Young Mum

Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

hi solo. you're going to be ok. I don't have any concrete advice, since
i'm not sure what you need, what you want, where you are in the
process... all i can say is, take things in small chunks, don't worry
about where you're going to be ten years from now. Concentrate on what
you need to get done every day, and eventually you'll be able to deal
with the bigger picture.

I got on an airplane with four suitcases, one toddler, and $400 -- and
started all over.

Christina
http://solomother.com

solo wrote:
Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

"solo" wrote in message
ups.com...
Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

Getting up in the morning, brushing your teeth and making a pot of coffee
works pretty well.

As soon as you stop seeing being a single parent as something different from
being a parent, you'll probably find it easier. You've been a mom for 3
years (unless he/she just showed up on your doorstep last night) - have you
forgotten how to be a parent?

"Solomother" wrote in message
oups.com...
hi solo. you're going to be ok. I don't have any concrete advice, since
i'm not sure what you need, what you want, where you are in the
process... all i can say is, take things in small chunks, don't worry
about where you're going to be ten years from now. Concentrate on what
you need to get done every day, and eventually you'll be able to deal
with the bigger picture.

I got on an airplane with four suitcases, one toddler, and $400 -- and
started all over.

In many states, taking the child away from a relationship with the other
parent is generally frowned upon unless there is clear and substantiated
abuse (like a conviction).


Christina
http://solomother.com

solo wrote:
Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

Moon shyne, thanks for the tip. I wasn't writing about moving away as a
recommendation for anyone else. I was writing about my experience,
living in the United Arab Emirates with my husband when our marriage
fell apart. I was writing to say that we are capable of remarkable
things when we have to be.I was writing to say that if I can start all
over, and i mean ALL over, so can anyone else, cause I'm not some
superhero. I'm just a woman with a kid. I brought my child back to the
US because it's the best thing for him and for me as his primary
caregiver. I left with my husband's consent and knowledge.

Christina
Moon Shyne wrote:
"Solomother" wrote in message
oups.com...
hi solo. you're going to be ok. I don't have any concrete advice, since
i'm not sure what you need, what you want, where you are in the
process... all i can say is, take things in small chunks, don't worry
about where you're going to be ten years from now. Concentrate on what
you need to get done every day, and eventually you'll be able to deal
with the bigger picture.

I got on an airplane with four suitcases, one toddler, and $400 -- and
started all over.

In many states, taking the child away from a relationship with the other
parent is generally frowned upon unless there is clear and substantiated
abuse (like a conviction).


Christina
http://solomother.com

solo wrote:
Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

Kate, I'm going to have to print this one out and put it up on my
fridge. I might have to quote it in my blog, it's that good. Let me
know if I can, and what kind of credit you want...

Christina
http://solomother.com

Take good care of yourself. Get enough sleep every night. Eat right. Get
out into the sunshine at least an hour a day. Exercise. Make sure you
get time away from your child once in awhile. Make friends. Start
routines and help your child to develop habits that you want him/her to
have his/her whole life. Never bad-mouth his/her father.. not even when
you think he/she is not listening. Don't answer for your ex... if he
doesn't come to visit, then he has to explain when he does. Give your
child hugs... lots of them every day. Don't jump from one relationship
into another. Don't introduce your child to every guy you date. Listen
to your child's hopes, dreams, and wishes as well as his/her hurts and
disappointments. Get on the floor and play once in awhile. Smile as
often as possible. If you feel overwhelmed, you needed more help than
you asked for... learn to ask earlier. The crock pot is your friend.

I hope that's everything. :-)
Welcome to the group.

'Kate

"Solomother" wrote in message
ups.com...
Moon shyne, thanks for the tip. I wasn't writing about moving away as a
recommendation for anyone else. I was writing about my experience,
living in the United Arab Emirates with my husband when our marriage
fell apart. I was writing to say that we are capable of remarkable
things when we have to be.I was writing to say that if I can start all
over, and i mean ALL over, so can anyone else, cause I'm not some
superhero.

We know - there are large numbers of us who had to start over with nothing.

I just didn't want to see anyone pushing the idea of packing up, and taking
the kid and just running off - there are already too many children who (for
whatever the reasons) are not having a full, meaning relationship with both
their mother AND their father. I don't want to promote the idea of putting
more children in that group.

I'm just a woman with a kid. I brought my child back to the
US because it's the best thing for him and for me as his primary
caregiver. I left with my husband's consent and knowledge.

I'm curious - how do you know that removing your child from a relationship
with his father, and the country where apparently he was born, is "the best
thing for him"? You got some handbook that the rest of us missed?



Christina
Moon Shyne wrote:
"Solomother" wrote in message
oups.com...
hi solo. you're going to be ok. I don't have any concrete advice, since
i'm not sure what you need, what you want, where you are in the
process... all i can say is, take things in small chunks, don't worry
about where you're going to be ten years from now. Concentrate on what
you need to get done every day, and eventually you'll be able to deal
with the bigger picture.

I got on an airplane with four suitcases, one toddler, and $400 -- and
started all over.

In many states, taking the child away from a relationship with the other
parent is generally frowned upon unless there is clear and substantiated
abuse (like a conviction).


Christina
http://solomother.com

solo wrote:
Hi
This is a first for me. I am a newly single mum of a three year old
and
I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to start my long road of
being a single parent

hello my names james
and i like to say if i may . that
you are to nice to be single.
im a single male from wis, no kid but i kmow its got to be
tuff.casue you want to do whats right for your child and or
chilfen at the same time you want to bal.spme kind of really
realtionship. so hing in there you,ll be alright .
becuase with the Blessing of the Lord...
you are never alonle and you will get thue your diffcult time .
ig you every need someone to chat with i,ll be here for you ,
James

Thanks James

That really means alot. I am slowly moving on and getting my life back
on track.


High Roller wrote:
hello my names james
and i like to say if i may . that
you are to nice to be single.
im a single male from wis, no kid but i kmow its got to be
tuff.casue you want to do whats right for your child and or
chilfen at the same time you want to bal.spme kind of really
realtionship. so hing in there you,ll be alright .
becuase with the Blessing of the Lord...
you are never alonle and you will get thue your diffcult time .
ig you every need someone to chat with i,ll be here for you ,
James



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