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"Rosie" wrote in message ... Personally I think: Lots of women find breastfeeding unpleasant - the very IDEA of it. They might think of it as an animal thing, or just really dislike anyone touching their breasts. I've never found it comfortable - I LOVE nursing my daughter, but it's still like having a clothespeg on my nipple! A friend of mine was literally terified that she would feel sexually excited by nursing her daughter. I (rather snidely) thought it was unlikely considering how uptight she was. Those of us who think of breastfeeding as a lovely and positive thing should think ourselves very lucky. Lots of women have bad past experiences/body images/lack of education/a million other sad reasons in between them and a positive nursing experience. At the end of the day, breastfeeding is just a small part of the enormous task of looking after a baby. Most of us born in the 60's/70's weren't breastfed, but we were still loved and mothered just as well. You don't have to breastfeed to be an excellent and loving parent - my husband doesn't! ROSIE xx |
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SNIP
Some women are squicked out about breastfeeding so they don't want to do it. Some go back to work relatively soon, so they don't want to bother. Lots of women don't breastfeed because they simply do not understand that it is important. Their doctors are not giving them the proper information. I think more women would breastfeed if their doctors were more pro-breastfeeding. Most doctors will tell you (probably a CYA situation) that formula is just as good and most women believe their doctors. Do docs REALLY still say this kind of thing? My OB and DS's ped BOTH were strong advocates for nursing. The ped even phoned me several times on the weekend after birth to see how I was getting along when I had trouble. He wanted to make sure the nurse had been by for me. And he got me an appt with an LC himself. I am surprised that docs still say this. Hell, even the formula companies are not allowed to say this. I think the pendulum is swinging back to more women breastfeeding. Certainly now, everyone I know is breastfeeding their babies. I also think that since more people have access to the computer and are educating themselves more, the word is spreading that breast is best. I second this and further think that the more people do it, the less hard it will be on the new people, until, like in days of old, it is just something you do. Once upon a time there was no question abotu whether or not a baby was breastfed. SNIP |
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Most doctors will tell you (probably a CYA situation) that formula is just
as good and most women believe their doctors. Do docs REALLY still say this kind of thing? They don't so often say exactly that. More likely that most of them make comforting noises that are supposed to be just sympathy, and people take it for medical advice. Like the OR nurse who, when I was being wheeled in for my section, said "I had both my babies by C-section. It's the only way to go." That's obviously not what she was taught, and she would probably be horrified if I went out and repeated it as advice against attempting a vaginal birth. It was her idea of a comforting remark. --Helen |
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In article , Stephanie S
writes SNIP Some women are squicked out about breastfeeding so they don't want to do it. Some go back to work relatively soon, so they don't want to bother. Lots of women don't breastfeed because they simply do not understand that it is important. Their doctors are not giving them the proper information. I think more women would breastfeed if their doctors were more pro-breastfeeding. Most doctors will tell you (probably a CYA situation) that formula is just as good and most women believe their doctors. Do docs REALLY still say this kind of thing? Mine asked me why I was bothering to try to get ds#1 to nurse (rather than take EBM due to prematurely) as formula would be easier, and was fine. When I finally got him to nurse exclusively at six months she asked how soon I would be weaning, as it was 'gone past time for formula to be just as good', this in the UK, in 1999! -- Jenn UK |
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"Shannon" wrote in message ...
A good friend of mine who does not have kids yet, has told me in no uncertain terms that when she has a baby, she will breastfeed for three months, then its formula the rest of the way. I asked her why, and she told me that she understands that mother's milk is really the best thing until three months, but after that, it's "too much trouble". It's surprising to me, because she saw how easy it was for me to nurse DS right into toddlerhood. Go figure. Is she going back to work? It was much easier for me, personally, to breastfeed my son before I returned to work. I didn't have much success pumping (I could pump about 1/3 of the milk my son would drink over a given period) and the pumping was a hassle. If you're pumping, you're already dealing with bottles, sterilizing, etc. that go along with formula, so formula doesn't seem much harder. Plus, once you're back to work, you can't 'nap when the baby naps' - you have to act like you're functioning even during growth spurts when the baby is nursing every hour and a half all night long. You can't ask your partner to do a night feed if you can't pump enough milk to begin with, and those night feeds are critical for supply anyway. Since I was already worried about supply, I didn't want to give up night feeds, but I never was able to learn to sleep while nursing or nurse lying down, and boy was it grueling. It was definitely easier to bf in some situations. We had an ice storm last December and it was great not to have to worry about sterilization of bottles during that week. It was also great during Sam's two bouts with stomach flu. I'm glad I stuck with it, and even though Sam is now weaned at 10+ months I think it was worth it. However, I would not say overall that breastfeeding was clearly easier. Better, yes, but that's a different issue. Beth Sam 8/16/2002 |
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Anyone planning ahead would have their reasons. They may be misinformed
or they may just have come to different conclusions than we have based on the same information. Either way, what's important is that they're doing what they think is best and what works best for their family all things considered. -- Suzanne http://cshardie.tripod.com sittin' on the dock of eBay, watching the bids roll away --Richard Powers, "Literary Devices" |
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"Lauren" wrote in message ... Just interested in opinions here on the point of planning to formula feed even before a baby is born (or perhaps even conceived). Unplanned pregnancies and exceptional circumstances aside, I can't help but wonder that if it is too much trouble for a parent to even plan to attempt to breastfeed (or perhaps even plan not to continue after the first couple of days breastfeeding) then maybe they either aren't ready or aren't suitable candidates for parenting. Am not sure yet if my own feelings change on this subject when the parent in question is under the impression that formula is 'almost as good'. Another question is, does your opinion change if there is pressure from family and friends not to breastfeed? One other thing, does anyone have any idea or sources of information that might give some kind of estimate as to how many women plan not to breastfeed and reasons given? As it can be a sensitive subject to some, I wish to point out that this isn't about parents who try to breastfeed and can't or have been told they can't or have problems breastfeeding etc. Just the idea of 'planning' not to breastfeed at all or past the first couple of days. Hope I haven't offended anyone, just interested in what other people think on the subject. I would hope that women who plan to ff are doing so due to a lack of information on the great benefits of bf. I believe that bf is a forgotten art and that education of it benefits would do a lot to change people's perspectives. A case in point: One of my good friends always used to describe bf as gross and bf babies as parasites. She told me that it was "OK" for me to bf my daughter for 1 year, but that more than that would be wrong (not that I pay that much mind). She had a phobia about babies in general and would shake if I asked her to hold DD for me while I went to the loo ... She has always also had a "thing" about her breasts as she thinks they are too small and *always* has something to say about my larger breasts. BUT all that has changed and I'm happy to say that she is bf her 3 week old DD and plans to continue. I'm happily being bored to tears with her endless gushing about her beautiful new DD's bf antics and her offers of teaching me how to bf whilst lying down (an art which I can do, but find incredibly uncomfortable due to my bust size). Part of the reason for her changed ideals is that I managed to slip her a few good books on the benefits of bf when she got pregnant and subtly encouraged her to attend an ABA course on bf whilst she was pg. ... and now we behold the changed woman who is the picture of bf motherhood and espouses the benefits to one and all. It brings a tear to my eye as I stifle laughter when I hear her repeating my own words of wisdom back to me. .... and for the record, I consider formula to be almost adequate rather than almost "as good". In my opinion its what you use to feed a baby when every attempt at bf has failed. Cheers Amanda |
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"Lauren" wrote in message ... I can't help but wonder that if it is too much trouble for a parent to even plan to attempt to breastfeed (or perhaps even plan not to continue after the first couple of days breastfeeding) then maybe they either aren't ready or aren't suitable candidates for parenting. Well, they are fighting hard to conserve their ignorance. I don't admire that quality in a parent at all, although far be it from me to say that someone is not a suitable candidate to be a parent. Sure they are parent material . . . just not very conscientious. Another question is, does your opinion change if there is pressure from family and friends not to breastfeed? No. Except when pressure to FF comes from the husband, because his cooperation really does make a big difference when one BFs. One other thing, does anyone have any idea or sources of information that might give some kind of estimate as to how many women plan not to breastfeed and reasons given? In the US it's roughly 50%, isn't it? Or even more? The majority of the reasons not to BF are pure horse****, imo. Including, quite often, feeling a sense of social or psychic discomfort at using one's breasts to feed a baby. I mean hello . . . you had sex and grunted out a baby after 9 months .. . . pretty damn graphic and suggestive compared to nursing, fer cryeye! Get over yourself! Hey . . . I had artificial insemination and then a c-section. Might be why I'm such a committed breastfeeder . . . I need to do *something earthy* ;-) As it can be a sensitive subject to some, I wish to point out that this isn't about parents who try to breastfeed and can't or have been told they can't or have problems breastfeeding etc. Just the idea of 'planning' not to breastfeed at all or past the first couple of days. Yes . . . I understand. I reserve my negative judgment for women who are able but will not. FF is such a lose/lose activity! Beth |
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"Lauren" writes:
Unplanned pregnancies and exceptional circumstances aside, I can't help but wonder that if it is too much trouble for a parent to even plan to attempt to breastfeed (or perhaps even plan not to continue after the first couple of days breastfeeding) then maybe they either aren't ready or aren't suitable candidates for parenting. It's like driving an SUV. Individually: not that risky. Most people I know are healthy and few of us got any breastmilk. Populationwise: greatly increases the risk of costly health problems. A very selfish decision. But it's a free universe. |
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