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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
Sophie wrote:
Wait till you announce #4 - you'd think you said #400. eyeroll We *messed things up* too - we had a girl and a boy then had another baby (boy). Wonder what we'll get next? A redhead. ;-) --Helen |
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
"H Schinske" wrote in message ... Sophie wrote: Wait till you announce #4 - you'd think you said #400. eyeroll We *messed things up* too - we had a girl and a boy then had another baby (boy). Wonder what we'll get next? A redhead. ;-) --Helen Lol - that'd be neat |
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
"Sophie" wrote in message ... Well, ever since Leah was born I find myself thinking that when I say their names (Elijah and Leah) that it seems like something is missing. When we go someplace or play together or do anything it seems like we're missing someone. And now obviously my DH thinks so, too. Amanda I absolutely know that feeling! As busy as I am with 3, and I can see why people stop there, I didn't feel done. When I picture our family, I picture 4 children. Always have. sigh I have one daughter, age 10. We're going to TTC starting in April. My husband is adamant that we will only have one more. I don't disagree with his reasoning, but feel pretty darn confident that there will be another child after that. No, I'm not going to sabotage, etc. I just have this feeling, you know? I don't know whether the third will be through birth or adoption or what, but I *know* that there will be a third child. I'm only a little bit psychic, sometimes, so who knows. But I just have this *feeling*. Heh. It just occured to me that that last time I had this feeling significantly it was about marrying my husband (we were engaged in 2002 and married this past spring)--he was still at the "I don't know if I want to commit" stage, and I just had this feeling like we were meant to be married, and talked him around. He's happy as a clam about it now, tells me so often. I'll say, "I'm glad we're married." He'll say, "I'm glad I thought of it. What a great idea I had." I just roll my eyes and agree with him. g So I don't stress too much about the kid thing. Jenrose |
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
"Irene" wrote in message om... ospam (AGreen1209) wrote in message ... You've got plenty of time to do some research...I'd recommend starting with the Dept of Labor website on FMLA. Good luck! Amy Thanks for the info - my employer pays a substantial part of my healthcare at this point, but there's a chance we'll be on DH's insurance by then, so that wouldn't matter - or I will just work for a week to avoid that, as you said. :-) You may also want to take into consideration how inconvenienced your employer may be if they are expecting you to come back, and they suddenly have to hire someone to replace you. My employer knows I'll be TTC next year--she asked me how much time I'd want off for the baby. I told her, "Well, I doubt I'll be working through my pregnancy and I know I won't be coming back after, except on a very part time basis." We sat down and worked out a plan--we'll start training someone in March to take over my job in June (yes, it's that complicated!). I'll quit in June. She said, "What if you aren't pregnant by then?" I said, "Well, I'll need to reduce my stress level, then, won't I?" Now my situation is complicated by several factors: 1. I have asthma and a clotting disorder. Sitting for long hours is out. Stress is out. I need to take care of myself and it will be a full-time job! 2. I work for a midwifery magazine. I realized that the closer I get to pregnancy, the more personally I take the stuff I'm reading. I don't plan on reading *anything* birth related once I'm pg. Not even newsgroups, if I can restrain myself...wry grin Why? Because I need to keep my head clear of "everyone else's stuff." While I'm pregnant, I don't want to argue with people about my care choices, I don't want to hear traumatic birth stories, and I really, really, really don't want to be reminded of all the things that can go wrong. I've been working in maternal health education for going on 10 years now, and I just *don't* need any more info. It's going to take my whole darn pregnancy to get my head into the right space, and I just don't feel like swimming upstream to get it there. KWIM? And working where I work, there are hard stories coming across my desk every day. I'm not even seeing a doc or midwife if I can help it, because there's nothing they can tell me that I want or really need to hear. No, I won't do heparin. No, my asthma isn't that bad. No, you can't use the doppler. No, I won't have the blood test. And no, absolutely not, I will NOT have them at my birth. *If* I get sick, yeah, I'll seek help. But by my way of thinking, the best way to keep from getting sick in the first place is to minimize my stress and minimize my exposure to both negative thinking and medical environments. I am an excellent judge of my health and my body. I have already started with great nutrition, great supplements, and will be exercising daily. Unless my asthma takes a nosedive or I break a leg, I am unlikely to need help. But arguing with people endlessly about these things is more likely to cause harm than good, so I won't. Reading endlessly about midwifery care is not going to help. Reading other people's birth stories will get me too focused on the "What if?" side of things. 3. My job is incredibly complex. I do graphic design, writing, new product management, forum management, photography. My replacement won't do all of those things, but they will have to learn our rather arcane file structures, a very new layout program, and they'll have to get familiar with our 2000+ photo stock library, as well as our publication schedules, needs, design, etc. I just don't feel like I'm going to be able to train someone whilst pg. I couldn't add two plus two when I was pg with my daughter--I loved calculus in high school, but all the blood in my uterus must have come from the math centers in my brain.... Anyway, I'm neither patient nor particularly bright when I'm pregnant, and since one of my other responsibilities has always been training everyone new to the company, I'd rather do it when I've still got my wits about me. Oh, other job responsibilities I've had include minor tech support and equipment maintenance, phone sales expert, etc... I've been here 7 years and it just goes on and on and I suspect it will take *years* for me to thoroughly leave the company, but the least I can do is pull back to 5 hours a week or less while pregnant. I just can't imagine them relying on me while I'm pregnant *or* trying to bring someone up to speed while I'm spending every other minute in the bathroom saluting the porcelain goddess. Yeah, it may be different. I may feel great, brilliant, etc... in which case I want to be able to really *enjoy* my pregnancy. And especially enjoy my birth. And REALLY enjoy my baby. The reason my kids will be 11-12 years apart is because I waited until I found the right man and the right living situation where I *could* do this my way. I spent my entire pregnancy with my daughter in constant fear. I won't do that this time. Jenrose |
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
You may also want to take into consideration how inconvenienced your
employer may be if they are expecting you to come back, and they suddenly have to hire someone to replace you. Well, with the other two kids, they asked me while I was pg if I was coming back - I wouldn't be anything but honest with them. Also, it's unskilled blue collar warehouse work, so replacing me wouldn't be all that difficult :-) Amanda |
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We'll be going for #3 in 2005 :-)
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