums. Unless he's being poked by something in the seat, put your sympathy aside because car seats are not negotiable. Personally, it sounds like he doesn't want to leave daycare. On the flip side he might be a little worn out from daycare and has a mini-meltdown as soon as he is with mom/dad and this is the first real opportunity. Lots of kids use up a lot of energy coping with things like daycare or school. They are *done* managing their behavior and just melt down when they are back with mom/dad. I was thinking this as well - sometimes my daughter bursts into tears as soon as I show up at nursery to pick her up and while I think it's partly because she doesn't want to leave, I think it's also because she's knackered and she knows she can let it out when I'm there, if that makes sense (although it is mortifying, sometimes, having to chase your screaming child around to force them to come home with you - I must look like the most evil mother around!). And, even if she leaves the building OK, she sometimes has a tizzy fit when I try to buckle her in and I think it's just that she's so tired, she can't handle any more fussing around her - she just wants to be home already. One thing I've found that helps is to have one or two of her favourite toys in the car, so that I can hand one to her to distract her while I'm working on the straps. Cheers Helen |
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