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on my LAST nerve with very gifted boy
I am truly grateful for my wonderful, very gifted, talented
12-year-old son. He is full of intellectual curiosity, wants to learn and try everything, etc. The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. He is in a good school and is challenged there, does very well. We do everything we can to foster his gifts, but he has a sort of "never enough" personality which is driving me toward depression. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone familiar with this, please, how did you deal with it in a constructive way? I'm not stupid, but he is WAY beyond what I can keep up with, both in terms of intellect, focus, and energy. |
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"miracatta" wrote in message om... The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. Maybe the thing is to teach him to find the answers for himself rather than coming to you for answers. Especially if you don't know the answers, you could direct him where to look for the answers and he could find the answers for you. That would take the pressure off you, he could keep busy and you would both be happy. That's what our teachers did when they didn't know the answers or didn't want to bother with us. |
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on my LAST nerve with very gifted boy
Sounds like he might need some kind of tutor/mentor who can come over
regularly and help him answer his questions. Then he could save them up rather than bombard you all the time. Maybe he could start a question and answer diary. Liz "miracatta" wrote in message om... I am truly grateful for my wonderful, very gifted, talented 12-year-old son. He is full of intellectual curiosity, wants to learn and try everything, etc. The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. He is in a good school and is challenged there, does very well. We do everything we can to foster his gifts, but he has a sort of "never enough" personality which is driving me toward depression. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone familiar with this, please, how did you deal with it in a constructive way? I'm not stupid, but he is WAY beyond what I can keep up with, both in terms of intellect, focus, and energy. |
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on my LAST nerve with very gifted boy
can you take him to the library to get some books? or even get one of thoe
pc encyclopedias? surely mum will run out of answers soon! i woudl chris "miracatta" wrote in message om... I am truly grateful for my wonderful, very gifted, talented 12-year-old son. He is full of intellectual curiosity, wants to learn and try everything, etc. The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. He is in a good school and is challenged there, does very well. We do everything we can to foster his gifts, but he has a sort of "never enough" personality which is driving me toward depression. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone familiar with this, please, how did you deal with it in a constructive way? I'm not stupid, but he is WAY beyond what I can keep up with, both in terms of intellect, focus, and energy. |
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on my LAST nerve with very gifted boy
"miracatta"
Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone familiar with this, please, how did you deal with it in a constructive way? I'm not stupid, but he is WAY beyond what I can keep up with, both in terms of intellect, focus, and energy. as well as what others have offered in terms of practical assistance, you should also have a Serious Talk with him about his manners. he's only thinking about himself, & not others & beyond a certain point it's simply rude to keep on & on at someone. you need to sort this out pretty quickly at his age imo. good luck! :-) (i'd probably have been around the bend years ago) kylie -- www.rdj.com.au |
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on my LAST nerve with very gifted boy
"miracatta" wrote in message om... I am truly grateful for my wonderful, very gifted, talented 12-year-old son. He is full of intellectual curiosity, wants to learn and try everything, etc. The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. He is in a good school and is challenged there, does very well. We do everything we can to foster his gifts, but he has a sort of "never enough" personality which is driving me toward depression. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone familiar with this, please, how did you deal with it in a constructive way? I'm not stupid, but he is WAY beyond what I can keep up with, both in terms of intellect, focus, and energy. I have no experience with this whatsoever. But my first thought is o try to figure out ways that he can satisfy his curiosity himself withouth you CONSTANT need for involvement. During you involved time, on a subject determine together what projects he can do to examine the issue, ones that do not need your involvement. Teach him to safely use the internet. Determine if he can go to the library unattended. Those are thoughts. S |
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The bad news...I don't have 48 hours in the day to devote to his interests and questions, and he NEVER lets up!!! If he is interested in a subject we have to explore all aspects of it, 24/7. I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. You might want to check out some online support groups for parents of gifted kids -- at the very least, you'll have even more parents of kids like yours to kvetch with (there are some here, but *lots* there): http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/on-line_support.htm . Maybe you can turn the tables on him, and start him doing a research project on the concept of personal space. ;-) Sometimes these kids don't understand that emotions and people's behavior are every bit as fascinating and worthy of scientific attention as any other phenomenon. Mine are not quite in this category, they're quite a bit mellower, but he sounds a bit like one of my brothers, or, even more, like some of his Caltech buddies! I know that "you should be grateful" comments are almost never any help, but it truly is nice that he is talking to you a lot and wants you to be involved in his ideas. --Helen |
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"Staycalm" wrote in message . au...
Sounds like he might need some kind of tutor/mentor who can come over regularly and help him answer his questions. He *does* need a mentor, desperately. Then he could save them up rather than bombard you all the time. Maybe he could start a question and answer diary. That won't help much now. At an older age, it will help him with organization, and prioritization. "miracatta" wrote in message om... I find myself wanting to scream at him. I am just not that intense or focused. What about his other parent? What about relatives? The genes for his "gifts" must come from somewhere, i.e. his parents. Note the plural. There is also the possibility of mutation, but that is rare. More often, in cases of "gifted children, not-so-gifted parents", it is the parents who are suppressing their own knowledge, often due to very early social pressure. I don't at all want to discourage or demean him, but I would love to teach him to cool down, not be as intense, stop pounding me incessantly with questions I don't know how to answer properly...it's really draining. Again, he needs a mentor. He is at the stage where he considers his parents to be gods, and *expects* them to able to meet his intellectual needs. If you can't do that directly, then do it indirectly, with a mentor. Your school might be able to help. You could also go directly to the local university or college, and find volunteers among the faculty. |
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