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I really should not have read Babywise
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I really should not have read Babywise
I don't think that using a playpen a good idea, I think the baby is a
little young for that. I have used a playpen when the baby has become mobile and I need to put him in a safe place while i'm mopping the floor in the same room The idea is that *if* you are going to use a playpen when the baby is mobile, then it may be a good idea to start using it before the baby is mobile, so that the baby is used to being in it and does not associate it only with being confined. Which may or may not work, but it doesn't hurt to try. IF, again, you are going to use a playpen at all, which isn't always necessary but certainly isn't the evil thing that some make it out to be. There were certainly times when my son preferred to be in a playpen in the same room as me than roaming freely about a room that I was not in, and sometimes those were his choices. Holly Mom to Camden, 2.5 yrs |
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"Kereru" wrote
I still think that if you are going to read then reading a wide range of stuff is a good idea when you have a new baby Anyway, I find it hard to believe that most adult women really "follow" any baby book or adopt any book's parenting philosophy unless what she reads really "clicks" with her. Rather, I think most end up choosing and ultimately using those books that conform to their own instincts. So, I suspect that those women who "follow Ezzo" (which, by the way, I have never heard of except on this list) had always believed that babies need to be controlled and those who "follow Sears" were already the kind who would want to sleep with their babies. They just pick up specific ideas from these authors for following their own instincts. I bought both Penelope Leach and What to Expect the First Year on others' recommendations while pregnant with my first. Once the desperate-for-info-any-info newborn period was over, I tended to increasingly consult Leach with questions, esp. those on which "parenting philosophy" would have an effect. I just liked her; she made sense to me. By about 6 months postpartum, I had decided I sort of hated WTETFY. |
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Karen Askey wrote: husband was the one who finally said for me to listen to my gut and throw away the books (Hogg's Baby Whisperer was the other one) Yukko. I skimmed thru that book and decided she was a nasty piece of work wrapped up in a smarmy package. (Feel the same about Monty Roberts, the "original" (larf!) Horse Whisperer........) didn't even KNOW at that point that she'd left her family behind to tell other people what to do with theirs. Dawn |
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You know what really got me about the "Baby Whisper"? It was her idea of eat,
play, sleep. It may work for some babies, but with my DD (now 2 and 3 months and still nursing twice a day or so.) nursing put her right to sleep. I was so exhausted and stressed out about this new, very demanding housemate/baranacle/new baby I was not about to wake her up just to follow some book's advice. Especially since her advice didn't seem to present breastfeeding with the seriousness it took to make it work for us. Sue ** remove "spamnot" to reply** |
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You know what really got me about the "Baby Whisper"? It was her idea of eat,
play, sleep. It may work for some babies, but with my DD (now 2 and 3 months and still nursing twice a day or so.) nursing put her right to sleep I think this is true for most babies. Nursing is a natural sleep inducer for babies, so the idea that we are somehow supposed to keep our babies awake after a feeding and play with them, THEN put them in their crib, awake, so they can learn how to fall asleep on their own -- is, at best, counterintuitive, and at worst, well -- stupid. (And Ezzo recommends the same thing, of course.) I think it is helpful if you are trying to get baby on a schedule, however, since a soundly sleeping baby [i.e. a baby who has been put to bed awake, and so has probably fallen asleep crying....] will probably actually sleep a little longer, and not wake up from hunger until the hunger pangs are pretty strong. And, ta dah! You have your 4 hour schedule!!! Naomi CAPPA Certified Lactation Educator (either remove spamblock or change address to to e-mail reply.) |
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"Naomi Pardue" wrote in message ... You know what really got me about the "Baby Whisper"? It was her idea of eat, play, sleep. It may work for some babies, but with my DD (now 2 and 3 months and still nursing twice a day or so.) nursing put her right to sleep I think this is true for most babies. Nursing is a natural sleep inducer for babies, so the idea that we are somehow supposed to keep our babies awake after a feeding and play with them, THEN put them in their crib, awake, so they can learn how to fall asleep on their own -- is, at best, counterintuitive, and at worst, well -- stupid. (And Ezzo recommends the same thing, of course.) I think it is helpful if you are trying to get baby on a schedule, however, since a soundly sleeping baby [i.e. a baby who has been put to bed awake, and so has probably fallen asleep crying....] will probably actually sleep a little longer, and not wake up from hunger until the hunger pangs are pretty strong. And, ta dah! You have your 4 hour schedule!!! I say go with the baby's natural rhythm. It's silly to fight an eat/sleep/play routine if it works. |
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I say go with the baby's natural rhythm. It's silly to fight an
eat/sleep/play routine if it works. I agree, at first this is what I expected, but it wasn't what happened, nursing seemed to put him into a light sleep which any movement would wake him up, then he's happy to play and nap later, going to sleep in his basket, with a little bit of fussing, doesn't often seem to make him sleep longer, we usually get max an hour, he usually wakes up for more play rather than feed straight away. ----------- Anne Rogers |
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Anne Rogers wrote:
nursing seemed to put him into a light sleep which any movement would wake him up, then he's happy to play and nap later, Caterpillar is the same way, depending on the time of day. Nursing in the morning and afternoon induces a state of dazed milk-drunkenness, which wears off in a few minutes, leaving her energized and ready to play. Playing tires her out, so she sleeps more easily. But she's not a fan of sleeping by herself during the day, so she gets 30-minute naps by herself or an hour or two in the sling. At night, the milk-drunkenness will calm her down enough that she can fall asleep, whereas playing just makes her overtired and cranky. Phoebe |
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