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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
"David desJardins" wrote in message
... Some people have said that it's possible to monitor what's going on in the school just as well without ever being there. I'm doubtful that that's true, and even if it were, I still don't really understand why people would go to lengths just to maintain that distance. It's like deciding that I'm going to interact with my children by two-way television, instead of being with them in person. Perhaps, with an effort, I could find out just as much about them as if I were there, but I don't see why I'd want to do it that way. While my children aren't school age yet, and maybe I will be surprised, it seems to me that spending a couple of hours in a classroom now and then would be by far the most efficient and effective way to find out what's going on there. Well, first and foremost, I think it's important for kids, even in kindergarten or first grade, to develop confidence in their own ability to handle things without Mommy and Daddy constantly running interference for them. Now, of course, sometimes, you *have* to run interference for a 5 or 6yo; they're just not *able* to solve all problems they might encounter themselves. Still, school is an environment *designed* to meet the needs of children and, therefore, kids *ought* to be able to negotiate it reasonably well without hanging onto their parents' coattails. That's not to say that *all* schools do meet their needs of children or are readily negotiable by every child, but I believe I should see some *evidence* that my child isn't able to manage on his or her own before getting directly involved. Another reason I personally have made the choice to stay away from the classroom is that, on the one occasion I did observe, I was a *huge* distraction to my son. Although I think he would *like* me to volunteer in the classroom on a more regular basis, I think my presence is far more hindrance than help to him. So, unless there's some evidence of a problem (resistance to going to school, poor grades, indications from the teacher that there are behavior problems, etc.), I prefer to let my son have school as a sphere of his life where I'm *not* involved since I am so constantly involved in nearly every other sphere of it. He needs to develop as an independent human being capable of getting along with others and doing what needs to be done, and school is one of the first places he'll have the opportunity to do that. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [17mo] mom) See us at http://photos.yahoo.com/guavaln This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "...we patiently sat by his door, waiting for it to open so he could tell us all about who he had met" -- from _Uncle Andy's_ by James Warhola |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Barbara writes:
Well, first and foremost, I think it's important for kids, even in kindergarten or first grade, to develop confidence in their own ability to handle things without Mommy and Daddy constantly running interference for them. I just don't see how spending a couple of hours in a classroom, once in a while, in order to have some contact with what's going on there and to play a part in the process, is "constantly running interference". Now, of course, sometimes, you *have* to run interference for a 5 or 6yo; they're just not *able* to solve all problems they might encounter themselves. You have placed an intense focus on "problems". I don't think that it has to be so adversarial (i.e., the parent only has any role in education when there's something "wrong" at the school). I see it as a cooperative process from day one. It just seems so clear to me that a school where all of the parents cooperate to educate their children is a better idea than a school where the parents turn the whole matter over to "professionals", and only have any role if there's a "problem". I guess I'm coming to the same point of view that Elizabeth has expressed, albeit reluctantly. Those of us who see school as a cooperative process among all of us, can volunteer in our schools, and contribute to make them as good as we can. And I won't feel guilty about contributing to my schools, and not helping other schools where my children don't go, since there seem to be many parents who don't want my kind of help, anyway. David desJardins |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents
Bruce and Jeanne wrote in message ...
Ann Porter wrote: "Kevin Karplus" wrote in message ... One that I was surprised they didn't do is to visit the sewage treatment plant, which is just a few blocks from the school. I think the first-grade teacher might do it this year as part of the "liquids and solids" unit---it simply hadn't occured to her, though the plant does do a lot of field trips for more distant schools. Eww. I realize sewage treatment is very (very) important, but I prefer not to think about it, let alone visit the facility where it's done. Sort of like how I prefer to think of my hamburger as coming from cellophane-wrapped packages, rather than from a cow. I remmber going to our water treatment plant while in grade school. It was an interesting field trip and not as stinky as one would think. I took Emma's Camp Fire group (yup, I'm one of those apparently irresponsible and uncaring parents who volunteer through a youth organization, rather than in the classroom) to our local wastewater treatment facility on a field trip. It was indeed very interesting. Water quality is an issue for communities world-wide, and a field trip to the water treatment plant would probably be a good field trip for everyone. Warm Regards, Claire Petersky ) Home of the meditative cyclist: http://home.earthlink.net/~cpetersky/Welcome.htm Books just wanna be FREE! See what I mean at: http://bookcrossing.com/friend/Cpetersky |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
"David desJardins" wrote in message
... Barbara writes: Well, first and foremost, I think it's important for kids, even in kindergarten or first grade, to develop confidence in their own ability to handle things without Mommy and Daddy constantly running interference for them. I just don't see how spending a couple of hours in a classroom, once in a while, in order to have some contact with what's going on there and to play a part in the process, is "constantly running interference". I guess it depends a great deal on what you mean by "once in a while". My experience has been that parents who volunteer in the classroom do so for a set number of hours on the same day each week. Of course, any parent can drop in and observe during class time any time they wish, but in general, most parents who are in the classroom are there on a regular basis far more than what I'd call "once in a while". And the teachers tend to prefer that classroom volunteers commit to being there on a particular day at a particular time so that they know what resources they will have to assist them at any given time. I can't blame them for that. I'm just not sure how much you can reasonably expect to contribute to the process or how much insight you can reasonably expect to gain from "a few hours once in a while" if that means dropping in for a couple of hours once every month or two. Now, of course, sometimes, you *have* to run interference for a 5 or 6yo; they're just not *able* to solve all problems they might encounter themselves. You have placed an intense focus on "problems". I don't think that it has to be so adversarial (i.e., the parent only has any role in education when there's something "wrong" at the school). I see it as a cooperative process from day one. I see it as cooperative as well. It's just that *my* part of the process isn't primarily or necessarily accomplished *at school*. I certainly collaborate with my children's teachers when it comes to ensuring that they're learning what they should and generally doing well emotionally as well as academically. It's just that I don't think I need to be *in the classroom* to do that. It just seems so clear to me that a school where all of the parents cooperate to educate their children is a better idea than a school where the parents turn the whole matter over to "professionals", and only have any role if there's a "problem". Ah, but that's not what I'm suggesting. What I *am* suggesting is that the part of school that happens at school is only one part of the educational process. What happens at home is equally valid and important, and the part that happens at home is the part I'm responsible for. I guess I'm coming to the same point of view that Elizabeth has expressed, albeit reluctantly. Those of us who see school as a cooperative process among all of us, can volunteer in our schools, and contribute to make them as good as we can. And I won't feel guilty about contributing to my schools, and not helping other schools where my children don't go, since there seem to be many parents who don't want my kind of help, anyway. I'm not remotely suggesting that I think *no one* should volunteer in the classroom or otherwise "do something for their schools". What I'm suggesting is that no one should be *expected* to do so, any more than anyone should be expected to purchase tickets for and attend the police ball in order to get police protection. If folks want to do *extra*, that's fine and even laudable, but I think it should be viewed *as* extra, rather than as an obligation or expectation. -- Be well, Barbara (Julian [6], Aurora [4], and Vernon's [17mo] mom) See us at http://photos.yahoo.com/guavaln This week's special at the English Language Butcher Shop: "...we patiently sat by his door, waiting for it to open so he could tell us all about who he had met" -- from _Uncle Andy's_ by James Warhola |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
Barbara writes:
I guess it depends a great deal on what you mean by "once in a while". My experience has been that parents who volunteer in the classroom do so for a set number of hours on the same day each week. I don't have any such experience, so maybe I'm naive, but I don't see any justification for this "all or nothing" approach. With 20+ students in a class, if all of the parents showed up for several hours every week, they could hardly fit in the room. I would be surprised and disappointed if the school rejected my participation because I wouldn't be available every week. I don't think that's a good policy, and it certainly would discourage participation. You have placed an intense focus on "problems". I don't think that it has to be so adversarial (i.e., the parent only has any role in education when there's something "wrong" at the school). I see it as a cooperative process from day one. I see it as cooperative as well. It's just that *my* part of the process isn't primarily or necessarily accomplished *at school*. When you divide your children's education into "my part" and "their part", I think you've lost the cooperative principle that's important to me. For my kids, I reject the idea of separate "parts". It's all "my part". David desJardins |
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Kindergarten - my child "going postal" every morning...
"David desJardins" wrote in message ... Leah Adezio writes: I'm only going by what Marji specifically *wrote* -- no implication at all -- that if you don't volunteer in public schools, you're a bad citizen. With all due respect, that's not what she said. She said (exact quote): "Someone who doesn't do what they can to help public schools is being a bad citizen." I'm not sure if you misread this, or what, but I know I don't like being misquoted, and I doubt she likes it either. Fair enough...though considering the greatest bulk of the discussion has been specifically about *volunteering*, I think it's a valid *interpretation*. But I'll concede the point. You have clearly said that you can't do any more than you're doing now---so, just reading what she actually wrote, she's not criticizing you at all, because you're doing what you can. What I resent is that it shouldn't *matter* -- the 'doing what one *can*' thing. People should have the right to make these choices for themselves and be able to choose where they spend their altruistic time and money without being judged by *anyone*. There are parents here who donate their time to other interests involving children -- coaching, religious activies, community activities, etc. Are their efforts no less valid because they choose to be altruistic somewhere else besides public or private schooling? There are those who choose activities or organizations that have little to actually do with children or education of any kind at all...are *they* wrong? Should they be judged by anyone? And why should *my* current circumstances be allowed special dispensation (as Noreen was so generous to give -- and don't I feel sooooo much better now, thanks very much), anyway? Why *should* I, recently widowed, be given a pass when someone whose spouse walked out on them suddenly, might not? We're both still newly singled parents in a situation that, quite frankly, stinks out loud. Leah David desJardins |
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Fundraising
Iowacookiemom wrote:
It made me wonder if all district fund-raising should go into one pot and then get divided up. But then again, if that happened fundraising overall would drop off sharply, so that is no answer. I forget that I am in an extremely small district- 2 elementary schools and a middle school with a total enrollment of 1,379 students. (High school is a different district). Our middle school PTO gave a gift of $17,00 to the school last year. The parents of 1300 students aren't going to raise millions of dollars. Marion Baumgarten |
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Fundraising
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Marion Baumgarten wrote: I forget that I am in an extremely small district- 2 elementary schools and a middle school with a total enrollment of 1,379 students. (High school is a different district). Our middle school PTO gave a gift of $17,00 to the school last year. The parents of 1300 students aren't going to raise millions of dollars. 1379 is a small district! $17,000 for 1379 sounds a bit on the low side for school fundraising, but if the school is not in desperate straits, there may not need to be more. The elementary schools around here very enormously in their fundraising (even within the City of Santa Cruz). I believe that Westlake, with about 600 students raises $50,000 to $100,000 a year, most of which goes to fund their art and music programs. They have also had parents writing grant proposals, back in the days when the state had any money to give out in grants. Other schools the same size raise less than a quarter of that. The difference it makes in the programs between the schools is substantial, at least if you care about art and music instruction. The voters of the city have passed some parcel taxes (despite the 2/3 vote needed) to pay for a professional librarian at each school and, more recently, to keep all 6 elementary schools open. Even the tiny taxes involved ($81/year per parcel of real estate for the most recent one) have barely passed. Trying to pass a tax large enough to fund the schools at an adequate level would be nearly impossible. -- Kevin Karplus http://www.soe.ucsc.edu/~karplus life member (LAB, Adventure Cycling, American Youth Hostels) Effective Cycling Instructor #218-ck (lapsed) Professor of Computer Engineering, University of California, Santa Cruz Undergraduate and Graduate Director, Bioinformatics Affiliations for identification only. |
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Classroom Volunteering and WOH parents
Noreen Cooper wrote in message ...
chiam margalit wrote: : And yes, the murals are lovely but.... : *(For those unfamiliar with this area of San Francisco, it is an : *extremely* gay area and home to a lot of what is known as 'rough : trade'. We saw our first guy in chaps and nothing on under them but a : lot of penile piercings in the Mission. Yes, it's an education, but : I'd bet plenty of parents don't want that kind of education for their : young and impressionable children. Of course, not everyone who lives : in the Mission is gay or pierced, but enough are that it could be : cause for alarm.) Are we confusing the Castro with the Mission here? Marjorie, I lived 18 years in the City and the Mission district has always been the Hispanic enclave in San Francisco. Gay people do live in San Francisco in general and the Mission is a great place for city dwellers to buy cheap vegetables. But the Mission has never been primarily gay. Never. Yeah? Tell that to the people marching up and down the streets on Saturday evenings. I think they'd be surprised. Yes, the Castro is gay, but so is the mission, and with a different *feel* to it. I spend plenty of time on the 16th St Hill, and if it isn't one blink from Christopher St, I don't know what is. Marjorie |
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Fundraising
Kevin Karplus wrote:
In article , Marion Baumgarten wrote: I forget that I am in an extremely small district- 2 elementary schools and a middle school with a total enrollment of 1,379 students. (High school is a different district). Our middle school PTO gave a gift of $17,00 to the school last year. The parents of 1300 students aren't going to raise millions of dollars. 1379 is a small district! $17,000 for 1379 sounds a bit on the low side for school fundraising, but if the school is not in desperate straits, there may not need to be more. They probably raised more but spent some it it- for example our PTO usually sponsors a speaker for the kids and paid for it. Also that was for one school. Also we have a separate parent organization that sponsors the instumental music program- parents are asked to pay about $150 per year if their child is in band or orchestra and do some fundraising as well. (We have a separate staff for regular music, instumental music meets before or after school). Also, we pay high property taxes- the school collected about 7.3 million in taxes last fiscal year. Marion Baumgarten |
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