3rd pregnancy sooo much harder?!

Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and say hi
officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months pregnant with our
third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if anyone else in similar
circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has experienced the third pregnancy
being soooo much harder than the others?

Yes, I'm "older" as my OB lovingly reminds me every single time I see her
(!) I'm 36. And yes, it's been 3.5 years since I've been pregnant. The
first two are 21 months apart, and though neither pregnancy was exactly a
joy a minute, they were never this hard, either. My morning sickness (I
think) is over, finally, at 22 weeks. It was awful.

But the new thing is just the physical pain of my body! The belly aches,
the legs ache. If the phone rings and I'm sitting down, I really have to
think about is it worth it? before I actually stand up and walk over to get
the phone! I never really felt any of this kind of stuff till much further
along in my other pregnancies. I'm not overweight, and I've only gained 9
or 10 pounds so far.

Okay, enough complaining. I'm just so happy to have someone to vent to.
Lord knows husbands don't want to hear it!

Also, my 3 year old has Down syndrome, and is the greatest kid in the world.
I just wanted to put that out there for anyone who is afraid of this
diagnosis, etc. Yes, it seemed like the end of the world when we heard the
news at his birth, but that lasted only a few days. The joy he has given us
over the last 3 years is indescribable, and I would not change him for the
world...

Amy

Amy said:

But the new thing is just the physical pain of my body! The belly aches,
the legs ache. If the phone rings and I'm sitting down, I really have to
think about is it worth it? before I actually stand up and walk over to get
the phone! I never really felt any of this kind of stuff till much further
along in my other pregnancies. I'm not overweight, and I've only gained 9
or 10 pounds so far.

It's probably just that you are tired already from taking care of two little
ones. I have noticed that I have felt much better during this pregnancy and
the one before, because my other kids are older and take care of themselves, so
that I can nap and rest, whereas it was a lot harder when I had babies and was
pregnant at the same time.


Okay, enough complaining. I'm just so happy to have someone to vent to.
Lord knows husbands don't want to hear it!

Also, my 3 year old has Down syndrome, and is the greatest kid in the world.
I just wanted to put that out there for anyone who is afraid of this
diagnosis, etc. Yes, it seemed like the end of the world when we heard the
news at his birth, but that lasted only a few days. The joy he has given us
over the last 3 years is indescribable, and I would not change him for the
world...

That's wonderful, Amy. He's a lucky little boy, it sounds like.


Leslie

Emily (2/4/91)
Jake (1/27/94)
Teddy (2/15/95)
William (3/5/01 -- VBA3C, 13 lbs. 5 oz.)
and Lorelei, expected 11/2/04

"Children come trailing clouds of glory from God, which is their home."
~ William Wordsworth

aj wrote:

Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and say hi
officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months pregnant with our
third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if anyone else in similar
circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has experienced the third pregnancy
being soooo much harder than the others?

Yes, my third pregnancy was quite a bit harder than the
first two (my first two kids were 6 and 8 at the time, and I
was 37). I was sick as a dog the first half and in pain most
of the second half. My first two were boys and my third a girl
as well ;-) All was well in the end, but it wasn't particularly
pleasant getting there.

Best wishes,
Ericka

Ericka Kammerer wrote:
aj wrote:
Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and
say hi officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months
pregnant with our third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if
anyone else in similar circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has
experienced the third pregnancy being soooo much harder than the
others?

Yes, my third pregnancy was quite a bit harder than the
first two (my first two kids were 6 and 8 at the time, and I
was 37). I was sick as a dog the first half and in pain most
of the second half. My first two were boys and my third a girl
as well ;-) All was well in the end, but it wasn't particularly
pleasant getting there.

Since there's some research suggesting that excessive nausea during
pregnancy is more common when the mother is carrying a girl, I wonder if
it's not the gender of the baby rather than maternal age and/or having other
children that makes it harder, at least in some cases. I had my daughter
second, and I felt *much* worse during that pregnancy (especially in the
first trimester) than in either my first or third pregnancy (and I was 37
during my third pregnancy as well). I was never super sick or incapacited in
any of my pregnancies, but I'd certainly rate my girl pregnancy as the most
uncomfortable/unpleasant/physically difficult.
--
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Ericka Kammerer wrote:
aj wrote:
Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and
say hi officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months
pregnant with our third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if
anyone else in similar circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has
experienced the third pregnancy being soooo much harder than the
others?

Yes, my third pregnancy was quite a bit harder than the
first two (my first two kids were 6 and 8 at the time, and I
was 37). I was sick as a dog the first half and in pain most
of the second half. My first two were boys and my third a girl
as well ;-) All was well in the end, but it wasn't particularly
pleasant getting there.

Since there's some research suggesting that excessive nausea during
pregnancy is more common when the mother is carrying a girl, I wonder if
it's not the gender of the baby rather than maternal age and/or having other
children that makes it harder, at least in some cases. I had my daughter
second, and I felt *much* worse during that pregnancy (especially in the
first trimester) than in either my first or third pregnancy (and I was 37
during my third pregnancy as well). I was never super sick or incapacited in
any of my pregnancies, but I'd certainly rate my girl pregnancy as the most
uncomfortable/unpleasant/physically difficult.

I have to second that. When I was pregnant with my daughter I felt awful! I was
so sick throughout the whole pregnancy. I can remember saying that I never
wanted to be pregnant again. At the time I had a 2 year old DS and my Dr said
that was why I was feeling so sick and tired all the time, running after him.
The Dr also contributed it to my age. I was 36 when I was pg with her. With
this last pregnancy I was not as sick but was more physically uncomfortable. Of
course my sweet angel baby weighed 8 lbs 9 ozs at birth and my first 2 were 7
lbs 3 ozs each.

Suzie
Mama to Nathaniel 12/27/99, Maisy 7/04/02 & our newest addition Nash 11/03/04!
--
"I don't see much sense in that" said Rabbit.
"No," said Pooh humbly, "there isn't. But there was *going* to
be when I began it. It's just that something happened to it along
the way"

On Mon, 08 Nov 2004 16:55:38 +0000, aj wrote:

Hi Amy

My third child is 11 months old now. I also have a 5.5 yo and 3.5 yo, and
I am about to turn 37. I found my third pregnancy my most difficult, the
middle trimester that I really enjoyed with my first two pregnancies
seemed so much shorter and not as comfortable. The whole experience seemed
much harder on my body, the last time.

I hope your boys enjoy their baby sister when she arrives.

Larissa
DD feb 99
DS mar 01
DD2 dec 01

Yes. My third pregnancy was hard. I had two boys and the third was a girl.
But, the delivery was sooo easy and that made up for it!

Hang in there and congratulations on your pregnancy.

Warmly,
Kelly
#4 2/12/05

"aj" wrote in message
news:dyNjd.8297$V41.1285@attbi_s52...
Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and say hi
officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months pregnant with our
third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if anyone else in similar
circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has experienced the third pregnancy
being soooo much harder than the others?

Yes, I'm "older" as my OB lovingly reminds me every single time I see her
(!) I'm 36. And yes, it's been 3.5 years since I've been pregnant. The
first two are 21 months apart, and though neither pregnancy was exactly a
joy a minute, they were never this hard, either. My morning sickness (I
think) is over, finally, at 22 weeks. It was awful.

But the new thing is just the physical pain of my body! The belly aches,
the legs ache. If the phone rings and I'm sitting down, I really have to
think about is it worth it? before I actually stand up and walk over to
get
the phone! I never really felt any of this kind of stuff till much
further
along in my other pregnancies. I'm not overweight, and I've only gained 9
or 10 pounds so far.

Okay, enough complaining. I'm just so happy to have someone to vent to.
Lord knows husbands don't want to hear it!

Also, my 3 year old has Down syndrome, and is the greatest kid in the
world.
I just wanted to put that out there for anyone who is afraid of this
diagnosis, etc. Yes, it seemed like the end of the world when we heard
the
news at his birth, but that lasted only a few days. The joy he has given
us
over the last 3 years is indescribable, and I would not change him for the
world...

Amy

I was so sick when pregnant with Chloe that I ended up on TPN for several
months. Although I had been quesy with my second pregnancy, I'd consider it
normal pregnancy style as opposed to the experience I had with the third.
My thought has been that girl pregnancies have a propensity towards nausea.

Kelly

"Circe" wrote in message
news:24Rjd.90611$bk1.19929@fed1read05...
Ericka Kammerer wrote:
aj wrote:
Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and
say hi officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months
pregnant with our third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if
anyone else in similar circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has
experienced the third pregnancy being soooo much harder than the
others?

Yes, my third pregnancy was quite a bit harder than the
first two (my first two kids were 6 and 8 at the time, and I
was 37). I was sick as a dog the first half and in pain most
of the second half. My first two were boys and my third a girl
as well ;-) All was well in the end, but it wasn't particularly
pleasant getting there.

Since there's some research suggesting that excessive nausea during
pregnancy is more common when the mother is carrying a girl, I wonder if
it's not the gender of the baby rather than maternal age and/or having
other
children that makes it harder, at least in some cases. I had my daughter
second, and I felt *much* worse during that pregnancy (especially in the
first trimester) than in either my first or third pregnancy (and I was 37
during my third pregnancy as well). I was never super sick or incapacited
in
any of my pregnancies, but I'd certainly rate my girl pregnancy as the
most
uncomfortable/unpleasant/physically difficult.
--
Be well, Barbara
Mom to Sin (Vernon, 2), Misery (Aurora, 5), and the Rising Son (Julian, 7)

Tolerance, equality, and personal liberty *are* moral values!

All opinions expressed in this post are well-reasoned and insightful.
Needless to say, they are not those of my Internet Service Provider, its
other subscribers or lackeys. Anyone who says otherwise is itchin' for a
fight. -- with apologies to Michael Feldman

In dyNjd.8297$V41.1285@attbi_s52,
aj wrote:

*Hi guys. I've been lurking for awhile, but decided to jump in and say hi
*officially. I have two boys, 3 and 4, and I am 5 months pregnant with our
*third child (a girl!). I'm just wondering if anyone else in similar
*circumstances (two small kids, etc.) has experienced the third pregnancy
*being soooo much harder than the others?

I think this pregnancy is harder than the ones that resulted in my 4 yr
old and my 2 yr old, yes.

*Yes, I'm "older" as my OB lovingly reminds me every single time I see her
*(!) I'm 36. And yes, it's been 3.5 years since I've been pregnant. The

Well, I'm going to be 35 in February, and if my OB told me I'm "older" I'd
kick his ass. Maybe he knows that, though

*first two are 21 months apart, and though neither pregnancy was exactly a
*joy a minute, they were never this hard, either. My morning sickness (I
*think) is over, finally, at 22 weeks. It was awful.

Yes, I had extended MS this time, too. Bleah. In fact I still throw up
pretty easily. I never vomit when I'm not pregnant but just last week...
and I'm 30 weeks.

*But the new thing is just the physical pain of my body! The belly aches,
*the legs ache. If the phone rings and I'm sitting down, I really have to
*think about is it worth it? before I actually stand up and walk over to get
*the phone! I never really felt any of this kind of stuff till much further
*along in my other pregnancies. I'm not overweight, and I've only gained 9
*or 10 pounds so far.

Oh, totally. I have horrible back pain, pelvic pain, shortness of breath,
it's a wreck. I make sure I have EVERYTHING with me that I need for the
night when I go to put my daughter to bed because I am NOT going up and
down the staircase an extra time!! It hurts to walk across the room. I am
too tired to participate in my 2 yr old's Little Gym class. I take her and
I sit there and veg out while she runs around and does activities and
stuff. I think I am really annoying the teacher but whatever. It IS hard
for me, for whatever reason.



--
Hillary Israeli, VMD
Lafayette Hill/PA/USA/Earth
"Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it is
too dark to read." --Groucho Marx

"Circe" wrote in message news:24Rjd.90611$bk1.19929@fed1read05...

Since there's some research suggesting that excessive nausea during
pregnancy is more common when the mother is carrying a girl, I wonder if
it's not the gender of the baby rather than maternal age and/or having other
children that makes it harder, at least in some cases. I had my daughter
second, and I felt *much* worse during that pregnancy (especially in the
first trimester) than in either my first or third pregnancy (and I was 37
during my third pregnancy as well). I was never super sick or incapacited in
any of my pregnancies, but I'd certainly rate my girl pregnancy as the most
uncomfortable/unpleasant/physically difficult.
--


Both my pregnancies were girls, and I was sick (threw up) exactly once
with each pregnancy. Apart from those incidents I don't remember
feeling unwell at all. Just couldn't drink coffee; had to switch to
tea.

Maybe if I'd had a boy, I wouldn't have thrown up even once G ...

Grandma Katie
Mom to Barbara (Circe), Grandma to Julian, Aurora & Vernon